So I just started the process of coming out today, I came out to my mother as a bisexual and found the it to be incredibly difficult and was wondering do any of you have any advice to coming out to friends, or stories about coming out or just words of comfort and support.
There's a process to coming out?
Best of luck, and, if you don't mind, let us know how it works out. As a parent myself, I've often wondered how I'd react to my child 'coming out'.
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I've never really understood the whole coming out thing. Why is it anyone's business what sexual orientation you are. Just be true to yourself and be who you are and no need to volunteer that kind of information unless asked and you want to tell. As long as you're not hiding it from the people you are close to I say live and let live it's nobodies business anyway.
Bunny12
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Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! Dear Bunny, what you said is right for you and me. I think it's because we are older and don't feel the need to express ourselves as a very young person might.
Dear SadBi-Virgin, It'll get easier.
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
I am very lucky to have a tremendously open relationship with my daughter. I have been very accepting of her choice(s). My words to her have always been, "it doesn't matter the gender or the age (ok - must be legal!) of the person you love." I hope that her partner(s) love and respect her as she deserves.
My only words of advice, from a parent who's daughter is bi, is that you (SadBi-Virgin) can't expect them (parents) to be understanding if it is something completely foreign to their world. But, gentle guidance from you can make all things easier.
You go girl .... be yourself!
Love, Van
Thank you all for your kind words and please to others just coming out please come share your story.
I am a lesbian and when I came out of the closet to move in with a lady that i loved so much it was hell for about 6 months. I grow up in a small town and everyone knew me but had no idea that I was a lesbian. I still have people that will not talk to me that I have know all my life. I am very happy even after all of this has happened.
When I was really young, I told my mom that I thought I was a lesbian. And she just blew me off.
Then I matured, and realized that I really was sexually attracted to women. I never told my mom again though. I kind of agree with Bunny here. My sexual choices and preferences are only my business.
Well for me it is more a matter of if i wanna bring a girl home for the holidays, i don't want to go through the drama at that moment, i would perfer they know that i might bring a guy home or i might bring a girl home and if i am not welcome i want to know before rather than later.
When I told my mom I was bisexual, I was very surprised to hear her reaction, I thought for sure, she was going to blow up At me, like my friend's mom did to her when she told her mom she was bisexual, but it was nothing like that, my mom was totally cool with it. After I told her, we talked a bit, and I found out she was bisexual also. When I tell people that I am bisexual, it doesn't bother me if they accept me or not, I am who I am, and I am not going to change because someone doesn't like it.
good luck with your mum. However open minded and supportive your family are, they will probably have difficult feelings to deal with too. They may need a little time to say goodbye to the old you and to get to know the new one.
And if anyone in your small town can't accept it immediately remember you will soon be off in a new city with people who won't care who you are attracted to, they'll just want to get to know the person you are.
hope it goes well.
As someone already said, That term "Coming Out" makes it sound like you have committed a crime and are being released from prison. That is so wrong!
I never told my mom I was Bi. I knew I liked girls and boys at a young age. I think my mom suspected it but she never said anything. Then she died when I was 17 so we never discussed it. But I am sure she would have been OK with it since she was very open minded regarding sex. As I think back, I sometimes wonder if she was also Bi. My dad was pretty oblivious to eveything once my mom died. But when he eventually found out, he said it was my life and just to be happy. Since that time I have never flaunted my bisexuality but never tried to hide it either. And once I was divorced, I really didnt care if anyone found out anyhow . It was none of their business. If they liked me great, if not, it was their loss. And once my daughters were old enough to understand, I told them and they were fine with it as long as I was happy. My 2 oldest daughters, 20 and 18 are also Bi. We have discussed how their friends feel about it and if they have any issues at school. They tell me that their are many girls now in their age group that are Bi. It seems to be the "Chic" thing. Not surprising since so many of the younger Hollywood celebs claim to be Bi. It seems that Bisexuality among girls is more accepted than in the past. Being a lesbian still seems to be but at least it is getting better.
Unfortunatly for guys, it is still a problem! Like that poor boy at Rutgers University.
So I hope you have sucess in telling your parents. You are their daughter and I am sure they will love you no matter what. Same with your friends. If they are true friends they wont care.
Good Luck. I hope it all works out for you. Just be who you are and be Happy!!!
Ok so i sent a group letter to several of my friends over FB and those that have replied have been very supportive.
A frienof mine got me high as fuck on crank and I just told her ,,and told her to feel free to tell everyone else so when they saw me it wouldnt freak them out,,and she told any one who would listen