Knowing when to speak up and when not to is almost an art. From a personal perspective, I've been both right and wrong in both situations. You pays your money, you takes your chances.
I always speak what's on my mind. If people don't like it then they can go fuck themselves. I'm a very blunt person. If you ask me to speak the truth to you, I'll do it. Dr. Phil is a pansy compared to me.
Speak your mind. It keeps you from going nuts!
Discretion is the better part of valor ... or so it is said. I do both. The trick is when to understand the limits of scenarios to which decision you make. Most of the time people know where I stand. That said, I am also tactful and couch my meaning carefully.
Speak my mind tell it like it is it opens the air if someone doesn't like it too bad
Speak my mind.....perhaps a bit too much
I have always been the 'good' girl - the one that did what I was told, rarely spoke back, played all the roles that were expected of me and always wore a painted smile whilst doing it, I spoke when spoken to, remained steadfast polite and never rocked the boat regardless of anything.
Fucking torture! Thankfully I finally woke up and realized what a crock of shit that was and is. I think it is important to stay true to yourself and speak your mind even if others may not always see your point or be comfortable with your opinions. I agree that some people talk simply because they love the sound of their own voice or love to stir the pot but if you really have something to say, SAY IT!
One of the beautiful things I love about getting older is that I have low tolerance for bullshit anymore and have no issues with letting people know it. I'm also a woman with a brain and have my own opinions and I'm not afraid to share them. Of course, there is a good way to go about it and a not so good way and I always choose to be classy about speaking my mind but speak it I shall.
In England, I have often found a lot of people tend to keep a tight lip for fear of upsetting others on matters of opinion. Not always, but it is common.
I find that people from mainland Europe tend to speak their mind a bit more without fear of what other people think.
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You should speak your mind, but do so in a way that is polite, understanding of the other person's opinion, and kind-hearted. However, that is often more easier said than done. I have never been the type to bottle things up and while I try to be nice, I have been the asshole on more than one occasion.
This one has gotten me in trouble more than once. I usually speak my mind.
like they say, pick your battles. the insignificant stuff i disregard, it means nothing. but with important issues i speak up. i discuss in an effective non-threatening way. i want others to listen to me, hearing me is not enough
Most of the time,,, unfortunately, I speak my mind
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If I am at work, I keep my mouth shut as to not get me in trouble or get me fired. If I am outside of work around friends, or in a relationship, I speak my mind and say what I have to say. My friends know that if they don't want to hear what I have to say, don't ask my opinion.
I am the same way, I normally keep my mouth shut. But lately, I have been speaking my mind. Every person has a limit and I think you did what was right. If people don't like what you have to say it isn't your fault. You cannot please everyone. Keep your head up and don't let them bother you.
usually best when i keep my mouth shut, its been shown time and time again that nobody wants to hear or cares what i think......
i heard a saying years ago that sums it up
"that which doesn't leave the lips, doesn't come back to bit you on the ass"
i bottle it up
I usually speak, as I see the truth...not always right but some things just fly in the face of good common sense.
I typically bite my tongue and keep my mouth shut. I do speak up when need be but try to think it through and do so diplomatically. I have been pushed to my limits a time or two or even three and blew up but didn't really regret it. I warned the people to back off....their fault the didn't heed my warning. Fools. Haha
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You have to be able to do both. Some people are more conservative then others and we should respect that.
I feel that I got to do both. The real issue is when to speak and when not. If I never do speak my mind I find to have and keep lots of friends and acquaintances, at a price.
If I do.. ahhh I might lose some, so I got to weight the issue versus the human.
I try to remember that when the word is out.. is out
When you find a simple way to handle this.. please let me know.
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Life is simple; we are what we eat and what we read. Talk is superfluous.
I tend to speak my mind very clearly. It actually is hard for me to bite my tongue and not say anything. It's something I'm still learning.
I do believe that "a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie" but there are times when you have to modify that. The problem comes in knowing when that is.
For kids I would NEVER quash an idea or attempt at something new. That can kill all of their drive to try new things. With mine I encouraged their independence and there were many screaming, toe to toe, go to hell fights around my house. Eventually every one off them learned that while the cop is standing there writing the ticket is ABSOLUTELY NOT the time to call them a pig.
For older people they live in a child's world some times and I treat them as such. I do not want to destroy whatever they have left of happiness in their life. That would make me not like myself at all. Others too but also a pure judgement call.
Pretty much I'm capable of saying anything to anybody including any deity you can think of.
I control "ME" though, not my ego, so it's always a considered thing when I say anything. On here? You're all adults, you use your minds (some much better than others) so anything is possible.
Courtesy, consideration and kindness go a very long way in my world.
Besides, it's all just an opinion.
i have kept my mouth shut for years, but I am trying to speak my mind more and more.
People have kept things from me, and lied to me. I want to speak the truth as much as possible, tell them what I think
If I try to bottle things up or if I do it for too long it only hurts me. I have to find the right words though. I saw my father internalize and do that all his life and then explode and have heart problems and health issues because of it. It kills people. It is like letting life strangle you and doing nothing about it. It is a terrible place to be in. I have been on both sides of the fence. I fall somewhere in the middle though. I do not always say anything or feel I have to and I try to be pick and choose my battles. I do not have to be right and I do not have to have the last word. I look at people who speak so fabulously candid, with a humble abandon to themselves and are so articulate and concise and just feel a sense of awe. I want to applaud those who are so real and valuable in their humilty! Most people can offer some value if only they WILL talk, if only they would dare to. It could be life changing. I know words are double-edged tricky bastards that can cut, but they can also heal.
Please do not shut up. ONLY if it is good to do so at THAT time, and only is there IF there is nothing to be gained... otherwise I try to contribute and have something to offer. I try very hard not to say things uneeded or that I regret, but I have learned that I still hold far more in than I should and than is good sometimes.
It is learning when to speak and when not to.
It is better to be real. At least no one can accuse me of not knowing how I feel and where I stand. One of the biggest blessing offered to me, after a long long time, was people teaching me to speak truth, love, and being as real as possible to one another. It made a HUGE difference in my life.
I mostly keep very, very quiet. A lot of the time I may agree with someone's belief or oppose it. In situations like that, I'll tell him or her one to one so it doesn't explode into a flame war. I find that I'm far more articulate talking to someone specific about something specific, and we can see each other's way of thinking. There are times I want to explode in anger (quite often after work; it's an intense-stress job) and often I become angry when someone rubs my nose in a belief I don't share, not knowing I don't share it and clearly not caring.
At any rate, I wouldn't support someone's actions or beliefs just to get along with them. I don't like to be liked THAT much that I'll be a yes-man to anything. (I tried that on one job and the boss just thought I was stupid.) But I REALLY hate it when someone hates me after liking me before until I disagreed with them.
While I am a firm believer in speaking the truth, even if it is an unpleasant, sometimes it is better to keep your mouth shut lest you make a bad situation worse. Its difficult to judge, though.
Of course, if someone can't handle the truth, that's their problem.
Just keep wallowing in your own chaotic insecure delusions.
I used to blurt out everything right away, which sometimes made things worse. Now I try to think a bit before speaking my mind, but with me it must come out or it may come out in a more evil way 
I love this question! I believe that as an adult, as an American, as a Mother, as a taxpayer...shall I go on? I have earned the right to stand up and speak my mind and I do so. I don't give one good gol damn about what others might think or say about my stance on a subject. If I believe in something, I'm going to say so and fight for it. When I see wrong being done or an injustice being perpetrated, I'm going to yell like hell and try my best to correct the situation. If people don't like it, too fucking bad. They can go fuck themselves. 
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