Girls, I need some help.
I am considering trying anal...... Any suggestions or comments??
Thanks - Lexi
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I don't understand the appeal of anal. To either party.
Just a couple inches away, I have a nice, tight, self lubricating pussy, with muscles exercised from kegels that I can use from a clamp to a carress that we both love, and most of all, that nice little clit right there that can ride that cock to a wonderful orgasm that is even more intense if the cock is hitting the g-spot just right.
I compare that to a hole that just sits there and needs a tub of grease to use otherwise it's too painful for both parties.... plus, you do know what comes out of there!!
Yeah, maybe, I will eventually want to try it, though I doubt it...but for now, that particular orifice is Exit Only.
Just a couple inches away, I have a nice, tight, self lubricating pussy, with muscles exercised from kegels that I can use from a clamp to a carress that we both love, and most of all, that nice little clit right there that can ride that cock to a wonderful orgasm that is even more intense if the cock is hitting the g-spot just right.
I compare that to a hole that just sits there and needs a tub of grease to use otherwise it's too painful for both parties.... plus, you do know what comes out of there!!
Yeah, maybe, I will eventually want to try it, though I doubt it...but for now, that particular orifice is Exit Only.
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When you're new to this -use something to relax yourself be it a drink or whatever. Go slow and use a good lube and remind him that anal fuck is not pussy fuck. There is a difference. In time with practice it can be more than wonderful. I include a quick rectal rinse using plain water in my daily cleansing routine. Gooood Stuff : )
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When your new to this -use something to relax yourself be it a drink or whatever. Go slow and use a good lube and remind him that anal fuck is not pussy fuck. There is a difference. In time with practice it can be more than wonderful.
That's good advice.
Relax, relax, relax. Any tension at all and that's the first muscle to tense up, which makes anal sex impossible to enjoy. Don't attempt to ride cowgirl anytime soon, try it in doggie first and get used to it, at least that's the lesson I learned the hard way. Have vaginal sex first and transition to anal. First of all, that allows you to use your natural lube to help out, and it also keeps anal from being a big production (imagine your partner, dick in hand, approaching you with the intention of having anal sex), which is not relaxing. Let it be part of your sex, the actual body parts in use are just details ;). I'm guessing that in your sex life there was a first fingering, and first oral sex, and first vaginal penetration...so this is just another first. Don't feel pressure (other than the hard shaft sinking into your guts ;) ), and you will have taken the first step toward allowing yourself to feel pleasure.
A word of warning- any above-average size penis is generally painful for me when it comes to anal sex, so if the guy is really well-endowed, use extra caution, or re-think the decision...with him, anyway.
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When your new to this -use something to relax yourself be it a drink or whatever. Go slow and use a good lube and remind him that anal fuck is not pussy fuck. There is a difference. In time with practice it can be more than wonderful.
That's good advice.
Relax, relax, relax. Any tension at all and that's the first muscle to tense up, which makes anal sex impossible to enjoy. Don't attempt to ride cowgirl anytime soon, try it in doggie first and get used to it, at least that's the lesson I learned the hard way. Have vaginal sex first and transition to anal. First of all, that allows you to use your natural lube to help out, and it also keeps anal from being a big production (imagine your partner, dick in hand, approaching you with the intention of having anal sex), which is not relaxing. Let it be part of your sex, the actual body parts in use are just details ;). I'm guessing that in your sex life there was a first fingering, and first oral sex, and first vaginal penetration...so this is just another first. Don't feel pressure (other than the hard shaft sinking into your guts ;) ), and you will have taken the first step toward allowing yourself to feel pleasure.
A word of warning- any above-average size penis is generally painful for me when it comes to anal sex, so if the guy is really well-endowed, use extra caution, or re-think the decision...with him, anyway.
Never in my life have I been so happy to be "average"! Go me go me!
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Here are my suggestions on how to graduate to your official certification in anal sex. 
Stage One: Self Play
Do this alone, with some lube and a butt plug and maybe a small dildo. You want to get used to the sensations of anal play without having a guy with a giant erection impatiently waiting for you to give him the green light. It's easier when you can go at your own pace, find out if you enjoy the sensations of it, and go slow when you are completely relaxed. Once you know better on what to expect, you will probably feel a lot more relaxed when doing it with a guy.
Stage Two: Actual Anal Sex
Have him start with his tongue, then fingers (either using vaginal juices or standard lube). Graduate slowly to larger objects if you're concerned or nervous about it. You will relax, and it will start to feel really good. Make sure he knows to go slow. You will feel some discomfort as he eases in but just have him "hold there" until you relax sufficiently and then he can start with slow, long thrusts and then as per your signal, he can start going faster and rougher (if you enjoy that.). You will not be in any pain if you're doing it properly and are sufficiently relaxed. Actually, you will probably be begging for more. As for positions, start on your stomach or in spoon position, then move into doggy style, until you are used to it.
Why Anal?
It's a whole different experience than vaginal sex. For those that never try it, I think they are missing out on some incredible pleasure and highly erotic explorations with their partner. It feels different, very primal, and for those that enjoy a submissive element, it works on that level too. It's just another way to connect sexually... the same reason you try different positions, or enact different role plays or fantasies. Because things can get boring with monotony.
One last note: this 'how to' isn't how most girls experience it. LOL I didn't have any "work up" to my first anal. It just happened, it wasn't pre-planned, and maybe that's why I wasn't nervous about it. But if you are already uncertain and want to try... it's a safe and comfortable way to get started.
Stage One: Self Play
Do this alone, with some lube and a butt plug and maybe a small dildo. You want to get used to the sensations of anal play without having a guy with a giant erection impatiently waiting for you to give him the green light. It's easier when you can go at your own pace, find out if you enjoy the sensations of it, and go slow when you are completely relaxed. Once you know better on what to expect, you will probably feel a lot more relaxed when doing it with a guy.
Stage Two: Actual Anal Sex
Have him start with his tongue, then fingers (either using vaginal juices or standard lube). Graduate slowly to larger objects if you're concerned or nervous about it. You will relax, and it will start to feel really good. Make sure he knows to go slow. You will feel some discomfort as he eases in but just have him "hold there" until you relax sufficiently and then he can start with slow, long thrusts and then as per your signal, he can start going faster and rougher (if you enjoy that.). You will not be in any pain if you're doing it properly and are sufficiently relaxed. Actually, you will probably be begging for more. As for positions, start on your stomach or in spoon position, then move into doggy style, until you are used to it.
Why Anal?
It's a whole different experience than vaginal sex. For those that never try it, I think they are missing out on some incredible pleasure and highly erotic explorations with their partner. It feels different, very primal, and for those that enjoy a submissive element, it works on that level too. It's just another way to connect sexually... the same reason you try different positions, or enact different role plays or fantasies. Because things can get boring with monotony.
One last note: this 'how to' isn't how most girls experience it. LOL I didn't have any "work up" to my first anal. It just happened, it wasn't pre-planned, and maybe that's why I wasn't nervous about it. But if you are already uncertain and want to try... it's a safe and comfortable way to get started.
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Great post!
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I bow before the Anal Queen
Not sure if you should bow in this thread... someone may sneak in behind you.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
Artistic Tart
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I bow before the Anal Queen
Not sure if you should bow in this thread... someone may sneak in behind you.
You're right, when I bow I start to slip because this floor is so slippery! Maybe you could hold onto my hips to steady me.
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I bow before the Anal Queen
Not sure if you should bow in this thread... someone may sneak in behind you.
You're right, when I bow I start to slip because this floor is so slippery! Maybe you could hold onto my hips to steady me.
Gladly! And the floor is very very slippery. It may take three points to steady you. Got my two hands on your hips... lets see.. hmmm, what else can I do to help. Oh I know...
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
Aside from the advice already given, I would buy a small anal toy, no bigger than your finger. You can buy them from any adult store online or in person. Just make sure it has a wide base.
Use the toy either by yourself during masturbation or have your man use it. Just get use to the feeling of having something in your ass. The first few times it can feel a little bit overwhelming.
Dont let him spit on his dick as lubricant. Its prolific in porno's and its a terrible way to lubricate for anal. I use PJUR lubricant, don't know if its available where you live, but I highly recommend it.
Finally, the best way to relax is to know that you are clean. Buy a douche/enima kit. I would recommend trying it at least once just to get a feel for it before you need it.
All of this can be done quickly and easily and believe me, you should (will) have the best orgasms ever. As long as you trust him and he isnt hung like a horse you will be fine.
Use the toy either by yourself during masturbation or have your man use it. Just get use to the feeling of having something in your ass. The first few times it can feel a little bit overwhelming.
Dont let him spit on his dick as lubricant. Its prolific in porno's and its a terrible way to lubricate for anal. I use PJUR lubricant, don't know if its available where you live, but I highly recommend it.
Finally, the best way to relax is to know that you are clean. Buy a douche/enima kit. I would recommend trying it at least once just to get a feel for it before you need it.
All of this can be done quickly and easily and believe me, you should (will) have the best orgasms ever. As long as you trust him and he isnt hung like a horse you will be fine.
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I also like to do an enema first just to make sure things are squeaky clean. I like to start with vaginal sex in the missionary position, so that my juices drip down to my asshole. Also, he should be putting his finger in your ass at this time to help relax your muscles. Then he should pull out and slowly push his way into your asshole, giving you time to relax before any back-and-forth thrusting begins. For your first time, you will probably need lube, but as you get more experienced, spit or your vaginal juices can do the trick. I also like to keep a vibrator handy to put on my clit during anal sex. Orgasms during anal sex are very intense and amazing.
Enjoy! And be sure to report back to us.
Enjoy! And be sure to report back to us.
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Don't even bother to agree to trying it. You have a vagina and a mouth you can use to please him, if that's not enough then your sexual relationship has gone full circle and it's time to move on. If he wants anal sex suggest he tries fucking one of his male friends.
Girl all I can say is that you are SO missing out! Its not for everybody granted but surely is worth trying! She can see all the people who swear by it just in asking advice.
Make sure to screw and tell when you try it.
There is lots of good advice here and if you want to explore this sexual option these thoughts maybe helpful.
If you are fearful of the pain, you are almost certain to experience pain. Sufficient relaxation is difficult when you start out tense.
Will there be some discomfort most likely yes, but the final benefit will certainly justify the discomfort. The lube is a must until you get used to this type of penetration. Later fluids from vaginal sex will do very nicely thank you.
Practice on your own with both digital exploration and a small anal toy. In this manner you will have complete control until your body is ready for other adventures.
This is one case the first few time that there is no question, "Bigger is not Better". A caring and gentle partner will help with the first experiences. He need to be slow and easy and give you the time to relax and enjoy the pleasure.
I know Anal Sex may not be for every woman, but I would never want to have missed this special pleasure.
If you are fearful of the pain, you are almost certain to experience pain. Sufficient relaxation is difficult when you start out tense.
Will there be some discomfort most likely yes, but the final benefit will certainly justify the discomfort. The lube is a must until you get used to this type of penetration. Later fluids from vaginal sex will do very nicely thank you.
Practice on your own with both digital exploration and a small anal toy. In this manner you will have complete control until your body is ready for other adventures.
This is one case the first few time that there is no question, "Bigger is not Better". A caring and gentle partner will help with the first experiences. He need to be slow and easy and give you the time to relax and enjoy the pleasure.
I know Anal Sex may not be for every woman, but I would never want to have missed this special pleasure.
Ladies, thank you for all of the good advise. I forgot to mention that I am thinking about doing this for one of my lady friends (l/f). The two of us get together every couple of weeks and she really wanted me to do it then. I chickened out. She is very butch and loves to take me when we get together. She has this amazing strap-on that she can make hard or soft. She loves for us to go to dinner and I have my hand up her skirt on her cock all night. We then get back to our room and she does me with it. I will have to give it a try next time we get together. Thanks for all of the advise. - Lexi
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WOW Lexi !!! That is So sexy !!! I don't expect you and your friend would include me in a threesome ?
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Here are my suggestions on how to graduate to your official certification in anal sex.
Stage One: Self Play
Do this alone, with some lube and a butt plug and maybe a small dildo. You want to get used to the sensations of anal play without having a guy with a giant erection impatiently waiting for you to give him the green light. It's easier when you can go at your own pace, find out if you enjoy the sensations of it, and go slow when you are completely relaxed. Once you know better on what to expect, you will probably feel a lot more relaxed when doing it with a guy.
Stage Two: Actual Anal Sex
Have him start with his tongue, then fingers (either using vaginal juices or standard lube). Graduate slowly to larger objects if you're concerned or nervous about it. You will relax, and it will start to feel really good. Make sure he knows to go slow. You will feel some discomfort as he eases in but just have him "hold there" until you relax sufficiently and then he can start with slow, long thrusts and then as per your signal, he can start going faster and rougher (if you enjoy that.). You will not be in any pain if you're doing it properly and are sufficiently relaxed. Actually, you will probably be begging for more. As for positions, start on your stomach or in spoon position, then move into doggy style, until you are used to it.
Why Anal?
It's a whole different experience than vaginal sex. For those that never try it, I think they are missing out on some incredible pleasure and highly erotic explorations with their partner. It feels different, very primal, and for those that enjoy a submissive element, it works on that level too. It's just another way to connect sexually... the same reason you try different positions, or enact different role plays or fantasies. Because things can get boring with monotony.
One last note: this 'how to' isn't how most girls experience it. LOL I didn't have any "work up" to my first anal. It just happened, it wasn't pre-planned, and maybe that's why I wasn't nervous about it. But if you are already uncertain and want to try... it's a safe and comfortable way to get started.
very nice, anal is different feeling that can't explain by man, more on pleasure/ fulfilling cums once your inside the ass
Advanced Wordsmith
I was scared the first time and it was painful, my partner was very well endowed and had trouble keeping himself under control. It got better. Things I would have done differently were exploring on my own. I wish I had used my fingers and vibe to get used to the feeling of having anal penetration. The first time, having a partner you trust and feel comfortable with is super important. I don't know why, but this was more intimate for me than when I lost my cherry.
I love anal sex now and find it very pleasurable, especially with a vibrator on my clit. Pure heaven. I still have to prepare for anal, I can't just have a cock shoved up my ass without a little prep work, some lube, definately helps to have just come from vaginal or oral, I finger fuck my own ass to get ready.
Definately play with your ass on your own before you commit to anal with a partner.
It is worth it in the long run. I like being able to give my partner something different and it feels good for me too.
I love anal sex now and find it very pleasurable, especially with a vibrator on my clit. Pure heaven. I still have to prepare for anal, I can't just have a cock shoved up my ass without a little prep work, some lube, definately helps to have just come from vaginal or oral, I finger fuck my own ass to get ready.
Definately play with your ass on your own before you commit to anal with a partner.
It is worth it in the long run. I like being able to give my partner something different and it feels good for me too.
"The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity." Thank goodness!
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Skip the anal sex and go with an anal toy. Much thinner then a penis, much softer and not nearly as painful.
If you want smaller ones try here theadulttoyshoppe.com/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/
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Great advice by all on here!
Quote by Dancing_Doll- I had the same thing happen and it was amazing. I'm so happy it was never discussed because I never had to be scared or nervous.
One last note: this 'how to' isn't how most girls experience it. LOL I didn't have any "work up" to my first anal. It just happened, it wasn't pre-planned, and maybe that's why I wasn't nervous about it. But if you are already uncertain and want to try... it's a safe and comfortable way to get started.
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Not sure if you should bow in this thread... someone may sneak in behind you.
I thought the exact same thing, LOL! Great thread folks.
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Look... If any guys are wanting to "go anal" with their chick, these are my steps to take. Remember this is my "way of the anal" so not all the girls are going to agree with me.. Fuck them, you don't want to anal them anyway.
Step 1. Next time you go down on your girl make sure to take some extra long licks... Long enough to reach her "other hole, the tighter one." If she isn't used to that she might ask what you are doing. Ignore that and keep going. In fact, what better way to put her at ease than showing her you like her ass so much you are willing to lick it? Don't go darting your tongue In quite yet but do let her know you like her ass.
Step 2. Next time you have sex and she is right out of the shower... Go for the analingus again. Get her good and wet down there and maybe probe your tongue in a little deeper. If she doesn't protest too much you're golden. Go back to some clitoral stimulation and then begin to rub her taint while giving oral... They like that. Then move a little lower and start to stick a finger in, if she let you put the tongue in then she'll surely allow a finger. Remember to take it slow the first time. Slow enough to make her be the one to push against you and let you know she is digging it. Proceed to regular sex.
Step 3. Yes "going anal" is a long con guys. On the third encounter with that coveted little hole repeat step two only this time flip her on her belly, get behind her and make the analigus more of the main event when going down on her. By now she should know what you want. Put two fingers in this time. Remember and this is the most important thing. Always wait on the first time to have her kinda push into your fingers on the first time. If she does this while two fingers are in her ass them she will 90% of the time agree to anal unless she feels she isn't "fresh" or that she is "full" or something like that. Don't ever force her cause she won't like it and she won't let you do it again. Okay... So if she pushes back when fingering her just go ahead and ask "Hey girl, wanna try some anal? I've been craving this ass for a while.." or whatever kind of smooth talkin got her in the sac to begin with.
Step 3 1/2. First time anal is best with her on her side. Not doggystyle or missionary, thats for the more experienced gals. When she is on her side it prevents you from going apeshit as well and hurting her and make you one of the guys that doesn't "go anal." remember plenty of lube.. Like lots of fucking lube the first time. And go hella slow and let her let you know when she ready for more. Like put your head in a hold it there, let her adjust. You'll know when she is ready for more. Then you can fuck. In time she'll want it faster and faster and more often because you're the man and you know what you're doing.
Also remember that if it's her first time doing this she might not know her body well enough to know when she's got one in the chamber, gross, I know. But don't fucking say that. if you get mud on the helmet, just stop. Pull out and suggest you both move to the shower to finish up or something. Making a big deal about this will make her close that backdoor and change the locks.
Happy analing!
Step 1. Next time you go down on your girl make sure to take some extra long licks... Long enough to reach her "other hole, the tighter one." If she isn't used to that she might ask what you are doing. Ignore that and keep going. In fact, what better way to put her at ease than showing her you like her ass so much you are willing to lick it? Don't go darting your tongue In quite yet but do let her know you like her ass.
Step 2. Next time you have sex and she is right out of the shower... Go for the analingus again. Get her good and wet down there and maybe probe your tongue in a little deeper. If she doesn't protest too much you're golden. Go back to some clitoral stimulation and then begin to rub her taint while giving oral... They like that. Then move a little lower and start to stick a finger in, if she let you put the tongue in then she'll surely allow a finger. Remember to take it slow the first time. Slow enough to make her be the one to push against you and let you know she is digging it. Proceed to regular sex.
Step 3. Yes "going anal" is a long con guys. On the third encounter with that coveted little hole repeat step two only this time flip her on her belly, get behind her and make the analigus more of the main event when going down on her. By now she should know what you want. Put two fingers in this time. Remember and this is the most important thing. Always wait on the first time to have her kinda push into your fingers on the first time. If she does this while two fingers are in her ass them she will 90% of the time agree to anal unless she feels she isn't "fresh" or that she is "full" or something like that. Don't ever force her cause she won't like it and she won't let you do it again. Okay... So if she pushes back when fingering her just go ahead and ask "Hey girl, wanna try some anal? I've been craving this ass for a while.." or whatever kind of smooth talkin got her in the sac to begin with.
Step 3 1/2. First time anal is best with her on her side. Not doggystyle or missionary, thats for the more experienced gals. When she is on her side it prevents you from going apeshit as well and hurting her and make you one of the guys that doesn't "go anal." remember plenty of lube.. Like lots of fucking lube the first time. And go hella slow and let her let you know when she ready for more. Like put your head in a hold it there, let her adjust. You'll know when she is ready for more. Then you can fuck. In time she'll want it faster and faster and more often because you're the man and you know what you're doing.
Also remember that if it's her first time doing this she might not know her body well enough to know when she's got one in the chamber, gross, I know. But don't fucking say that. if you get mud on the helmet, just stop. Pull out and suggest you both move to the shower to finish up or something. Making a big deal about this will make her close that backdoor and change the locks.
Happy analing!
Hey Lexi, I would like to share with you how I did the Anal with my GF
first this thing was a big NO for her but i followed a strategy
first we had some wine so she lost around 50% of her will
second try the most move you love to start with for example
my misses loves to sleep on her stomach and slightly lift her ass for me to come lay on top of her and plays with pussy with my hand and rub my cock between her ass cheeks, she always have a strong orgasm.
so when she had the wine and took the position i applied a lot of lubricant between her ass cheeks and on my cock too
so when I was rubbing it on her ass I was trying to find her ass hole with my penis head, when I found it I started pushing gently she was busy with the feeling from her pussy while I was pushing it when the head got in she said what are you doing, I told her sorry honey the head slipped and I kept it in after around 20 seconds I started to push more, abit by bit until I got half of it in she started to love the feeling, finaly when the orgasm was close she told to to push it deeper and she started to swing her ass on my cock to take in and outa
first this thing was a big NO for her but i followed a strategy
first we had some wine so she lost around 50% of her will
second try the most move you love to start with for example
my misses loves to sleep on her stomach and slightly lift her ass for me to come lay on top of her and plays with pussy with my hand and rub my cock between her ass cheeks, she always have a strong orgasm.
so when she had the wine and took the position i applied a lot of lubricant between her ass cheeks and on my cock too
so when I was rubbing it on her ass I was trying to find her ass hole with my penis head, when I found it I started pushing gently she was busy with the feeling from her pussy while I was pushing it when the head got in she said what are you doing, I told her sorry honey the head slipped and I kept it in after around 20 seconds I started to push more, abit by bit until I got half of it in she started to love the feeling, finaly when the orgasm was close she told to to push it deeper and she started to swing her ass on my cock to take in and outa
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if ur worried about it hurting, try goin 2 a niteclub, buy a bottle of 'poppers' (amyl nitrite i think) it relaxes ur muscles and it makes ur orgasm last way longer. theyre legal 2 buy well not illegal anyway but hey do have side affects like a bit of a headache after wards but nuthin more then ud get from a few drinks, and they dont cost much either lol. worth a try imo if ur serious.
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Gawddamn Felix...you almost have me convinced to try this.
Pitching
Not catching.
How much lube you talk'n 'bout. A liter do the trick?
Pitching
Not catching.
How much lube you talk'n 'bout. A liter do the trick?
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Gawddamn Felix...you almost have me convinced to try this.
Not pitching
Catching.
How much lube you talk'n 'bout. A liter do the trick?
If you're interested in catching, meet me at Mel's diner in LA. Friday night around midnight, I'll find you. It's best to learn straight from the source. Shave down, take a nice warm shower and put on your favorite cologne. I'll be looking at those sexy pics of you to warm my pet dragon up. I know you're an experienced dude so I'll skip the first few steps. I'll even show you my "spit and stick" technique.
Let me know stud. We'll keep it on the down low...
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Anal can be great!! Take it slow and easy until you are used to it. I orgasm easily from anal, especially if I am fingering myself while he has his cock in my ass.