Unfounded jealousy is a combination of greed and insecurity which can destroy a relationship at best, and worse, can lead to violence or even murder. It is a very negative emotion and serves no useful purpose. Greed makes you think of your mate as someone you own. Insecurity is the feeling that you may lose that object at any given moment. Better than jealousy is a firm set of rules in the relationship which must be adhered to religiously by all parties. Breaking the rules is like breaking any contract, it voids and ends the relationship. If you are secure in the fact that the other party/parties will be true to their word, there is no need to feel like you have ownership of another person, and that relieves you of any threat to you whatever. Sure, you might find out somewhere down the road your partner hasn't followed the rules, and it's time to end the relationship, or change the rules, but think how many stress-free years you will enjoy up until that point, if it ever happens at all.
When I was 12, I was sexually abused by an 18 year old boy, twice my size. We didn't go 'all the way,' but it became uninteresting to me and I wanted to stop the fooling around. He wouldn't stop so I threatened to tell my parents. He responded by threatening to beat me up if I did. I tolerated his 'attention' for about a year until I finally flew off the handle at him which finally made him leave me alone. While I had a bad taste in my mouth (no pun intended) about gays, I still found a certain amount of sexual activity acceptable later on in life when I started swinging. I've engaged in fellatio, giving and receiving, and anal sex, giving and receiving, but not very much. I was curious about it, but found it not that much fun. I haven't done that in many, many years and have no desire now to ever do it again. Am I homophobic? -You betcha! -not because I'm afraid to try it, but because some of us just can't overcome the YUK factor.
If I were looking for a wife or girlfriend, that is what I'd want to have, not a mother hen. I would welcome her opinion on the clothes I wear, and at least consider her suggestions, but would not tolerate her dictation as to what I was going to wear, though I can't imagine a woman being that bossy.
If a woman wants to use lube for her toys, it should be allowable by her mate. Marriage, or any relationship of that nature, is not a 50/50 deal... it's a 100%/100% deal, or it will not work. Both partners must be willing to put 100% effort into maintaining the relationship. If a man expects a woman to please him, which she must be willing to do, then the man must be willing to give his woman what she wants and needs to please her. You should be willing to give your mate sufficient time to see things the way you see them, which requires plenty of communication, or else the inevitable option is looming over you. A good, healthy relationship requires some concessions from all parties concerned. I hope I haven't rambled too much.
I have never done that to a woman. Personally, I think the only place that is done is in porno films, they are always out for the spectacular for the shock value. Truly erotic sex is never done in porn. Anyone who turns to porn for examples of good sex is one misguided individual.
I've never had the desire or even interest for anal sex. I had the opportunity once but declined it. Sorry, an anus is not a sexual organ.
Girl says: "I won't marry you unless you have a 9" cock."
Guy says: "Forget it then! I'm not cutting off three inches for anybody."
I would prefer a three-way with a couple.
