Omg I feel terrible adding to this two years later however I've just joined (sorry folks I forgot about Lush for 25 years or so then I remembered) but I'm sure many of you will know me from Lit or ASS usenet or even Rusty's BBS back in the day ...

I do feel authors have some responsibility but only if their story is so very good and realistic...

I need to give an example here ...I have been reading a rather fabulous tale here called Glamour Girl by Stormdog and its pretty good and seems very realistic but anyone reading this story and thinking that here is the blueprint for responsible non monogamy is heading for major trouble because the actual real true communication between the main protagonists is very poor and damaging. What's worse is it's like that almost from the very beginning and it does not get better (at least by Chapter 22 it doesn't). However the tale is so good and the couple so appealing and realistic that anyone reading this and thinking about enacting non-monogamy in their life would find the idea very appealing. And there lies the danger and responsibility.

As fiction this is fabulous, as any sort of guide its simply terrible.

If it was shit and didn't seem so damn appealing and realistic it wouldn't be any kind of issue but I think it flies pretty close which is I suppose about as high a compliment as an author can get from another on one hand.