How long should you wait to say I love you

11 Jul 2009

to all Lush memebers How long should you wait if your in a new relationship to say I LOVE YOU. I feel the term is just thrown around now a days what do you all think?

11 Jul 2009

Depends on how I feel about the person. I won't say it to someone unless that's the way I feel because I don't want someone to get the wrong impression of how I feel about them. There have been a few occasions when someone has said I love you and I have just said thankyou back, because I don't feel the same way. But I do say love ya to friends at the end of phone calls sometimes, but that's a different kind of love you.

11 Jul 2009

I don't think there needs to be a certain time frame, but I'd only say it if I really meant it and if I was pretty sure the other person felt the same way.

11 Jul 2009

Say it whenever you mean it. Don't say it before, but don't wait and end up regretting your silence.

11 Jul 2009

You're on your own with this one, Stang. It's not something you can look up in a book. Both partners have to feel free to say it and mean it. And when it does happen with both people feeling it, it's a Great Thing.

12 Jul 2009

It happened on our fourth date, (which is chronicled in my stories), but every one is different. One of my best friends told him on their very first date, and they've been happily married for 15 years. Only you know if it's the right time.

"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx

12 Jul 2009

I said I love you to a boyfriend after dating for 10 months and when I said it he just looked at me and said nothing............... wow I tell you I have never felt more crushed inside. I won't be telling somebody I love you so willingly next time.

12 Jul 2009

Quote by rxtales
Depends on how I feel about the person. I won't say it to someone unless that's the way I feel because I don't want someone to get the wrong impression of how I feel about them.

I won't say it unless I absolutely mean it. My last boyfriend told me long before I told him and everytime he would say it, I'd just say thanks. Felt like a bitch but its better than him thinking I love him more than I do.

There is no set of rules or guidelines in reationships just do what you want and when you're ready.

12 Jul 2009

Dont say it. Ever. PROVE IT.

12 Jul 2009

Quote by Lil_Birdie
Dont say it. Ever. PROVE IT.

never? seems like you'd really miss out on great moments by never saying it.

I love telling my man that I love him, especially knowing he loves me too. smile

12 Jul 2009

I believe great moments come from what people show you and prove to you every day. It means more to me than three words that really do get tossed around a little too quickly.

12 Jul 2009

I agree birdie...it does get thrown around too much, but it doesn't cheapen the three words on those occasions where it's sincere. Actions speak louder than words, but I would miss those words terribly if they were never uttered.

13 Jul 2009

AS the others have said. Wait till it feels rigt for you, and when you know that it's really what you feel.

I used to whisper "I love you" for over half a year to a person when I was certain he was sleeping before I dared saying it to him in person.
On the other hand, you won't get thoose words tossed at you as more than a friend before I mean it and only at the occasion when I feel it.
I don't go on auto reply on that line if it's said to me.

16 Jul 2009

It completely depends on the relationship. My boyfriend and I knew each other for six months previous to becoming a couple, and it didn't really take very long for both of us to feel comfortable with saying something like that. There are all kinds of love, and even though the saying is tossed around like a foot ball these days, when I find that I care about a person so much that I don't have to guard myself at all around them... that's when I feel that I can say it...

16 Jul 2009

Well said, Agaru.

16 Jul 2009

Say it when you feel it. Open up your heart. Don't wonder if the other person feels the same way. Go for broke. Be a man. Balls to the wall.

Read Plato's Symposium for more on love.

16 Jul 2009

Every time I say that or similar ... The wife puts her hand on her hips and says
..carry on ...lets hear the bullshit now ... no faith that women

16 Jul 2009

Quote by q_and_a
Say it when you feel it. Open up your heart. Don't wonder if the other person feels the same way. Go for broke. Be a man. Balls to the wall.

Read Plato's Symposium for more on love.

Just been looking up Plato wow there is plenty of reading matter there lot's to read.

16 Jul 2009

Quote by DBarclay
Every time I say that or similar ... The wife puts her hand on her hips and says
..carry on ...lets hear the bullshit now ... no faith that women

I get the impression from your descriptions of her that your wife is a famous TV personality:

16 Jul 2009

Quote by ali2teaseu
Quote by DBarclay
Every time I say that or similar ... The wife puts her hand on her hips and says
..carry on ...lets hear the bullshit now ... no faith that women

I get the impression from your descriptions of her that your wife is a famous TV personality:

Iknooooooooooooooooow Noooooothing

21 Aug 2009

Quote by HoneyBee000
I said I love you to a boyfriend after dating for 10 months and when I said it he just looked at me and said nothing............... wow I tell you I have never felt more crushed inside. I won't be telling somebody I love you so willingly next time.

wow i kow how you feel the same thing happened to me ,ive told her i loved her many times .but during a phone conversation ,and i dont even remember how it came up but i wanted her to know exactly how much i loved her and said i love you so much id marry you today,well her response was to start laughing .i was heart broken .when i told her the next day how that made me feel , she said she didnt know what to say to that and i caught her off guard with a remark like that .we are still together a year later and i feel the same way .

22 Aug 2009

You'll feel it in your heart. You should say "I Love You" whenever you think of her and it takes your breath away. You should say it when you cant get through an hour without thinking of her. When someone asks you how your day is going and if you've talked to her it's going awesome, if you haven't your day is simply okay.
You'll know when the right time is.

Just trust your heart.b0WLejh56uGPn42Y
Rayne heart

22 Aug 2009

Quote by TaintedRainebow

Just trust your heart.3ZXlIRvepyeA0DHG
Rayne

So true!

1 Sep 2009

Quote by Durrasch
Say it whenever you mean it. Don't say it before, but don't wait and end up regretting your silence.

Never a truer word(s) spoken.

"Whoa, lady, I only speak two languages, English and bad English." - Korben Dallas, from The Fifth Element

"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw

1 Sep 2009

I do not believe there is a time frame for this. It simply needs to be genuinely and truly felt before the words are spoken. It should never be said to speed up or change the direction of a relationship.

17 Jul 2011

100 years or until your are dead. Say "I love you" and she may marry you, then its hell on earth.

You are invited to read Passionate Danger, Part II, a story collaboration by Kim and ArtMan.
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/passionate-danger-part-ii.aspx

17 Jul 2011

i waited 6 months. but that's when it just FELT right. i would never say it without that gut feeling, though.

17 Jul 2011

when your words flow into your hearts from your tongue

17 Jul 2011

Quote by Guest
Say it whenever you mean it. Don't say it before, but don't wait and end up regretting your silence.

this : )

Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.

19 Jul 2011

Ah, love. I agree with most of you all, say it when you feel it. Truly. However you must first know the difference between love and lust.