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Henry
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 55
0 miles · San Diego
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I think "once a cheat, always a cheat" is an extremely broad brush characterization of a very complex issue.
Perhaps there are many who might agree with such a characterization, however, I think both of you need to
examine why he cheats. Is there something he is unhappy about in your relationship? Is there something
that he is missing? Does he want a variety that he cannot get in a monogamous relationship? To say one chases
skirts suggests a reason: an inability to control ones sexual desires.
So he needs to examine why cheats. And if you love him and want to stay with him, you will also need to be
a part of that. I would, however, also consider the situation you describe. You said he was drunk when he
made that post. Alcohol can reduce one's inhibitions and allow an individual to do things they would not normally
do, correct? So if he makes such a post while drunk, I would think, is quite different than if he were sober.
So while it is quite understandable to be hurt by that, I think it's also important to keep in mind his state of mind.
However, talk about it. You both need to be talk about your relationship. I have heard that couples should meet
once a week and talk (for no more than a half hour) about the relationship.
Hope this helps.
Perhaps there are many who might agree with such a characterization, however, I think both of you need to
examine why he cheats. Is there something he is unhappy about in your relationship? Is there something
that he is missing? Does he want a variety that he cannot get in a monogamous relationship? To say one chases
skirts suggests a reason: an inability to control ones sexual desires.
So he needs to examine why cheats. And if you love him and want to stay with him, you will also need to be
a part of that. I would, however, also consider the situation you describe. You said he was drunk when he
made that post. Alcohol can reduce one's inhibitions and allow an individual to do things they would not normally
do, correct? So if he makes such a post while drunk, I would think, is quite different than if he were sober.
So while it is quite understandable to be hurt by that, I think it's also important to keep in mind his state of mind.
However, talk about it. You both need to be talk about your relationship. I have heard that couples should meet
once a week and talk (for no more than a half hour) about the relationship.
Hope this helps.
