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Which is more important? Having a good lover or being a good lover?
Active Ink Slinger
I prefer to be a good lover.
Active Ink Slinger
I prefer to be a good lover.
Active Ink Slinger
I would say both
Active Ink Slinger
Definitely being a good lover. I take more pleasure from giving pleasure and seeing their reactions than I do from receiving. I suppose if they are enjoying what you are doing for them, they are more likely to reciprocate, but it really is the giving that is the most pleasurable for me.
Rookie Scribe
I think it depends on you and your partner I know I like learning and love teaching but the sex has to be somewhat compatible or else the fun is lost.
Quote by BelleduJour
When you first have sex with someone, is it more important to you that your partner is a 'good' lover or that your partner thinks you are a 'good' lover?
Really great question! Without question, it is far more important to me that I am a good lover. I have consistently found that my performance and level of engagement with my partner can dramatically elevate their level, so I place the responsibility completely on me. However, many women I have been with were amazing and I just hope that I was worthy.
Active Ink Slinger
It has to be being a good lover and being in tune with her wants and needs,then all else falls into place.
Active Ink Slinger
Being a good lover. I work very hard to please my boyfriend, even if it means that I don't get to finish my self.
Her Royal Spriteness
being an honest and enthusiastic lover is important, too!
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Active Ink Slinger
By far it is most important to be a good lover. The man owes it to the lady to be slow, sensitive and passionate. The feelings of the lady must be reacted to with the love making she is expecting and deserving. If you do not totally please and satisfy the lady you did not make love. Making love involves all the senses and, yes, men you need to think and be the lover she deserves.
Active Ink Slinger
being a attentive lover, and the same caring attention is returned to you, its all about communication makes the best lovers over all.
Active Ink Slinger
Being a good lover.
Active Ink Slinger
Be a facilitator. A good lover makes it easier for everyone else!
Active Ink Slinger
Being a good lover should be instinctive. Having a good lover makes you step up your game to become a better lover.
Active Ink Slinger
If you do not have part A or can't find part B, does it really matter?
Cheeky Chick
Being a good lover is important, because you hope they are doing the same thus making it perfect between the both of you.
Active Ink Slinger
Being a good lover, gets repeat invitations.( something to think about)
Being a poor lover, probably earns one self induced hand jobs.
A Good lover also has the satisfaction of knowing that they have; pleased & satisfied their lover..
Being a poor lover, probably earns one self induced hand jobs.
A Good lover also has the satisfaction of knowing that they have; pleased & satisfied their lover..
Advanced Wordsmith
This is such a good question! I think if its my first time with someone then I want to be a good lover, however when it comes time for him to please me I want it to be good as well. Maybe the best answer is both!
Active Ink Slinger
Being a good lover. You will hopefully get back what you put into it.
Advanced Wordsmith
I think being a good lover because I LOVE to see my wife in ecstasy. That being said I think it is important to remember that good lovers are made not born.