My first thought would be - did we fall into some kind of financial (?) trouble, and is there really no other way out? If he wants to share me for pleasure, then we probably did/do not understand each other enough. I get turned on from thinking about having to share him for his pleasure though - we've talked about it; he's not keen (been there, done that in past relationships) and think it's really just me finding some way to love him a little less. He's not half wrong, but I also don't think what I feel would diminish if that were to happen.

This one's interesting. Straight cis-female here; have oral-ed and been oral-ed on by both genders in my younger days.
From a sensations standpoint, my experience (which I'm sure isn't representative of the wider pop) is that a girl going down on me feels akin to a cat lapping milk, while a guy doing it feels like a dog lapping water. Force and suction can get more powerful with a man, but it's psychologically more mind-bending when a girl does it. It's all pleasure at the end of the day.

I'm curious if there is a difference, for any gay vs straight men, when a guy vs a girl does it for them?

It's gotta be either extreme - older and clearly a dirty pervert (both him and her) because the age gap is so pronounced; or older but with values and personalities (again, of both) that click and erase any semblance of an age difference.

Height and gait
Then, some semblance of personality

The anvil - intimate, deep, great for both.

Hooked by Nir Eyal
Got me wondering if successful, enduring relationships are built like habit-forming products too.

They have the bigger ego - stroke and indulge at your leisure.

We all have our slut phases, I'm sure - mine was both chemistry- and curiosity-driven. But even while mildly exploring, have always had the niggling feeling that 'this isn't it'. There was always this fundamental desire to please and serve just one, and to have that reciprocated. Might be an individual preference/realisation, rather than a general female thing.

Light moans, no words - might cry like I've just seen the light.

With a steady experienced partner, it's nice to know that he's sown his wild oats - and hopefully, you have too. So neither of us is under any pressure to fulfill any persisting sexual fantasies (you are each other's fantasy, if anything). Nothing in either of your pasts could or should compare to what you have in the here-and-now. It's all water under the bridge, and an interesting insight into the person they've become.

When someone demonstrates growth or development in their skillset - doesn't matter if it's public speaking, problem solving, or just playing the clarinet. If you've had a hand in that, even better.

Or, when someone is just genuinely enjoying whatever it is they're doing - working, training, having a shag...

Once you're at a minimum acceptable threshold (don't know how different this is for everyone?) any further increase shouldn't really matter.

Currently a combination of 1, 2, 3, 5 - mainly 2.
Enjoy borrowing social capital, and learning the ropes of career success.
But above all else, am inspired by character - money and willingness to share do not a strong character make.

The 48 Laws of Power
Not sure how to feel about this one - some bits inspiring and practical; others disgusting.

Female reader here.
Am into stories that either exploit or challenge the female psyche - and perhaps you can create subtly different ones based on the characters' lived experiences, cultural setting, etc. But even if a male author were to paint a stupendously horny female character for the sake of arousing himself, don't think it could go far wrong - we all like pleasing our partners at the end of the day.

In real life, do we need to have a reason to have sex?
Think so. However deep or superficial that reason may be - whether logical vs emotional, built up vs spontaneous - there is always provenance to desire and the eventual encounter. That just needs acknowledging, whether implicitly or explicitly. Just as it's hard to navigate this stuff in real life without context + chemistry, I'd more likely enjoy stories that allude to these.

In a paperback guide by Dr Ruth Westheimer; the few pages that described her female clients' sexual fantasies - very cringe, but obviously hadn't discovered proper erotica yet

Capt Jack Sparrow would be fun 🏴‍☠️

This is my only fear, that we become (hey)
Beautiful people

- Ed Sheeran

Characters I cannot picture/relate to on a deeper level.
But maybe one (wo)man's meat is another's poison?

The first 2 'Isolde x Adrian' novels by Scarlett St Clair blew my mind.
I've not read much erotica in a while, but this was masterful world-building.

Spoil her rotten, please!

Just waiting for someone to write the steamy story of (a) product manager(s) falling in lust.

Recently finished The Setup by Dan Bilzerian