"Simultaneous multiple orgasms are nice, but they're rare, so let's take turns," I say.
"Sounds like fun," she replies.
"And once I come, unless I'm super aroused, I'll get soft, so you go first," I suggest.
"I'm ready!" she says.
"Would you like to be on top?" I ask, having learned that many women can best control their coming if they are in control of their stimulation. Though I have met women that like a man (me) to be in control, because "being taken" stimulates their fantasies.
After she comes we turn over, so she is beneath me. Then I like her to spread her legs wide as a sign of submission and availability. But when I get ready to come I close her legs, put mine outside hers, and squeeze her legs with mine, which causes her to grip me tightly inside her. This causes me to come big time. Yum!
"More concealed is more revealed," I always say. It doesn't make sense literally, but it sounds like what you're talking about. Another way to say it is "Teasing builds arousal."
Teasing is where it's at, at least for starters.
Sure. easier to get laid.
As someone else wrote, what word to use for female (or male) anatomy depends on context.
Firstly, vagina is an internal organ, and pussy connotes more the external female genitalia, though the definition of pussy is not exact, and it can be used with great latitude.
If, in a story, a narrator is speaking, then I use proper English. A narrator does not directly express emotion, so vagina, vulva, and labia are preferred. However, pussy, though I am not altogether a fan of the word, has become ubiquitous, so, as I said, it can be used with great latitude.
If a man is talking to his wife of then pussy or cunt is not appropriate. Vagina or vulva is preferable.
If a modern young woman is talking to another modern young woman then pussy might be okay. Cunt would not be okay.
If a man is talking about a woman who he is angry with, such as a woman who strung him along and didn't come across, he might say something about what he'd like to do to her cunt.
Pussy connotes something soft, furry, and cuddly, so it might be used as a term of endearment, such as, "I love your pussy... I mean, I love all of you, but..." It wouldn't sound as good to say, "I love your vulva" or "vagina" or "cunt."
Terms like nether lips or secret garden are crap and should not be used, though I have used feminine core as in, "Her legs spread, and he could see deep into her dark wet feminine core.
Be imaginative, but don't slip into purple prose, and make sure the tone of the terms you choose fit the feelings of the context within which you place them.
About thirty percent of men have or have had a problem with premature ejaculation. It's quite common--a vagina just feels so great it milks the cum right out of us. I suppose at one time that might have been an evolutionary advantage--the baby would be his--but it doesn't say much for a woman's right to choose.
A much smaller percentage of men, and women too, have the opposite problem. They can't orgasm with a partner though they can with themselves. This problem is usually psychological.
I've had this later problem, and it's more a benefit than a problem. If I take the time to develop a relationship it's not an issue, but for casual sex it can be. I am pleased that I have to get to know a woman before I can successfully have complete sex with her.
On the positive side, even when I know a woman well I can have sex for a very long time until I'm ready to come and then do so, though if I wait too long, like more than forty-five minutes, I may lose my arousal (what goes on in my brain, not my penis) and even though I remain hard I may not be able to come. When I masturbate I usually play around for thirty minutes before I come. So, on average, my condition turns out to be more of an advantage than a hindrance.
There are resources on the web that make suggestions about what a man can do to help with premature ejaculation, mostly various methods of distraction.
Another technique is to have him play with you for as long as you like and then, when you tell him to, to put his penis in you.
You should get a vibrator, and your partner should try not to be offended. No one is at fault. You're both just trying to feel good in whatever ways turn you on.
Respectfully,
Matthew
Masters and Johnson, in their book Heterosexuality, state that on average men and women like sex equally, but how much one likes sex varies greatly among individuals.
There are many people, men and women, who are not very horny most of the time. That may seem odd to one who is always aroused, but I'm sure you can think of some men and women you know who just don't seem that interested in sex.
Some women need to have sex every day or more often, either with a partner or with themselves. Some women are only turned on by candlelight, wine, romance, talking, touching, and lots of foreplay, and many men don't have the patience for that or the skill to pull it off. Pulling themselves off is so much easier.
I don't care for the idea. I've never done it and don't find the idea appealing.
On the other hand, pun intended, offer me a vagina, and I'll happily play in it all day long and far into the night.
You're cute, but your body may not fit our society's idea of perfection. there are a couple of ways of looking at that. One is that none of us are perfect specimens of beauty. The other is that we are all beautiful in our own ways.
My grandfather used to say: there's an article for every customer and a customer for every article.
I say: we all have to play the hand we're dealt, so play as good a game as you can and try to have fun at it.
And once again, you're cute. You have a pretty face and a great smile. I'm a small, thin man, and I think we'd look great together.
Love,
Matthew
I recently embellished a story at LushStories. I did it by writing my embellishment in MS Word, doing a Ctrl-A in word to select all my text, doing a Ctrl-C to copy all my text, and in the LushStories embellishment window doing a Ctrl-V to paste in my text.
Everything looked good--there were blank lines between paragraphs--until I clicked the Embellish button to upload my embellishment. Then, all my double carriage returns that separated paragraphs disappeared, and all my sentences, regardless of which paragraphs they were in, ran together.
This is strange, because I submitted one story to LushStories, I believe I did it the way I described, and my paragraph formatting was retained.
I opened my Word file in a binary editor and saw that each paragraph was indeed separated by two carriage return characters (Hex 0D). If anyone has had this problem and solved it please let me know what you did. I sent a note to Help-Contact Us, but I did not receive a response.
Matt
Hi Irishmik60,
The responses of some users may be confusing. When they write "two spaces" they do not mean hit the space key twice. They mean hit the Enter key twice, as some users do note. Hitting the Enter key twice will put a blank line between your paragraphs and make your paragraphs easier to read.
False. That may be your intention, but you're far too horny to carry through on it.
Men want to have sex to feel loved. Women want to feel loved to have sex.