I have lingerie from naughty to nice, bought toys for him and I, tried bondage (he did not like tying me up, he said it made him feel "mean" and he did not want to be tied up as he didn't feel in control). Have tried different positions, places, romantic getaways from our busy parental life.
I am BORED in the bedroom big time.
He on the other hand thinks our sex life is good as it is on a regular basis.
The other problem is he is pretty quick and cannot seem to learn to hold off or control how quick the orgasm happens ( shortest 30 sec after penetration and normally about 3-5 minutes after penetration) which leaves me frusturated! He does try to make it up to me with foreplay, never oral after he has cum in me, but his attention span sucks as in his words "I am done and happy". We have even tried anal, and it felt good, but it was over before it even began. We have been together for 15 years and use to have a pretty good sex life before kids and life got in the way....any suggestions??