Are human being's meant to be monogomous. I think some people would like it to be, it's the fairytale in reality; except in reality it does not always work out like that.
I watched a T.V show last week that said "Should you expect your partner to cheat, even if it's a short term or long term relationship?"
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Is Cybering Cheating?
Quote by HoneyBee000
Are human being's meant to be monogomous. I think some people would like it to be, it's the fairytale in reality; except in reality it does not always work out like that.
I watched a T.V show last week that said ?""Should you expect your partner to cheat, even if it's a short term or long term relationship
HoneyBee000.............
Here is the problem (I watched a T.V show last week) a famous quote (Whoever controls the media, controls the mind).
I'm not critizing you or your comments, 90% of peoples problems is T.V, wanting what they can't have, desire, greed, beauty, etc, etc, and so on.....
99.9 % of facts on the internet are incorrect (They give the authors views) not the truth.
Why would such a programme exist??? it exists because it wants YOU the watcher to have a view (even if you didn't want one) and why?? because they want raitings and to keep YOU the individual watching............otherwise this type of nonsense (Should you expect your partner to cheat, even if it's a short term or long term relationship) would not have even entered your head because I presume and hope you dnt think like this??? it's to keep you worried bogged down and controlled............if you switch your T.V off for 2 weeks, you will notice your stress lvls going down.
Your mind is exactly that.....your mind, use it for yourself...........not what someone else thinks or what someone else wants you to think, or should I have an opinion about that....because in the long term how did that programme help you??? it didnt it just put another negative suggestion in your head asking you to have an opinion in which you as a person wouldnt have had to begin with.
In reality.....YOU are YOU and hopefully you know you........if you love someone and you want to stay with them the rest of your life, YOU know what YOU want, NOT what some T.V programme tells YOU.......or mis-informs you on.
It is your mind controlling you, never hand it over to some idiot and worry about things that have no impact on your life.
No, no, no, no, no. Cybering is not cheating. Saying it is, is like considering masturbation while thinking about someone else is cheating.
Unless.....your partner has specifically said he/she doesn't want you to do it. It might still not be cheating, but its probably a dick thing to do.
I think people worry about the definition of "cheating" a little too much. What really matters is what your partner will be hurt by.
Unless.....your partner has specifically said he/she doesn't want you to do it. It might still not be cheating, but its probably a dick thing to do.
I think people worry about the definition of "cheating" a little too much. What really matters is what your partner will be hurt by.
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I think people worry about the definition of "cheating" a little too much. What really matters is what your partner will be hurt by.
This is a semantics argument, but you're probably right.
For the purposes of this thread, everyone seems to have made 'cheating' synonymous with 'hurting your partner'. It's not that simple- which is why you now hear terms like "emotional affairs", "emotional infidelity" and any number of other psychological hair-splitting words.
Bottom line: if you fuck up with your partner, you'll know it inside, even if you don't get caught doing it. Follow your conscience...if you don't have one, cover your tracks and watch your back.
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I think people worry about the definition of "cheating" a little too much. What really matters is what your partner will be hurt by.
This is a semantics argument, but you're probably right.
For the purposes of this thread, everyone seems to have made 'cheating' synonymous with 'hurting your partner'. It's not that simple- which is why you now hear terms like "emotional affairs", "emotional infidelity" and any number of other psychological hair-splitting words.
Bottom line: if you fuck up with your partner, you'll know it inside, even if you don't get caught doing it. Follow your conscience...if you don't have one, cover your tracks and watch your back.
I believe it is that simple WillinBK.......Cheating is cheating!!! regardless of what form you do it in.....we can all bullshit everyone with clever words and psychological babble bullshit, it's my mums fault, Santa claus made me do it......jesus himself came down took a dump in my toilet and told me it was OK!
Threads like this only confuse the issue because so many people are giving an opinion.....then as always the orignal subject gets lost in peoples opinions or is diverted away to another subject........bullshit is bullshit and to call it by any other name is just not correct.
Let's channge the subject...........FOR ALL THE MEN.......who seem to think it's OK......let me ask you this.......if you caught YOUR girlfriend cybering with another man, would you be so quick to say it's not cheating??? I sincerley doubt it.....would you go happily to work or to the gym knowing another man is keeping your girl entertained??? So lets cut the shit.....we all know the truth.
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cybering is just as much cheating as watching porno and getting off, or even just straight up old fashioned masterbating, you hide it for the same reasons you hide your porn and masterbate in places where you know know one can catch u!!! think about it ladies and gentleman
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No, it's not cheating....
It's a form of fantasizing a sexual encounter.
I'm sure many people read stories on Lush and imagine themselves as one of the characters in the author's story. Or watching porn and imagining you are the one engaging in that situation. Or masturbating to the idea of someone you saw earlier that day at the coffee shop, or fantasizing about the neighbour, or a coworker. Or pulling up some naked pics on your favourite Lushie's profile and letting your imagination run loose.
If these things stay in the mind but you use them as psychological stimulation during masturbation, then can they all be construed as cheating?
Cyber is harmless... (well, unless you are doing it 18 hrs a day).
It's a form of fantasizing a sexual encounter.
I'm sure many people read stories on Lush and imagine themselves as one of the characters in the author's story. Or watching porn and imagining you are the one engaging in that situation. Or masturbating to the idea of someone you saw earlier that day at the coffee shop, or fantasizing about the neighbour, or a coworker. Or pulling up some naked pics on your favourite Lushie's profile and letting your imagination run loose.
If these things stay in the mind but you use them as psychological stimulation during masturbation, then can they all be construed as cheating?
Cyber is harmless... (well, unless you are doing it 18 hrs a day).
sure if your partner in "real life " knows about it it is not cheating, BUT!!!!! Anything you do, and would not share with the person in your life, is cheating. even a light flirtation that you would not share with your partner , is cheating. If you know it will hurt their feelings, it's cheating!!!
I can see how cybering can be considered cheating, most people in the thread are constituting that cheating is an act that isn't with your partner. It depends on how you would define cheating: for example, I wouldn't be happy about my bf cybering with a girl, but if he wasn't emotionally attached, then I would be okay with it. Why? Because I know I can't please him. I can certainly do it, it's just that my wants and needs during sex are on the opposite spectrum of his, so I don't mind if he gets a good orgasm from another girl-- just so long as he still loves me. Love is what you make it, and sex should never be the basis of love. If it is, then you're fucked. Probably faithful until your next "love" comes along, but that's a different can of worms.
Many people have raised the question of whether or not it's cheating when you think of another person while having sex with your s.o. What I'm wondering, what if you're thinking of your loved one while you're cybering? People that cyber get to imagine whatever their cyber-companion looks like, so it can easily happen.
Many people have raised the question of whether or not it's cheating when you think of another person while having sex with your s.o. What I'm wondering, what if you're thinking of your loved one while you're cybering? People that cyber get to imagine whatever their cyber-companion looks like, so it can easily happen.
I used to think it wasn't cheating....just having fun since you weren't doing it in person and for real.....then I met a very special lady and she found out I was playing on line....it hurt her so much and she cried and then I saw it from a different point of view. I hurt her and then I realized I had cheated on her emotionally and I felt like shit and I'll never ever do that again
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I don't think cybering is cheating. But I've done worse than cybering, and I don't call those things cheating either.
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texting, sexting, cybering - whatever you want to call it - if its intimate and with someone other than your partner and your hiding it from your partner its cheating...sigh
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texting, sexting, cybering - whatever you want to call it - if its intimate and with someone other than your partner and your hiding it from your partner its cheating...sigh
I agree 100% If your on the computer talking to someone about how you would suck their cock or how you want their dick in you HELLO thats cheating!!!! and deffinatly if webcams are involved. I would never do that to my Husband. I couldn't imagine trying to explain to him why he just caught me with my fingers in myself sitting infront of the computer with some guy jacking it. Cheating doesn't always have to be actual physical contact with another person.
MissJess i think this one has ot be a personal decision.
if both partners in a relationship are happy with the other cybering and don't see it as cheating then its ok, its when one sees t as cheating and the other does not it becomes a huge issue.
Has to be a joint decision between partners and is not a black and white question.
With my ex it would have been seen as cheating, but now......well still something we need to discuss.
if both partners in a relationship are happy with the other cybering and don't see it as cheating then its ok, its when one sees t as cheating and the other does not it becomes a huge issue.
Has to be a joint decision between partners and is not a black and white question.
With my ex it would have been seen as cheating, but now......well still something we need to discuss.
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imo it's cheating if
you fantasize about doing it with that person (adultery)
your wife doesn't know about it
it's NOT cheating if your wife is okay with it
you just enjoy it because you find it fun and nothing serious
you fantasize about doing it with that person (adultery)
your wife doesn't know about it
it's NOT cheating if your wife is okay with it
you just enjoy it because you find it fun and nothing serious
I don't think this can be a yes or no answer. It has so many variables, the combinations of which are endless.
I, personally, love my partner. I wouldn't cheat on her in the typical way, i.e having an affair or one night stand. But her sex drive is a fraction of mine and my fantasies and desires are my secret as I KNOW she wouldn't 'be up for it'. That dosen't make me right or her wrong or visa versa. I use Lush to mainly read stories and lose myself in those fantasies/desires. That, I expect, 99% of people would say ISN'T cheating, much the same way as watching porn, or masturbating would be.
In MY humble opinion, cybering is much like reading the stories off Lush, but being a 50% author in them. It's when it gets beyond having fun online, and deciding to meet, THEN it becomes cheating.
This, as I said, is just my opinion. I understand others differ, but the only person who can answer this honestly, is yourself.
I, personally, love my partner. I wouldn't cheat on her in the typical way, i.e having an affair or one night stand. But her sex drive is a fraction of mine and my fantasies and desires are my secret as I KNOW she wouldn't 'be up for it'. That dosen't make me right or her wrong or visa versa. I use Lush to mainly read stories and lose myself in those fantasies/desires. That, I expect, 99% of people would say ISN'T cheating, much the same way as watching porn, or masturbating would be.
In MY humble opinion, cybering is much like reading the stories off Lush, but being a 50% author in them. It's when it gets beyond having fun online, and deciding to meet, THEN it becomes cheating.
This, as I said, is just my opinion. I understand others differ, but the only person who can answer this honestly, is yourself.
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how times have changed, cheating use to be be down the road at the bar when you had too much to drink, or the secretary at work, or just plain old tired of your lazy husband/wife/ so, that doesn't satisfy you, now one click and you're there. when you get that thought of oh I hope he / she is on. looking, searching, wanting, then yes its cheating, unless you are a lone wolf with no one to answer up to.
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I think if it's something you're worried about your partner finding out, you probably shouldn' be doing it.
It doesn't matter so much what YOU consider cheating as what your partner does. They're the ones you are going to hurt. I enjoy playing online but its not something I do when in a committed relationship. Unless of course, he is playing too
It doesn't matter so much what YOU consider cheating as what your partner does. They're the ones you are going to hurt. I enjoy playing online but its not something I do when in a committed relationship. Unless of course, he is playing too
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No, no, no, no, no. Cybering is not cheating. Saying it is, is like considering masturbation while thinking about someone else is cheating.
Unless.....your partner has specifically said he/she doesn't want you to do it. It might still not be cheating, but its probably a dick thing to do.
I think people worry about the definition of "cheating" a little too much. What really matters is what your partner will be hurt by.
I agree with you to a point here Damon.
I've said it before in many of the other "Is cybering cheating" threads here and in other Forums as well.
I do not think cybering is cheating if it is with a random person. But if one continues to return to the same person over and over again, then that is more of an emotional cheating and it becomes a relationship.
Then the question is no longer is cybering cheating, but more of a question of emotional cheating is it a greater offense than a physical one???
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