That depends very much on which "ex" you're referring to. There are a few I would (OK, have) gladly had sex with after breaking up. But you need to make sure you've both had enough time away for it not to get all ugly and complicated...with one wanting more out of it than the other.
Sex with someone you still care a lot about is always (imho) way better than casual sex with someone who has no notion of what pleases you...and of whose needs you are similarly ignorant.
That having been said, there are one or two, esp my ex husband whom I would not want to have a coffee with, let alone a sexual tryst.
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Quote by Locksley
Anyone consider that she might be a fake trying to get attention? The entire scenario reads like a setup to a lush " " story...
Add that to her answer on the "would you watch your mate masturbate" topic and the sexy (and barely legal if we believe her age/sex) profile pic.
I smell a troll or at least a guy...
Just my two cents...
^^^My thoughts exactly as I began to read the OP.
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Four nuns are killed and arrive at the Gates of Heaven. They line up in front of St Peter.
The first nun says “St Peter, I once saw a man’s penis. May I still enter?”
St Peter replies “Wash your eyes in this font of holy water and proceed.”
The second nun says “St Peter, I once touched a man’s penis. May I still enter?”
St Peter replies “Wash your hands in this font of holy water and proceed.”
St Peter suddenly notices a scuffle between the last two nuns. The fourth nun is trying to cut in front of the third nun. “What is going on?” he asks the fourth nun.
“I’m trying to go first so I can wash my mouth out before she sticks her arse in the font”.
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Months...two at least.
I had an "incident" when a friend I have had for years and finally agreed to fall into bed with (lots of gin and lonely is a bad cocktail, innit?) He did something quite creepy afterwards.
Not scary-creepy just weird and freak me out creepy. And it wouldnt have been creepy at all, just annoying and mildly humorous, except he was supposed to be a friend, not a stalker, you know?
Been a bit gun shy ever since.
I had an "incident" when a friend I have had for years and finally agreed to fall into bed with (lots of gin and lonely is a bad cocktail, innit?) He did something quite creepy afterwards.
Not scary-creepy just weird and freak me out creepy. And it wouldnt have been creepy at all, just annoying and mildly humorous, except he was supposed to be a friend, not a stalker, you know?
Been a bit gun shy ever since.
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Yoga and walking and swimming...lots of green leafy things to eat...something of every colour on my plate at as many meals as I can manage...and lots of water
Oh olive oil, nuts and oily fish...salmon, tuna sardines etc.
And a bit of red meat occasionally...and lots of sex..
Oh olive oil, nuts and oily fish...salmon, tuna sardines etc.
And a bit of red meat occasionally...and lots of sex..
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I was surprised at how bright and erudite most users seem. How the majority of posters are competent users of their native tongue. The amount of intelligent political and social comments. The great YouTube and picture threads that actually entertain, the wit and camaraderie that a lot of the more experienced posters display when interacting with one another...
You got cool Mods too btw.
I am not used to this...I thought at first I had stumbled upon some parallel universe type of internet community....where everything is the opposite of what it has been in my Universe of , pd,fb, trolling YouTube comments and fluffy wiccan message forums.
I like it here.
You got cool Mods too btw.
I am not used to this...I thought at first I had stumbled upon some parallel universe type of internet community....where everything is the opposite of what it has been in my Universe of , pd,fb, trolling YouTube comments and fluffy wiccan message forums.
I like it here.
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I am home schooling my dyslexic 14 year old son. I used to be a literacy teacher. I have run homework help centres, taught Harm Minimisation in Needle Exchanges, Prisons, Juvenile Justice Centres and at the Sydney Gender Centre and let me tell you......he''s the most challenging student I have ever had. If you could Matriculate in YouTube though, he'd be a fecking Rhodes Scholar.
For money, I work from home mostly, for a boutique wine merchant. I have a list of well heeled clients and I flog them pricey booze. They refer me to their similarly well heeled friends and I flog them some more of the same. Assuring all of them they're getting the best possible deal.
There's about a 600% mark up on what we pay for it under an excise subsidy and what we pass it on to them at...but what the fuck...they're all lawyers, bankers and stockbrokers. It's about time I started stealing from them. One of my clients just offered me a job actually in Brisbane. He's a head hunter and said he wants me in Client Services. He said I was the best Customer Liaison person he had ever dealt with.
Pity it's 800km away from home...the commute would be a right bastard.
**looks up**
Everyone who works at Aldi is lovely. Woolworths checkout chicks/chaps are surly and at Coles they're often none too bright. But the kids at Aldi are great. They tell me the pay id pretty good and that unlike the big retailers, they're allowed to have piercings, tatts and spacers too.
For money, I work from home mostly, for a boutique wine merchant. I have a list of well heeled clients and I flog them pricey booze. They refer me to their similarly well heeled friends and I flog them some more of the same. Assuring all of them they're getting the best possible deal.
There's about a 600% mark up on what we pay for it under an excise subsidy and what we pass it on to them at...but what the fuck...they're all lawyers, bankers and stockbrokers. It's about time I started stealing from them. One of my clients just offered me a job actually in Brisbane. He's a head hunter and said he wants me in Client Services. He said I was the best Customer Liaison person he had ever dealt with.
Pity it's 800km away from home...the commute would be a right bastard.
**looks up**
Everyone who works at Aldi is lovely. Woolworths checkout chicks/chaps are surly and at Coles they're often none too bright. But the kids at Aldi are great. They tell me the pay id pretty good and that unlike the big retailers, they're allowed to have piercings, tatts and spacers too.
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I just remembered my all time favourite Winston Churchill quote regarding proper English usage. In reference to the commonplace but technically incorrect practice of ending a sentence with a preposition he said:
"That is the kind of pedantic nitpicking, up with which I will not put."
"That is the kind of pedantic nitpicking, up with which I will not put."
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I think men have a lot more trouble organising this sort of thing than women do. One of the more convenient aspects of being a woman is that as long as you're not actually hideously deformed, grossly obese or in some way obviously psychotic, most men react fairly positively to a simple inquiry like
"So...do you fancy a fuck then love?"
Men might need to buy drinks and talk and stuff first. Be charming and funny. And invite you back for the euphemistic coffee or nightcap. And they get a lot more knockbacks, even then. So difficult for you all, innit?
"So...do you fancy a fuck then love?"
Men might need to buy drinks and talk and stuff first. Be charming and funny. And invite you back for the euphemistic coffee or nightcap. And they get a lot more knockbacks, even then. So difficult for you all, innit?
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I'm re-reading Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman. Two heroes of fantasy writing from opposite sides of The Pond. This is the new, second edition (My First Edition fell apart from over use about 4 years ago)
Brilliant swings are taken at religion, Armageddon and the pitfalls of using magick in everyday life. Central to the story is the chase for a great book of Prophecies. the only accurate book of prophecies ever written. In 1642 by an eccentric named Agnes Nutter, Witch.
There's a devil's minion, an archangel, an order of Satanic nuns, a hound from hell and of course, the devil incarnate has to make a showing...but not in the way that had been planned.
They're geniuses, both of those writers. Together they are sublime. The new introduction is so side splittingly funny that I advise you not to read it on public transport, unless you can cope easily with like looking like a total nutter, guffawing away to yourself in the bus shelter.
Brilliant swings are taken at religion, Armageddon and the pitfalls of using magick in everyday life. Central to the story is the chase for a great book of Prophecies. the only accurate book of prophecies ever written. In 1642 by an eccentric named Agnes Nutter, Witch.
There's a devil's minion, an archangel, an order of Satanic nuns, a hound from hell and of course, the devil incarnate has to make a showing...but not in the way that had been planned.
They're geniuses, both of those writers. Together they are sublime. The new introduction is so side splittingly funny that I advise you not to read it on public transport, unless you can cope easily with like looking like a total nutter, guffawing away to yourself in the bus shelter.
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Quote by GallagherWitt
GAWD that stuff drives me nuts. >.< Sex is an enormous part of the human condition, and acting like we shouldn't write about it is absurd. Especially when most of the people who spout all that crap have no problem at all with violence.
Case in point: I was 16 when Titanic came out, and a lot of parents were horrified about us going to see it because of the TEH BEWBAGE and the OMG BACKSEAT SCENE. No one batted an eye about Rose's fiance' smacking her across the face, a guy bouncing off the ship's prop, or, you know, dozens of people freezing to death in the Atlantic.
And don't even get me started on people who think smut is "well, it's okay, I guess", but are horrified -- HORRIFIED I SAY! -- about gay erotica. Nothing entertains me more than looking them right in the eye and asking, "Oh really? And just WHAT is wrong with two men having consensual, passionate sex?" Usually makes them stammer and stutter a bit...hehehe
Anyway.
/rant over
Great post, Morgan, as always.
Jack Nicholson once said "America is a strange country to make films in. If you cut off a woman's breast you get an M rating, but kiss it and you'll get an R."
I was disturbed by that Mr and Mrs Smith crap, in the scene where they beat the living shyte out of one another as a kind of foreplay. Giving young people a healthy view of human sexuality and adult relationships?
Well....maybe not.
EDIT: Not sure why that went in twice. Sorry for any confusion caused.
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Quote by GallagherWitt
GAWD that stuff drives me nuts. >.< Sex is an enormous part of the human condition, and acting like we shouldn't write about it is absurd. Especially when most of the people who spout all that crap have no problem at all with violence.
Case in point: I was 16 when Titanic came out, and a lot of parents were horrified about us going to see it because of the TEH BEWBAGE and the OMG BACKSEAT SCENE. No one batted an eye about Rose's fiance' smacking her across the face, a guy bouncing off the ship's prop, or, you know, dozens of people freezing to death in the Atlantic.
And don't even get me started on people who think smut is "well, it's okay, I guess", but are horrified -- HORRIFIED I SAY! -- about gay erotica. Nothing entertains me more than looking them right in the eye and asking, "Oh really? And just WHAT is wrong with two men having consensual, passionate sex?" Usually makes them stammer and stutter a bit...hehehe
Anyway.
/rant over
Great post, Morgan, as always.
Jack Nicholson once said "America is a strange country to make films in. If you cut off a woman's breast you get an M rating, but kiss it and you'll get an R."
I was disturbed by that Mr and Mrs Smith crap, in the scene where they beat the living shyte out of one another as a kind of foreplay. Giving young people a healthy view of human sexuality and adult relationships?
Well....maybe not.
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I have issues with people who say "In one foul swoop" It is "In one fell swoop"...the metaphor being that of a raptor or other bird of prey diving on their quarry. the impression is meant to be of a quick, clean successful action, not a messy and underhand one, as "foul" implies.
It's also become commonplace here (Australia) for people so say "Supposably" rather than "Supposedly".
And you know you've got a right twat on the hook when they say "at the end of the day"
"At the end of the day" has no right version. It is like "Getting back into the zone" They are both phrases which have no place at all in sentient human communications.
I've also noticed that a lot of Americans, primarily from the Midwest I think, say "then" in place of "than". They will oftentimes even type "then" as in
"The Democratic party is better to poor people then the Republican Party is."
So they must really think that's the correct grammar to use. Here in Australia they have taken to taking the "t" out of 'Important" and replacing it with a "d". it is now more common to pronounce it incorrectly than correctly. because they keep hearing one another do it. I am such a language Nazi I know, but it sets my teeth on edge.
"It's really impordant that we compete on a global level" I actually heard one financial commentator say on the news a while back.
I would suggest it is very important for a highly paid television journalist to know how to speak properly, but apprently the Netwrok people don't agree with me.
Thank you for letting me vent that. They are things which have been bothering me a long time.
It's also become commonplace here (Australia) for people so say "Supposably" rather than "Supposedly".
And you know you've got a right twat on the hook when they say "at the end of the day"
"At the end of the day" has no right version. It is like "Getting back into the zone" They are both phrases which have no place at all in sentient human communications.
I've also noticed that a lot of Americans, primarily from the Midwest I think, say "then" in place of "than". They will oftentimes even type "then" as in
"The Democratic party is better to poor people then the Republican Party is."
So they must really think that's the correct grammar to use. Here in Australia they have taken to taking the "t" out of 'Important" and replacing it with a "d". it is now more common to pronounce it incorrectly than correctly. because they keep hearing one another do it. I am such a language Nazi I know, but it sets my teeth on edge.
"It's really impordant that we compete on a global level" I actually heard one financial commentator say on the news a while back.
I would suggest it is very important for a highly paid television journalist to know how to speak properly, but apprently the Netwrok people don't agree with me.
Thank you for letting me vent that. They are things which have been bothering me a long time.
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My demands of men are few it seems
When ranged beside this young girl's dreams
Of chivalry and derring do
Of Earthly riches, and hawtness too.
It's rare enough that perfection is found
Upon one small patch of masculine ground.
That those few who meet your high criteria
Are beset by females, who cling like wisteria
Wound round yon sturdy garden arbours
Hon, it's hard to find berths in such crowded harbours.
A less stellar man would fulfill my yearnings
One keen to amble down life's unmapped turnings
A fellow willing to share a laugh or three
(And to hit the bowl when he goes for a pee)
Though Priapic traits I do highly prize
In my time on this earth I have surmised
That a good few fellows tend to waver
In how often they require our sexual favours
Now if he should lose this most important of traits
I may well have a go on one of his mates.
ETA: I loved your male view btw....A fine devil's advocate or what? Can't equal it and will not humble myself trying.
When ranged beside this young girl's dreams
Of chivalry and derring do
Of Earthly riches, and hawtness too.
It's rare enough that perfection is found
Upon one small patch of masculine ground.
That those few who meet your high criteria
Are beset by females, who cling like wisteria
Wound round yon sturdy garden arbours
Hon, it's hard to find berths in such crowded harbours.
A less stellar man would fulfill my yearnings
One keen to amble down life's unmapped turnings
A fellow willing to share a laugh or three
(And to hit the bowl when he goes for a pee)
Though Priapic traits I do highly prize
In my time on this earth I have surmised
That a good few fellows tend to waver
In how often they require our sexual favours
Now if he should lose this most important of traits
I may well have a go on one of his mates.
ETA: I loved your male view btw....A fine devil's advocate or what? Can't equal it and will not humble myself trying.
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