Is it cheating? Yes.
But is it right for one partner to decide to withhold sex from another? That person has chosen to alter the relationship as well, in essence trapping their partner in a sexless relationship. It doesn't change the fact that it is cheating, but I can completely understand where someone might be tempted to seek another source of physical intimacy.
the moment you decide it has to be hidden.
Its cheating if the other half of the couple doesn't know, or knows and doesn't approve. Its not cheating if both know, agree and ever better if they share the act or hopefully multiple acts. Then its just good play. I'd also say its cheating if the basic emotional bond is broken.
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I don't think most of what's being discussed is "Is it cheating?" (because it pretty much all is), but rather "Is cheating justified in this situation?".
I won't speak for anyone else, but for me the answer is nearly always no. I've never been stuck in a truly painful/toxic relationship I couldn't get out of, though, so it is easy for me to say. I try not to judge (being raised Southern Baptist, that's not always easy).
Cheating is cheating when you call it cheating.
You will KNOW if you are cheating, you will feel it.
I think cheating is when you do something sexual with another person with out your partner knowing about it and you don't tell him...
I think cheating is when you can connect with someone emotionally, sexually, or any kind of physical way, more than you do your spouse. For one reason or another, be it because of you, or something you feel is missing from your relationship. Which you should fix with your spouse, instead of finding it elsewhere. If you can't fix it, you leave that person, THEN find someone.
If you start a question "Is it cheating when" then it probably is cheating
Cheating occurs when the vow or agreement between two individuals is violated. It's up to the individuals involved in the relationship to determine the boundaries of the covenant. Innocent flirting, emotional connections, and/or sexual encounters may or may not constitute cheating depending upon the boundaries set by the individuals.
The inability to share an (extra) encounter with a partner (spouse) is cheating, in my opinion. Particularly if it's a mental/emotional connection, because that's the basis of any relationship anyway. The mental/emotional is where love begins. Sex strengthens the mental connection.
It's the extra mental/emotional connection that hurts the partner who's being cheated on the most.
A word of advice - move on before cheating.
When you feel like you have to keep secrets, you already know you're doing something you should't be.
Cheating is doing anything you are hiding from your partner or don't tell your partner about.
If you really want to know what cheating is, tell your partner what you've been up to and ask them if they feel betrayed or cheated on.
If you are hungry, have no money, steal a loaf of bread, it's stealing, even if the justification is that you were hungry. If you go outside your marriage/relationship, it's cheating, and I completely understand your situation and why you are considering it. I used to be very black and white about things because of how I was raised. You do not divorce, you do not cheat, you don't do this, or that, but as I've gotten older, I've learned to accept there are gray areas.
If you choose to go ahead with this affair, you have a lot of things to consider, to talk about, to decide.
Is it strictly based on sex because that's what you're missing or are you falling in love or feeling a deeper connection with this woman?
Would you consider leaving your marriage for her?
If you are caught, will you apologize to your wife, leave the woman behind and stay in your marriage?
Will your wife forgive you?
What will she do if she's caught? How will she handle it?
Are you worried about how family and friends will react to the affair?
Is it cheating? Yes Can you justify it? Yes People join Lush without their spouses/SO's knowing they are here, so what do we call what they are doing? Isn't that a form of cheating as well because it's a secret? Is there guilt and remorse because you know what you are doing is wrong? YES! We are all guilty of doing something we know we shouldn't be doing. When it comes time to pay the consequences, it will be between you, your spouse, and God. Just think it through and also know that it can go wrong and cause you and everyone involved immense heartache.
I wish you well.
If you are doing something emotionally or physically that you would not do in front of your SO, then it's cheating. Anything that is outside the boundaries the two of you agreed upon.
There are a lot of great replies here, however I wonder how many have ever been in this same situation. I have read you should fix the issue with your SO and if you can't fix it leave. As someone mentioned before there are many grey areas and there are also many different reasons why people cheat, whether it be emotional or physical.
Cheating is different for each and every relationship. Would you say that someone who is in an open relationship but doesn't give the specifics to their SO is cheating? What if one partner no longer enjoys sex but everything else about the relationship is great? Should they split up strictly because of the lack of sex?
My mother was cheated on multiple times by my father and it wasn't until I was in a similar situation myself did I actually see the grey areas.
I agree, there are many things to ponder before you jump into an affair or even a one night stand. The guilt you may or may not be troubled with could eat you alive. Some, I'm sure, feel guilty about their actions and others feel guilty for not feeling guilty at all.
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