Never really knew what I expected but looking back there are different roads I would have taken but we make our beds and so have to lay in them.
Not remotely. I thought my life would be conservative, stifling, comfortable and safe. It has been bohemian, nerve-wracking, creative, skin-of-the-teeth and sometimes just beyond difficult. But I have grown into the person I always hoped I could be. And whatever life has chucked at me I have chosen to be happy. I count myself very blessed.
No not really. If I could have another chance I would make lots of changes.
Nope. Although I wouldn't change a thing that had occurred in life as it is what makes me who I am. I only wished that I had more confidence with myself as I would have liked to venture out more on the relationship side.
In no way, shape or form! I'm in a different place in my life than I ever thought I would be. In some ways its better in some ways not. It balances out!!
I would think my life would have been dull if I had planed it all out at 12 and sitting here now I can say yes it was exactly as I planed it (sinister evil cackle here)
Life should be unexpected a little, there should be the turns and challenges that give you a story to tell your friends ... your first flight (as in the first time you jumped out of an airplane) your first love (did that turn out as expected?)
Yes certain general aspects have turned out how I expected them (I have a job, I am still alive and not in prison) but the specifics (not the job I expected, and just haven't gotten caught yet) are not what I expected.
The same holds true with relationships, friendships, lovers ... and myself, I am not who I was at 18 ... 25 .. 30 (ok will stop here)
Still not sure about what I want to be when I grow up.
No it hasn't. I'm working on making things happen so I can have a happy ending.
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So many ways of looking at this.
Did it turn out as the people who tried to mould it from the start thought it should? Hell no....thankfully. They were all sooooo wrong.
Born as a fully paid up member of the awkward non conformist squad it was always going to be a struggle..... thankfully.
Was it hard work...yes extremely so... no silver spoon here... you don't get to practise in three professions and hold a lot of responsibility and power without that.
Have I been free...yes in the main...you can't have responsibility without being constrained a bit though. Autonomy can never be absolute otherwise you will be an outlaw..
Was it fun...yes it really was...because without sufficient autonomy work can never be fulfilling. Some wonderful people have worked with and for me. That is a priceless boon
Over time, to retain both edge and freedom you have to be able to take risks, seize opportunities, and remodel yourself. The organisations I have worked in allowed that to happen.
Have I done everything I could have? Not by many people's criteria...but then quite a lot of the so called prizes of success doesn't rate much for me, it is the journey not the destination which is paramount.
Have I had to do a lot of things that I would rather not. Yes, a lot of very nasty difficult problems came by...that however, is an inevitable part of holding both professional and organisational responsibility. There are scars I would rather not have. There are sights and memories of extremes in pain suffering and death I would rather have been spared. None of it could be avoided.
Would I do it all again....yes very much...I have been fortunate to be happy and fulfilled, but never universally overjoyed. That is how it ought to be.
To be honest it turned out nothing like I imagined coming out of high school. It seems like I have lived 5 lives in 42 years/
It's been an adventure for sure. Would I change anything if I could? Of course I would, but the choices I made in the past got me to where I am today and I am very happy with the way things have turned out.
I'm not sure I ever expected anything I was never a think of the future person but more of a in the moment person..
I was blessed with three great children, Caitlyn tragically left us which is the only part of my life that I would change. A great career and teaching on the side, life if pretty special.
Hasn't turned out like I expected divorced twice wasn't apart of the game plan but I have 2 great kids that I love and an adorable grandson that is almost 2. I wouldn't trade the for anything granted I wish my daughter would have waited til she was older . And this last year I wouldn't change at all I met Earl and he changed my life for the better. And I met some great people on here that I care a great deal about.
In some ways, yes. Predictably, in others, no. I never wanted or intended to live anywhere but my beloved Massachusetts, and the career is something that came upon me after years of aimless jobs. OTOH, I have a remarkable wife and an incredible daughter, which is kind of how I expected to go (although we had planned for two children). We own a house, which I had always intended to do, although I never imagined living in a city when I was younger.
So, like a lot of people here, "yes and no."
My life is happy, what more is ever expected than that???
Somewhat. I wanted to work in the travel industry and was a Flight Attendant for 24 years so that went well. But, I never found 'the one'. Never really wanted kids, so that was okay. Life is definitely what I've made it, although not necessarily what I'd planned.
"Life is about the journey, not the destination"
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not really but it turned out okay.
Does it ever? Often times, my day doesn't turn out as expected.