Olivia,
Welcome back but sorry to hear your “sabbatical” wasn’t that relaxing.
I have to admit that I was not aware of possibility #1, your observations have been very educational and I’ll certainly keep it mind if and when I encounter a similar situation again.
Not much to report except for a strangely rewarding FWB sort of situation. This sweet 50 year old has lived with extreme P.E. all his life, he even saw a doctor which prescribed a low dose antidepressant. He told me this ahead of time, which I thought was nice. I was surprised though that he didn’t even know what the PC muscle was. I have had experience with this issue so I asked him if he would like to work at improving his control. He was very open about it and I have to give him kudos for dramatically improving in just a few weeks! He literally went from lasting about 3 strokes to holding for about 8 minutes.
Wish more men were open like him!
Hope
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Olivia,
Thanks for your posts, I find your advice to be sound and practical and hope you have some words of wisdom to share with me.
I am in my 40’s and dating again. Most people tell me that I look young for my age and that I am sensual, attractive, and sweet. I live in a small College town and find it difficult to find many men my age, so I have been dating mostly 50+ year olds. I am trying to learn what is realistic, sexually-wise, when dating men in this age category as I have not been having the best of luck.
Most recently I meet a 52 year old man that looked healthy and certainly seemed interested in me but when we had our first night together, he was not able to achieve a full erection. I know that he did get fully hard earlier in the evening because I could feel him through his pants. I did not make a big deal out of it and dismissed it as too much to drink; plus life has taught me patience. The following day we tried again and after hours of foreplay he was not able to get an erection, nevertheless the evening was enjoyable in many other ways. I choose an afternoon “date” for our next encounter hoping to rule out tiredness and alcohol. During the third date, he almost achieved an erection but lost it quickly before we could use it although I used every single trick I could think off and was very engaged and fully participatory. At the end I asked him politely if he had ever considered using Viagra or at least having it around just in case. He said he didn’t need it, that it was just a matter of feeling comfortable with me, that he had always had this problem. He claims he can get an erection but he just hasn’t had sex with a woman in 2 years.
My question is: at what point do you decide if the issue is nervousness/lack of practice or a serious issue? I seem to be encountering either PE or an inability to achieve/keep and erection with the pool of men I have available for dating.
Thanks for your help.
Thanks for your posts, I find your advice to be sound and practical and hope you have some words of wisdom to share with me.
I am in my 40’s and dating again. Most people tell me that I look young for my age and that I am sensual, attractive, and sweet. I live in a small College town and find it difficult to find many men my age, so I have been dating mostly 50+ year olds. I am trying to learn what is realistic, sexually-wise, when dating men in this age category as I have not been having the best of luck.
Most recently I meet a 52 year old man that looked healthy and certainly seemed interested in me but when we had our first night together, he was not able to achieve a full erection. I know that he did get fully hard earlier in the evening because I could feel him through his pants. I did not make a big deal out of it and dismissed it as too much to drink; plus life has taught me patience. The following day we tried again and after hours of foreplay he was not able to get an erection, nevertheless the evening was enjoyable in many other ways. I choose an afternoon “date” for our next encounter hoping to rule out tiredness and alcohol. During the third date, he almost achieved an erection but lost it quickly before we could use it although I used every single trick I could think off and was very engaged and fully participatory. At the end I asked him politely if he had ever considered using Viagra or at least having it around just in case. He said he didn’t need it, that it was just a matter of feeling comfortable with me, that he had always had this problem. He claims he can get an erection but he just hasn’t had sex with a woman in 2 years.
My question is: at what point do you decide if the issue is nervousness/lack of practice or a serious issue? I seem to be encountering either PE or an inability to achieve/keep and erection with the pool of men I have available for dating.
Thanks for your help.