Quote by Metilda
I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.

I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.

That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.

While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.

If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.

However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.

If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.