Quote by Harddesires
My wife and I have been together for 14 years. Over the last year her sex drive has gone completely away. We have had sex a handful of times over the last year and it hasn't been all that great. Mostly wam bam thank you mam... She used to be very active and loved to do kinkier things. We had a lot of great sex when we first got together but it is no longer happening. I have tried to initiate play and intimacy but am always turned away. Needless to say I am getting sick of taking care of myself knowing she is right next to me. She is a sexy attractive woman that I love very much but I can't go on like this anymore. I have discussed this with her many times and she says she is going to seek some help but it is taking forever for her to move forward. This morning she got angry at me for bringing it up again after she was gone all weekend. My question is what to to next? I have looked up sex therapists and Doctors the specialize in this area but here I sit waiting. HELP!!!
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I am a wife who has lost their libido.
Let me give you an insight into how i think.
OK SO. i get up, shit i look awful, got so much to do today, don't have 2 minutes to myself, wish i had time to shower, what shall i cook for dinner, need to do some housework,
Then it reaches 8am. I barely have time to think everyday let alone make sure i am freshly shaved, and ready at all times for sex.
I used to do kinky things for my husband as well but it got old. I got fed up with doing the same thing in the same order everytime.
My husband brought it up a while back and i HATED having my failings highlighted to me when i was already painfully aware of them
We have since made an effort to try and improve our relationship by going out once a month just for a pub lunch or cinema.
Instead of blaming her maybe look at yourself and see how you can help her.
Quote by Tukeefuck
What do you think the marital vow of "to HAVE and to HOLD" really mean? You think they're talking about hugging? She's breaking her vows by not letting you have her and hold her.
I would emphasize that you're done with this shot by moving yourself into the spare bedroom if you have one. If she gets unsettled by that action, tell her the next step is you moving out, followed by divorce.
Quote by vanessa26
Wow dude you are kind of a jerk, What about that part with FOR BETTER OR WORSE
what if she's depressed?
What if she's having health problems or stress
Relationships don't work when someone is refusing to look into the deeper side of things or being selfish
its not all about your sexual needs..
Quote by Tukeefuck
He said he's tried to work with her to resolve the issue such as to seek medical advice to get to the root of the problem. If she is aware of the conflict in the marriage and can't even be bothered to see a doctor to figure out what's going on, she's a bitch. She's basically saying his needs are so unimportant that she's not going to do anything about it.
As far as your opinion about me (saying I'm a jerk), your opinion means exactly jack shit to me. You are entirely unimportant.
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Quote by Tukeefuck
What do you think the marital vow of "to HAVE and to HOLD" really mean? You think they're talking about hugging? She's breaking her vows by not letting you have her and hold her.
I would emphasize that you're done with this shot by moving yourself into the spare bedroom if you have one. If she gets unsettled by that action, tell her the next step is you moving out, followed by divorce.
Quote by Milik_the_Red
That is an easy solution... if pussy is more important to you than love.
To ask for a divorce because she isn't easily aroused is the act of someone who isn't in love anymore. For me, it would be unthinkable. Okay, so my wife is a lushie with a libido like mine, but still, I would never contemplate dumping her because she wasn't responding to me. If that's how he feels, I am not at all surprised she doesn't want to have sex with him. She isn't a sex doll, she is a woman.
Has he tried romance? Making her feel he still loves her? There are so many ways he can show her that they can still be intimate. I mean, SHOW HER, not tell her. Take her on a cruise. Find out through paying attention to what is stressing her and relieve that stress. Marriage is a partnership, not a commitment to suck his cock on demand.
She is a wife, not a whore.
I'm done here.
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I'd ask you to read Milik_the-red(s) comment below for an "educated thoughtful comment" but obviously with your closed mind "He's obviously a fag. that's the only explanation.
Quote by Harddesires
My wife and I have been together for 14 years. Over the last year her sex drive has gone completely away. We have had sex a handful of times over the last year and it hasn't been all that great. Mostly wam bam thank you mam... She used to be very active and loved to do kinkier things. We had a lot of great sex when we first got together but it is no longer happening. I have tried to initiate play and intimacy but am always turned away. Needless to say I am getting sick of taking care of myself knowing she is right next to me. She is a sexy attractive woman that I love very much but I can't go on like this anymore. I have discussed this with her many times and she says she is going to seek some help but it is taking forever for her to move forward. This morning she got angry at me for bringing it up again after she was gone all weekend. My question is what to to next? I have looked up sex therapists and Doctors the specialize in this area but here I sit waiting. HELP!!!
Quote by Katherine
Tukeefuck is obviously not the voice to listen to here. Also, Sprite is joking, trying to lighten the mood a bit. Goodness.
You've got some good advice here. I'd take it. This stuff happens, especially in long term relationships. It can be tough, but I think most people who work together to find a way to happiness will tell you it's worth it. Good luck, my friend. ?
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by Milik_the_Red
Well, I am bisexual, so...
but I still stand by my post
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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sorry i called you the "f" word, apparently? in the future i will try harder to keep an open mind.![]()
Quote by shadowcat
I am a wife who has lost their libido.
Let me give you an insight into how i think.
OK SO. i get up, shit i look awful, got so much to do today, don't have 2 minutes to myself, wish i had time to shower, what shall i cook for dinner, need to do some housework,
Then it reaches 8am. I barely have time to think everyday let alone make sure i am freshly shaved, and ready at all times for sex.
I used to do kinky things for my husband as well but it got old. I got fed up with doing the same thing in the same order everytime.
My husband brought it up a while back and i HATED having my failings highlighted to me when i was already painfully aware of them
We have since made an effort to try and improve our relationship by going out once a month just for a pub lunch or cinema.
Instead of blaming her maybe look at yourself and see how you can help her.
Quote by Harddesires
I just got to thinking about this response as I was doing some house cleaning which I have done throughout my adult life as a husband and father. I got a little angry at first but then realized you are probably a selfish and unhappy person to begin with. I read some of your replies to form questions and I can see your not happy.
I am not blaming anyone for this issue I just wanted to know if anyone else has had this issue and could tell me how they handled the situation. I love my wife and want our relationship to flourish as it once did. I got some good advice from those that care and some bad advice from some assholes. Might I suggest you take care of your business before giving other your opinion.
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I just got to thinking about this response as I was doing some house cleaning which I have done throughout my adult life as a husband and father. I got a little angry at first but then realized you are probably a selfish and unhappy person to begin with. I read some of your replies to form questions and I can see your not happy.
I am not blaming anyone for this issue I just wanted to know if anyone else has had this issue and could tell me how they handled the situation. I love my wife and want our relationship to flourish as it once did. I got some good advice from those that care and some bad advice from some assholes. Might I suggest you take care of your business before giving other your opinion.
Quote by Tukeefuck
"What do you think the marital vow of "to HAVE and to HOLD" really mean? You think they're talking about hugging? She's breaking her vows by not letting you have her and hold her.
I would emphasize that you're done with this shot by moving yourself into the spare bedroom if you have one. If she gets unsettled by that action, tell her the next step is you moving out, followed by divorce."