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LuvitAll
2 weeks ago
Bisexual Female, 59
0 miles · Akureyri
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Interesting this one. Had this discussion with various girlfriends many times. I’ve come down on the Yes side; for need or just for the thrill of the trade. I love sex, shared it with many men, so for free or money, it’s essentially the same. Kind of have already. I used to travel a lot for work and picked up guys in the hotel bars. Took a guy upstairs one night. When he left early in the morning. I roused but rolled over and slept on. When I got up there was a bundle of cash on the side table. I think he mistook me for a hooker cruising the lobby bar.
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I have a longish and quite thick dildo with a suction cup base. It has just the right balance of stiffness versus flex with a realistic firmness and feel. I can stick it to any smooth vertical surface and back onto it. I have a coffee table that I can stick it on the corner of, and drop onto it. Serves a dual purpose then of glutes and thighs workout while I ride the pleasure train.
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Hmmmm.....this is a serious one.
If you read my profile you'll see that I am a dedicated swinger and multi partner sexual person, so my response comes from that perspective.
Over the years I have encountered many couples in this and similar situations.The relationships that survive are those where both partners want the same thing and accept that from their partner.
The strongest relationships are those where a couple can share these things together. You are both trusting enough that you can have your partner go out on a date with someone else, knowing that they will come home to you, and you can go out on a date knowing that you will come home and love your partner even more for giving you that freedom. It has to be 'want' on both sides; and I don't mean sexual 'want' but the want of satisfaction and happiness for your partner. In return, your partner has to have the same feelings of wanting you to be happy and satisfied.
I'm not qualified as a counselor, just experienced from a couple of decades in the swinging and group sex lifestyle. I've seen relationships bust up through jealousy brought on from inequality of freedom for each partner. Similarly I've witnessed many that grew into inseparable bonds because both partners 'got it'. The strongest and happiest relationships I know are couples who share this and understand what it means.
From what you've written, it seems that you've been around the block with some FWB's and have no issue with that. I assume your partner has done the same and you have no issue with that. The test is if you can do it together. Can you watch your partner fuck someone else and be happy for them? Can he watch you fuck someone else and be happy for you? Until you know this, you will never progress to independent dating. Sitting at home wondering who he's with and what he's doing will likely tear you up. You have to know that he is fucking someone else; you've seen it before and you hope he's having fun. In the morning, he comes home, washes his dick, tells you what a great or dull time he's had and life goes on. Same for you. If you've been out and partied with two or three guys, come home dribbling cum and tell him about it, he has to be happy for you too.
My recommendation is for you both to go to a soft swing party or club where you live. Have a threesome both ways; an extra guy for you and then an extra girl for him. Be together in the moment; be involved. Hold his cock while he pushes into her. Have him fold your legs back when the guy penetrates you. Watch your partner while he is in pleasure with someone else and examine your feelings. If you are jealous and feel dead inside, then it's not for you. If you feel good about it and enjoy the freedom of pleasure you get from it, then explore it further.
From what I've seen, jumping into independent dating (let's be honest; fucking) without being comfortable in the shared sex experience, is a recipe for failure.
Hope this helps you on your journey.
If you read my profile you'll see that I am a dedicated swinger and multi partner sexual person, so my response comes from that perspective.
Over the years I have encountered many couples in this and similar situations.The relationships that survive are those where both partners want the same thing and accept that from their partner.
The strongest relationships are those where a couple can share these things together. You are both trusting enough that you can have your partner go out on a date with someone else, knowing that they will come home to you, and you can go out on a date knowing that you will come home and love your partner even more for giving you that freedom. It has to be 'want' on both sides; and I don't mean sexual 'want' but the want of satisfaction and happiness for your partner. In return, your partner has to have the same feelings of wanting you to be happy and satisfied.
I'm not qualified as a counselor, just experienced from a couple of decades in the swinging and group sex lifestyle. I've seen relationships bust up through jealousy brought on from inequality of freedom for each partner. Similarly I've witnessed many that grew into inseparable bonds because both partners 'got it'. The strongest and happiest relationships I know are couples who share this and understand what it means.
From what you've written, it seems that you've been around the block with some FWB's and have no issue with that. I assume your partner has done the same and you have no issue with that. The test is if you can do it together. Can you watch your partner fuck someone else and be happy for them? Can he watch you fuck someone else and be happy for you? Until you know this, you will never progress to independent dating. Sitting at home wondering who he's with and what he's doing will likely tear you up. You have to know that he is fucking someone else; you've seen it before and you hope he's having fun. In the morning, he comes home, washes his dick, tells you what a great or dull time he's had and life goes on. Same for you. If you've been out and partied with two or three guys, come home dribbling cum and tell him about it, he has to be happy for you too.
My recommendation is for you both to go to a soft swing party or club where you live. Have a threesome both ways; an extra guy for you and then an extra girl for him. Be together in the moment; be involved. Hold his cock while he pushes into her. Have him fold your legs back when the guy penetrates you. Watch your partner while he is in pleasure with someone else and examine your feelings. If you are jealous and feel dead inside, then it's not for you. If you feel good about it and enjoy the freedom of pleasure you get from it, then explore it further.
From what I've seen, jumping into independent dating (let's be honest; fucking) without being comfortable in the shared sex experience, is a recipe for failure.
Hope this helps you on your journey.
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Back out now.
The daughter will never accept you as a friend; you've been thrust upon her. She'll never recognize you as a step mother; you're the same age as her. She'll likely see you as a pan handling money grasper who is trying to do her out of her inheritance; which is highly likely.
He will have erectile disfunction within ten years needing pills to get it up to satisfy you. You will end up having affairs with men your own age to get some physical satisfaction. He'll find out and be devastated and want a divorce, whereupon you will get most of his assets and deny the daughter her rightful inheritance.
You'll also leave him in a lonely impoverished existence until he dies, dependent on the daughter whose inheritance you stole.
Do the decent thing and get back on the boat.
The daughter will never accept you as a friend; you've been thrust upon her. She'll never recognize you as a step mother; you're the same age as her. She'll likely see you as a pan handling money grasper who is trying to do her out of her inheritance; which is highly likely.
He will have erectile disfunction within ten years needing pills to get it up to satisfy you. You will end up having affairs with men your own age to get some physical satisfaction. He'll find out and be devastated and want a divorce, whereupon you will get most of his assets and deny the daughter her rightful inheritance.
You'll also leave him in a lonely impoverished existence until he dies, dependent on the daughter whose inheritance you stole.
Do the decent thing and get back on the boat.
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1. How often do you currently masturbate?Always have a play when I wake up in the morning. Just an idle pull on the flaps, a rub and a finger. Sometimes an orgasm if I need it; sometimes not. Usually give myself a good bash in the evening if I'm not having sex with someone.
2. What techniques do you normally use when masturbating? Fingers in the morning. Dildo, vibrator, bottle, or edge of furniture when I'm on it.
3. What toys if any do you use when masturbating? See 2.
4. How many orgasms do you achieve each time you masturbate? Depends how horny I am and how much time. Sometimes don't go all the way; just do it for the feeling. Can be up to 3 orgasms when I'm horny.
5. How long does it take you to achieve your first orgasm when masturbating? About 1 to 2 minutes if I really need it bad. Otherwise I stretch it out, slow down and then build again.
6. At what age did you first reach orgasm through masturbation (over 16 references only please)? Then I can't answer.
7. How did you first discover masturbation (over 16 references only please)? Exploring the good feelings happening 'down there'
8. Does your current partner know how often you masturbate? Yes; he's around most of the time I'm indulging.
9. When comparing the orgasms you have during masturbation and the orgasms achieved during partnered sex, which orgasms are stronger/more satisfying? 50/ 50. Sometimes stronger with a partner; sometimes not. Depends on who with and the scene going on.
10. Do you achieve orgasm more easily through masturbation or partnered sex?Masturbation because I know what I want to feel at any time.
11. Do you achieve multiple orgasm through masturbation or partnered sex?Both
12. Do you taste your own juices during/after masturbating?Yes. I think all women do. It starts from licking your fingers to get yourself lubed. Next thing you know, you're sucking your fingers clean.
2. What techniques do you normally use when masturbating? Fingers in the morning. Dildo, vibrator, bottle, or edge of furniture when I'm on it.
3. What toys if any do you use when masturbating? See 2.
4. How many orgasms do you achieve each time you masturbate? Depends how horny I am and how much time. Sometimes don't go all the way; just do it for the feeling. Can be up to 3 orgasms when I'm horny.
5. How long does it take you to achieve your first orgasm when masturbating? About 1 to 2 minutes if I really need it bad. Otherwise I stretch it out, slow down and then build again.
6. At what age did you first reach orgasm through masturbation (over 16 references only please)? Then I can't answer.
7. How did you first discover masturbation (over 16 references only please)? Exploring the good feelings happening 'down there'
8. Does your current partner know how often you masturbate? Yes; he's around most of the time I'm indulging.
9. When comparing the orgasms you have during masturbation and the orgasms achieved during partnered sex, which orgasms are stronger/more satisfying? 50/ 50. Sometimes stronger with a partner; sometimes not. Depends on who with and the scene going on.
10. Do you achieve orgasm more easily through masturbation or partnered sex?Masturbation because I know what I want to feel at any time.
11. Do you achieve multiple orgasm through masturbation or partnered sex?Both
12. Do you taste your own juices during/after masturbating?Yes. I think all women do. It starts from licking your fingers to get yourself lubed. Next thing you know, you're sucking your fingers clean.
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I’ve shared myself all of my sex life. Sex is so much more with more partners. I share myself. I don’t need to be shared. That implies ownership. I’ve made it clear to all my partners that I make myself available to whoever I want. It’s been a lot of fun. I don’t understand why people constrain themselves to one other person. It would be like only ever drinking water. Boring as.
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Anyone that has read / followed me knows I’ve had many men. Cocks into four digits. Twelve inches is a freakish rarity and it is too long. Bangs your cervix and ultimately hurts like hell without even being all the way in. Maybe some women can take it in, but I’ve never met one. The only time a really long penis is of value is when engaging in threesome or foursome sexual gymnastics where the man can get some in when he’s not really close to you. Women are just not physically built for twelve inches.
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When will you fix the mobile site so it doesn't freeze on iPad? It comes up as the default search result and I appreciate that it is uncluttered for easy reading, however it always either freezes up or annoyingly loses the text from the bottom of the page. I end up reverting to the full site.
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I'm an exhibitionist in my heart and I like riding the train too.
I love to watch all the guys jacking their cocks, waiting to get some.
Knowing I have so many hard young cocks that's gonna fuck me good,
and fill me full...oh yes of course...smiles
One of the most sexy things I could see is when a guy shoves his hard cock in my loose cunt,
and cum runs out from the previous donors, feeling warm cum between my ass cheeks...sooo yummy
Gets me wet thinking of it. Let the cream pie train keep rollin' all night long...giggles
But maybe that's just me?.......I know that isn't so.
Seien Sie süß und schauen Sie nie einen Geschenk-Hahn in den Mund,
greifen Sie ihn einfach, und saugen ihn in Ihr. ...giggles
You and me could run the railroads! Count me in. The queue starts on the left. I'll count by tens.
I love to watch all the guys jacking their cocks, waiting to get some.
Knowing I have so many hard young cocks that's gonna fuck me good,
and fill me full...oh yes of course...smiles
One of the most sexy things I could see is when a guy shoves his hard cock in my loose cunt,
and cum runs out from the previous donors, feeling warm cum between my ass cheeks...sooo yummy
Gets me wet thinking of it. Let the cream pie train keep rollin' all night long...giggles
But maybe that's just me?.......I know that isn't so.
Seien Sie süß und schauen Sie nie einen Geschenk-Hahn in den Mund,
greifen Sie ihn einfach, und saugen ihn in Ihr. ...giggles
You and me could run the railroads! Count me in. The queue starts on the left. I'll count by tens.