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Intimacy Behaviors

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As an author, I'm exploring intimacy.

What actions between partners are more intimate than others?

As an example, say in a wife sharing story, intercourse or oral sex might be ok, but kissing or holding hands might not.

Please share your ideas on intimacy and why. Thks

Merc (Ron)
Rainbow Warrior
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Hookers may tell you to never kiss a John... I dunno, maybe that's a myth. I think letting a guy fuck me in the ass is more intimate than anything else.
Nerdzilla
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I don't think it can be nailed down to just one act. Someone could cheat on their SO without actual intimacy and go home to their SO for real intimacy. It's all in the overall experience.

Possibly being new at something and experiencing that with someone will lend the most intimacy though, if you want an easy answer. :P
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If kissing or holding hands isn't intimate, you're not doing it right.

Intimacy isn't an act. It's a feeling of connection.

Don't believe everything that you read.

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See, for me, the intimacy comes with the emotional connection. Kissing, cuddling, and sex acts can be intimate acts or just physical pleasure. I wouldn't say my time with escorts has been especially intimate, even though I did things with them physically that my wife would never do/allow (e.g. oral). I enjoyed their company and found them to be nice people to spend time with, but I wasn't invested in them the way I am with a lover. The only exception was one that I shared some interests with so that we could cuddle and chat during and after the fun. I did start to feel a bit of connection with her though still not what I have felt with my wife when our relationship has been "on".
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peeing on someone or letting them pee on you is actually the height if intimacy. think about it and you'll see what i mean.

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peeing on someone or letting them pee on you is actually the height if intimacy. think about it and you'll see what i mean.


I suspect your golden-shower-is-intimacy position is your obstinate denial of incontinence.

Playful banter. Knowing someone well enough to know what brings a smile to their face, especially when they know the other needs one, is intimacy. Just don’t bring up tentacles. ? OMFG. If you do, she’ll never shut the fuck up.
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When I was in my teens and v. early twenties (I am in my late forties now), I thought letting a man go down on me was the most intimate thing we could do. It was weird, because I found it more intimate than having sex. I would let a guy fuck me but was squeamish about him licking my pussy. I overcame that pretty quickly after meeting a serious boyfriend. Now I wonder what I was so worried about.

In later adult life, I think letting a guy fist me is pretty damn intimate
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For me kissing has always been the most intimate act; sex in its various forms can be incredibly intimate but its always been kissing for me.
Saucy Little Minx ♥️
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I agree with LYFBUZ being in a mans arms kissing is extremely intimate for me and is one of my favorite things to do especially that first kiss mmm
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I think letting a guy fuck me in the ass is more intimate than anything else.


I agree with Beffer. Most intimate thing I've done is let a guy take my anal virginity and my boyfriend and now husband to continue to fuck me in the ass. They are the only two men that I've ever shared my ass with.
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Intimacy is not just fucking not in my opinion anyway. To me intimacy is all areally trying tobout having a connection with that special person that we value respect and love above all else.It is about feeling comfortable with each other and being good listeners and really paying attension and understanding what the other person in a loving relationship is trying to say to us.Also sometimes it is not just about what is being said but also what is not said.Holding hands-Kissing- looking at each other while we speak -opening up about what we are feeling is so very important.These things are important in any loving relationship.When and as we get to know each other better then we can move on to a more deeper and gradually move our relationship further into a physical and sexual bond which is special and precious. To me this is when love begins and we say we are making love and not just fucking.
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Needn't be sexual.

The action of an MLB home plate umpire setting his hand on the back of the catcher to steady himself before a pitch is intimacy.
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Just concluding a long divorce process to an even longer marriage, I agree that intimacy is all about the trust and connection/communication. When that breaks down, pretty much hope is lost. With trust and communication, there can be true intimacy, whether it be the umpire behind home plate, Sprite’s golden shower fun, Befffer’s/Meagananne’s anal adventures, or just the kissing and hand holding. You have to know the connection is there for it to mean anything.

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I think really close tongues is beautifully intimate. I've always thought, since teens that there's something wonderfully intimate about golden shower, though I know it's not to everyone's taste. I'm glad to find I'm not the only one though. To me what makes something really intimate isn't the thing itself so much as the tenderness.
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For me, spending time with the other person is intimacy. It's not always about sex, but sharing the moments, and just liking to spend time with them, touching and holding hands, the smell of their breath, the smell of their sweat .. it's addictive.
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Sharing a sadness with someone, crying with them, is more intimate for me than almost anything.
Chatterbox Blonde- Rumps Mystical Bartender
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To be vulnerable with someone is the most intimate thing I can think of.
Especially if that vulnerability makes it possible for them to either share back and strengthen the bond between you or hurt you in a way you won't forget.
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Intimacy to me is handholding, taking walks, stolen glances. Hugging and kissing are my favorite things to do as is cuddling, watching a movie or sports attraction on TV! The last thing I’d call intimate is someone fucking me in the ass! Hope he’d at least buy me dinner.
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Kissing, hand holding, pillow talk during post-coital cuddles. For me it also includes orgasms. I have had the worst sex with one night stands. Only those I've actually got to know on an emotional level do anything for me.


I could not agree more!! There has to be an emotional connection too, just as you say, at least for me.
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watching "cool runnings."