When I had a dom and domme, and after it all went extremely wrong, a friend of mine who has been on the scene for 30+ years took me to a house party and introduced me to a couple who I then spent the rest of the night submitting to, all consensual obviously, they asked me firs, and proved to me I was safe. That was well over a year ago now, and was the last time I actively was.on the scene as the only people I trusted moved away