I think it's different for everyone. Personally, I feel like I didn't 'have sex' until I had vaginal intercourse, even though I messed around and did other things before then. Some people feel like they crossed that line with oral sex, and I've also heard it said that people did anal sex so that they could technically remain a virgin. That's funny as hell to me, but to that person, they're still a virgin if that's really how they feel. I don't know how common my view of this is, though.
For me, vaginal or anal sex is considered having sex. And sometimes even that doesn't count. Like if the sex only lasts a minute or two and leaves me unsatisfied, then I just pretend it never happened.
Masturbation, hand jobs and blow jobs are foreplay.
lol thanks for the replies
Technically, anything that is penetrating an orifice is supposed to be sex, but I tend to lump 'oral' as 'fooling around'... same as I would tag mutual masturbation as more along the lines of foreplay. It's wrong to define it as such, but I tend to more classify vaginal/anal as sex. This doesn't make sense though, because then what is lesbian sex? (provided it remains just oral).
I think women tend to see oral as just 'foreplay' in order to keep their sex-partners numbers lower. And maybe some people do it to avoid feeling like they've cheated if they are in a scenario where they are just giving someone a blow-job. Maybe it alleviates some of the guilt.
For me, if I'm having oral with someone, 95% of the time I have also gone on to have vaginal/anal sex, so it doesn't make as much of a difference to me.
I guess that damned cagey President Clinton was right after all!
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
I think you are a virgin until someone has put a penis in your vagina or ass and vice versa for men. Oral is sex but I don't think it makes you a non-virgin if all you've had is oral.
Sex for me is just sex. It's something fun to do with someone but I don't think it's this whole life changing thing. I sometimes feel more of a connection with a girl over a shared laugh or a similar interest in something obscure.
I agree with some today and disagree with others so here goes.
Oral, Masturbation and Hand Jobs to Ejaculation in my way of thinking is certainly a sex act. The very young most likely would not consider this as having sex. But now that I am more mature these activities almost always lead to vaginal and/or anal penetration, so to me these activities are the preliminaries to the entre.
Oral sex between two woman is certainly having sex in my experience.
If you want to kid yourself that these preliminaries are not a sex act, OK. But I have known a number of woman who were going to stop at the preliminaries, but still ended up pregnant.
Just my observations
No. It is not all semantics. When it comes to such an emotionally charged question, it cannot just be about semantics, and it never has been. Whether it is the attempt of someone caught in a flagrant act with another person who is trying to downplay the implications of it, having been caught, or something that is liable to a criminal charge, it is not just semantics.
There is always far more involved; you said it yourself, and yes, it does matter in the end.
If it didn't, no-one would ever bother to ask the question and people would not try and squirm around the edges of it, trying to down play the intimate physical contact involved, and let on that it was not sex, or sexually related.
unfortunately, in retrospect.
Sex is stimulating the sex organs for the purpose of arousing pleasure. Usually sex with one's partner ends with sexual intercourse, which is the act which was designed to procreate the species.
Man's ingenuity has provided us nowadays with all sorts of aids to this pleasure and also the means to avoid pregnancy, which was the unavoidable lot of females until about the middle of the last Century.
Sexual pleasure and procreation have now become seperated for those who seek the former only, and that has allowed far greater sexual freedom to become 'the norm'.
I can only refer to attitudes displayed by my wife and myself, which have changed with time. When we were in our twenties and thirties we did the sexual act of procreation like two dancers...We got good at it, and enjoyed it a lot. We initially had three miscarriages at three months term, then our gynie man found the hormone additive formula and we had four adorable children, two of each, all within five years, after which I agreed to have 'the snip', which should have meant lots of sex and no further pregnancies.
Alas that was not to be. My wife lost interest, perhaps she found sex pointless and no longer seemed to enjoy it. I still remain strictly faithful to her after 42 years, but understandably indulge in pleasuring myself often while browsing sites like this.
Carpe Diem !.....Sieze the day !
I veiw sex as fun, interesting adventurous activity that some take way too serious. It's a means to release pent up tension, great for a headache, way to show eternal love. The older I get the more I veiw sex as a playground of fun, fantasy and adventure.
Get on Get in Enjoy the ride I usually have my glasses off, so sex tends to be blurry.
I think that came out wrong... You know what I meant though.
