Dan Savage has an interesting take on this subject. He says that there is no "The One!" for anyone. Instead there are a lot of 0.6 and 0.7 people out there that we choose to round up to "The One".
It would be the murder of love.
Do you believe that there is only one true love for everyone ?
Yes.
For many I doubt it, they can have of it and never even realize what they have, even after its too late .... they cannot phantom it or grasp of such, so no they will ever believe or have of such.
I myself had it, I cherished it, respected it and sorely miss of it .... without filling this post with details of it, death ended it.
For me there will never be of such again, and I long ago accepted that being with another would not be of fairness nor could I truly give of my luv fully.
Yes my Lush relationship status says in a relationship, I am not .... that is solely to keep a few who act of misconduct at bay.
So I go it alone, and though alone I am not alone for having of such a man in my life, though he is gone he is forever of my heart and my soul.
Some fascinating and very honest responses on this thread. Unlike some of the other posters I don't object with the word love, but the romantic connotations of the term "true love". Please don't get me wrong, I have huge respect for long term relationships and find the remarks of posters in marriages of many years very touching. I also have the greatest of compassion for those who have lost life partners.
What I'm not so comfortable is the commercialisation of the romantic notions and subsequent pressure of "true" love; Valentine cards, diamond engagement rings, let alone the vast wedding industry! And the whole dating industry dedicated towards people finding "the one" at considerable expense.
What is both refreshing and moving is the reality of true love as it has affected everyone here: whether it be lasting love, love that changes with time, fleeting love, love for more than one person, and love that changes us when it touches us, whether it lasts briefly or for much of a lifetime.
Those are tough questions but very pertinent if anyone want to lead a purposeful life. Ok, I think the truth can be answered with experience. It may take a few bad relationships before you know how to be in a good one. But remember to use your head before you get your heart involved. If it makes sense, chances are it is a good decision. Never ignore the warnings that your brain is giving you that you may get into trouble.
I think that we love a lot of people on different levels. It depends on what kind of love you are looking to have in your life to feel as if it's your "true" love. True love never feels to be a consistent love, but it's the consistent love that a lot of us settle for.
Yes, I have one person who I truely love , for ever and ever
for me personally? no. i've fell in and out of love at different stages in my life. i may have outgrown those people, but it doesn't mean our love wasn't true.