12 years ago, when we'd just moved to London and badly needed the money, my girlfriend suggested I should take some pictures of her for the 'Reader's Wives' section of a well-known top shelf magazine. So...we did it, and it earned us £150! She always had strong 'exhibitionist' tendencies, so the thought of knowing men were masturbating to her photos really turned her on. It didn't really do anything for me, but I know she loved it!
However, the actual photo session was a massive turn on for both of us. The second I put the camera down we both grabbed one another and had frantic, almost desperate sex :-)
What's Inside a Girl? - The Cramps
1. I've been in two bukkake videos, both of which can be found online
2. I once sucked off a paraplegic pre-op TS
3. I've been paid to 'appear' in a femdom DVD
4. I've only cum once in the past month
Switch, but more sub than dom. Still learning though...
From what I understand, this is very common for men in positions of power...but...is it the same for women too?
For example, I once slept with my team leader (there were seven of us in the team) at my old job in London, and she told me that her submissive tendencies had soared ever since she took the managerial position; in fact, she even occasionally fantasied about being tied up, used and abused by the rest of us in the team! She was pretty certain that having a job which involved ordering people about all day had directly affected her sexuality, in that she now wanted to be ordered about herself in bed.
Is this common among women in managerial or high-powered positions, I wonder? It would kind of make sense....
Being tied and teased...brought close to the edge but denied, again and again, until I'm begging...just begging.
A quick bit about me first:
I've only ever been in vanilla relationships before, but have always had kinky (almost exclusively sub) fantasies. I occasionally enjoyed a spanking or a strap-on in some of these relationships, but I've certainly never been in any relationship which could be considered properly sub-dom.
However, about a year ago, I went to a party and fell drunkenly into bed with an ex. Not a great move, normally, but...in the 9 months since we had split, she had 'discovered' her kinky side, and found she was 'switch'. So, not only did I get to live out a few proper sub fantasies that night, I also got to experiment with my (until that night, latent) dom side too. We saw each other a few times after that, but, as I had already handed in my notice at work and found a new job hundreds of miles away, we were unable to experiment further together (she was still very inexperienced as well at this point). However, our brief time experimenting together was enough for me to 'conclude' that I'm also switch, although more sub than dom.
I have only recently decided to further investigate the BDSM scene, and have started going to munches, and talking to others online on fetlife. My ex, however, threw herself straight into the scene, and has for the past 10 months been a submissive, in a relationship with a 'sadist' (her words). During this period, she tells me (we still email and message each other regularly) , her tastes have become much, much more outlandish/kinkier, and she has found herself pushing her limits well beyond what she ever thought would be possible.
So...on to my actual question.....
She insists that if/when I find myself in a BDSM relationship, my limits and tastes, both for giving and receiving pain, will change as much as hers have. I'm extremely unconvinced about this, as I can't ever imagine myself either submitting to or dishing out extremes of pain, but she remains confident that'll I'll drastically change, because 'nearly everyone does'. So....
Since your first forays into the BDSM world, how much have you changed? If you are a sub, can you now handle more pain and humiliation than you ever imagined? If you are a Dom/me, are you stricter or crueler than you ever fantasied you'd be? Or...have your tastes and limits only changed a small amount, or even stayed the same as when you first entered the scene?
I'm guessing that a few people will have stayed the same, a few will have changed beyond recognition, but the majority will be on a sliding scale somewhere in the middle. Could you tell me how much your tastes and limits have changed, and over what period of time it took them to do so? Thanks
Despite being in no way a 'breast man', I do seem to attract women with large breasts! This may be pure coincidence, it may be that they find a man who talks to their face and not their chest attractive?
Despite being in no way a 'breast man', I do seem to attract women with large breasts! This may be pure coincidence, it may be that they find a man who talks to their face and not their chest attractive?
I've always enjoyed taking a firm OTK hand spanking, but not until last year (in my late 30s) did I ever consider switching. However, after finding myself in bed with a very experienced Switch woman, who absolutely insisted on being spanked, I tentatively gave it a go, and....found it an unexpected but absolutely massive turn-on!
I'm constantly amazed at how people can suddenly unlock previously hidden parts on their sexuality at any age. I spent two decades being spanked (although never in a true D/S relationship, only once in a while in vanilla relationships to 'spice things up' occasionally lol), without ever realsing how much I'd love to be the dominant partner administering the punishment!
Have been on there for a few months now. While I've found it a great place to talk to and meet local people into 'the scene', the message boards and discussions can a get a bit much for my liking, and I find the Forum here to be much friendlier. A shame that I've only just discovered it really; I've been reading the stories on Lush for 6 or 7 years, but for some reason I never thought to venture into the forum until the other week!
Thanks. Come to think of it, I have myself read - and loved - books with the occasional scene that I really didn't like. One author I particularly like tends to write the occasional scene where women are initially unwillingly forced into certain acts - lesbian sex, spanking etc - but, of course, end up loving it. It's far too close to for my liking, but I do like the books, and I suppose enough people like those scenes for the writer to keep including them.
After months of meticulous planning, I'm finally ready to start work on my first book. However...one chapter contains a bukkake scene, which I'm really not sure about. One ex-girlfriend told me that although she'd never even contemplate it in reality, the fantasy was a real turn on for her. So...what do other women think? I'm hoping for the book to appeal to both men and women, but I'm worried that a bukkake scene would put a lot of women off. I really don't want to take it out, because although it's only one scene among many, it's pretty integral to the early plot, and an important, pivotal moment for two of the main characters and their relationship together.
However, if a bukkake scene is going to alienate a significant number, or even the vast majority of women, then it'll obviously have to go.
Any feedback on the subject would be much appreciated, even if it's a resounding "no, get rid of it!" from everyone! Although my ex certainly liked the outline of the scene when I showed it to her, I'm far from convinced that many other women would!
Yes to the first only. Sex with strangers is fine, but masturbation for me is a really private thing. But, because of that, I find masturbating in front a girlfriend (and watching her of course!) a really intimate and loving thing to do.
So, so hot! I can't believe some women are embarrassed about it!
Am I right in thinking women are much more likely to masturbate while reading stories or books, than while watching porn? I've known plenty or women who liked watching porn, but only 1 who would actually watch it on her own to masturbate.
