Ignore. Accidental double-post.
It's true it's fetishy, isn't it. After this post I knew there was some strange...alternative reason I'd written it. I was meditating on something from a novella I'm reading when it finally hit me: I miss being with a really feminine woman.
Perhaps I've been a bachelor for too long this time. You see, Men, while not unhygienic, usually cannot match the fairer sex when it comes to cleanliness and primping. The little extended rituals that happen in the bathroom when our woman gets ready for a date or for bed fascinate me. The careful preparation, the feminine and colorful underthings, the scented oils...it's as if some wonderful exotic species is living with us.
That's what I miss.
I think the best way to describe my ideal blowjob is to break down my favorite ones, blow by blow as it were:
-Start with taking hold of me in your hand, perhaps handjob me a bit first. A cool hand on my cock feels wonderful to start out with.
-Look at the head before you take me in your mouth. It feels like...you focus on it, and it fascinates you. Major turn on.
-Lick the slit. Way back when I had my first bj my girlfriend had started by jerking me off, and when I told her I was about to come she quickly went down and started tonguing the tip of my penis, tasting my pre-cum. That sent me over the edge with a vengeance.
-And right then, she took my head into her mouth and swallowed everything that came. She kept mouthing it for more even after I was done. I know some ladies don't like doing that, but damn it feels incredible. We can feel the muscles in your throat pulsing through our penis, swallowing what we give you. It's the most amazing sensation. It makes us feel like we're satisfying some hunger deep inside you...
Man. Just writing about these memories is getting my heart pumping.
Sweet Jeesuz I'm blind!!!
I've had it called my "Man", "Worm", and "Serpent".
Pinching and twisting..eh, I tend to steer clear. I've found it's better to perhaps flick them gently when she's getting close to orgasm, or gently push the areola between my fingers, not pinching but massaging it.
I'll have to go with c) Have an actual online chat with her.
In the past I've had the opportunity to chat a bit with a lady friend or two whom I've only known via photos, chat, and the occasional phone call. There's a certain delicate...frustration...that comes with being removed from someone you want to be intimate with. It actually made my erotic imagination truly soar for the first time, sort of forcing me to exercise both my libido and prose skills to make them work in concert.
The results I made happen on the other end were...interesting.
Lust is passion, naked and aggressive. It's when a single kiss from you as the two of you are going out the door to dance, turns into a night of passion in bed. It's when her hand on yours makes you hard and you take her in the car, the restroom, wherever is closest because you can't keep you hands off each other. Lust is when your member finds itself between her legs and your mouth mashed together night after night. It's when you call her when you need sex and know the two of you will be great at it.
Love is lust and so much more. It's when you walk down the street with her on your arm and you're proud she chose you. It's when you realize you've stopped looking at other women when they walk by no matter how distractingly hot they are. Love is when the sounds of her screaming in pleasure don't just feel like an achievement but make you happy you've made her happy. And love is thinking about how you'd react if she told you she was pregnant, and realizing it would make you the happiest man in the world.
I like intelligence in a woman very much. When she challenges my stance on an issue, I like to be able to defend myself yet still be forced to leave my comfort zone and think in order to do so.
Although I have known women who were intelligent yet very prickly about it, determined to be right and throwing errata and data at me until I submitted. And on the other hand I've encountered women who are fiercely intelligent yet their emotions are timid and require oh so much work to encourage.
So I can say intelligence isn't intimidating to me, however what sometimes comes with it can overwhelm me.
Eyes for me. They're truly the windows to the soul, what she's feeling and what's on her mind. Lips are the embodiment of sensuality but I can't say they're more important to me than a clear pair of yearning eyes.
Ideally, trimmed. Au natural may sound good, but it gets in the way a bit. All the way shaved is just reeelly creepy; it's like she hasn't gone through puberty or is some sort of mannequin. A lush verdent jungle is a primal need for me, but keeping the vines cut back so they don't get caught around your head isn't a bad idea. ;)
Curvy. It may seem shallow but I can't stand tissuepaper-over-pipecleaner feel of a very skinny woman. I feel like they're literally lacking in substance. A personality and mind that lies within such a body are always more important, but if you whittle the attributes down to just what a woman looks like, I am always a touch more attracted to an hourglass figure instead of a soda-straw lineage.
It's an interesting question.
I've had situations similar to that, and usually I'm very polite but leave it that. Sometimes the flirting can be a bit awkward, but to be honest I get a little bit of a thrill knowing I'm keeping them at arms length while they want more. ;)
I'm assuming you mean making the man come first, in which case I'll agree with carmen_has36: I prefer oral sex and cumming first so I can last longer inside her.
That makes sense, but what causes that wonderful oral fixation? I've both seen and experienced the tendency for a woman to hunger for something between her lips when the other pair is being fulfilled.
Ever since I read the post () which talked about women's opinions on being taken from behind, I started to wonder: what other cave-man-esque holdovers are there which women enjoy but not for any obvious reason?
There are a well-known few: pulling a woman's hair when you're behind her, giving her a solid smack on the ass also when you're behind, and her wanting to have something her mouth to suck on while having sex.
One that's very interesting (I've never tried it but heard a great deal about it) is her wanting to have her wrists held at the small of her back when you're behind her and she's lying down (I would LOVE to hear if anyone has a real preference for this one).
So what other primal and mysterious female desires could go on this list? And what's the opinion on the ones that are here?
