I posted this in groups, but probably makes more sense to ask here...
So my wife and I have been together for about 4 years and pretty much the whole time we gave watched porn together. My wifes favourite is Czech gangbang and 50 guy creampie etc...
I have always used a dildo on her imitating a 3way but just before covid I started to get some more realistic ones and squirting dildos that she loves.
Since then our sex play has often turned into full blown gangbangs and again she absolutely loves it and now has multiple orgasms and has started squirting which is all really cool, I love seeing and listening to her get off. For example we'll use the squirter to stimulate getting cum all over and she'll rub it all in and completely act the part... very hot and causes her to go in complete bliss.
Now I would assume that the intensity of this fantasy would strongly suggest that she would want actually do it in real life, but the topic came up and she went a little weird on me for a day because I said I wouldn't be against it. Nothing changed sex wise and we still act out possibly even a little more ramped up.
A few weeks later, I filmed us together and eventually we've put it on some on adult sites and she loves the attention and response and when I tell her during sex that 100s of guys could be watching her right now she gets a little wild. She even suggested doing a fans onlyfans to make some money, which she let's me handle... Its all on hold right now, cause life is pretty crazy right now, but she's still keen.
The topic of a real life swing/gangbang came up again and during that she still seemed to be against it, but it also came out that she would have a problem with doing anything with girls. This got me a little upset as I would be fine with guys giving her all the attention she wants, but these things are generally a 2 way street... I think.
To be honest, I wouldn't be as interested if she wasn't joining me, It would be a bigger turn on to pleasure girls together for me. But I would definitely want to have some kind of contact with girls, especially during, if she's getting banged by a footy team or 2 lol.. Although I wouldn't want to go straight to the end game and start if slowly and I am patient. But I think she would forget about me unintentionally, she does it now and sometime doesn't touch me at all because she's so zoned out.. Again its pretty cool, because I know she's feeling things she's never felt before
That said, I'm not overly bothered if it doesn't happen. We have it pretty good and let each other do basically what we want and watch as much porn as we want as long as it doesn't affect our sex life together
Basically I'm wondering whether I should push gently as I know too well how missing opportunities can cause regret thats pretty hard to let go.... Or just let it go... Or could she be worried about opening Pandora's box and it become something she would want all the time... I’ve read a few times about that happening and I wouldn't want to do something big like that more than 1 or 2 times a year.