The "Number"

5 Jun 2010

Quote by WellMadeMale
After our third 'date'...when she stopped by my house after work one afternoon (to see where and how I lived)...driving to her parent's house to pick up her two young children, this thirty nine year old woman...popped the Number Question to me, after she'd just spent 90 minutes (when she meant to spend just 5 minutes) engaged in all manner of hetero carnal deviance with me at a few locations in my crib.

She was a prettier, slightly more slender version of Ellen DeGeneres (in Ellen's best looking years).

She'd just performed combined acts of felching, Rusty Trombone, Cincinnati Bowtie, enjoyed a pearl necklace and begged me to give her a golden shower, near my pool.

Something told me that she was not The One I wanted to take home to meet my parents...as I finished spraying semen in her face and gawping mouth.

So, when she asked me what my Number was, I inflated it by 100, instead of my customary lying and dropping it down to some number between 8 and 20 (depending on how much I thought 'she' might be worthy a longer haul run at the theatres...so-to-speak).

I'll never forget the look on Debra's face, as she was all smiles and grins and lustful eyes in the moment of edging towards asking me...and the complete shock on her face...just after the syllables rained from my lips in a flippant, matter-of-fact manner.

She was speechless and looked as if I'd just slapped her with a sock full of steel washers. Ten minutes later she was just starting to come around as she mumbled something like..."Well, you know you're invited to come by this weekend and meet my little ones."

She tried to produce a phony smile as I opened the front door and let her out...

We only lasted 8 weeks...not even close to 9 and 1/2.

Best...story...ever!! hello1

What's a Cincinati Bowtie though??

5 Jun 2010

Quote by DamonX
Best...story...ever!! What's a Cincinati Bowtie though??

http://www.urbandictionary.com/ icon_smile

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

6 Jun 2010

I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.

6 Jun 2010

Quote by Loislane
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.

There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

6 Jun 2010

Quote by WellMadeMale
Quote by Loislane
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.

There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.

ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol

6 Jun 2010

Quote by Loislane
Quote by WellMadeMale
Quote by Loislane
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.

There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.

ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol

I actually love to share stories. It doesn't bother me at all. I think it helps find out what both partners are into. It's hard to convince girls that I will enjoy the fact that they've done some dirty stuff though. They always seem to be afraid that I'll think of them as "slut".

7 Jun 2010

Quote by DamonX
Quote by Loislane
Quote by WellMadeMale
Quote by Loislane
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.

There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.

ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol

I actually love to share stories. It doesn't bother me at all. I think it helps find out what both partners are into. It's hard to convince girls that I will enjoy the fact that they've done some dirty stuff though. They always seem to be afraid that I'll think of them as "slut".

You my dear are enlightened,most guys pretend to be enlightened and open about sex as long as it is someone else's girlfriend or wife's past they are asking about. I like all the baggage and sexual prowess and experience that comes with someone with a high number

7 Jun 2010

Seven years before I launched the NNB to Mrs Socked With Steel Washers, I had a similar conversation with my new partner, a just turned 24 year old.

I found this young woman to have much more possibility and hence fudged by several dozen and said, "I'm 32, and I surrendered my virginity half way through my 17th year on this planet...I've been parked on 19 for the last few years and I was hoping that 20 would be my last."

She looked at me and replied, "I got my cherry smashed at 19, right before I left for college. You're number 62. I went a little wild in college, when I slept with 56 men."

"You only spent two years at college your first go around, is what you told me yesterday?"

"Ok, so I went pretty wild."

Laughing my ass off, I said, "Did you ever go to class?"

"I fucked a few guys in classrooms."

That woman was a lot of fun. geek

For the first three years. happy8

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

7 Jun 2010

I don't really care how many people a guy has slept with, but I usually avoid the question. I don't really care and I don't really want to put a number on my sexual partners. But if I were in a relationship with someone and they asked I would say, if they can't accept me for me then we have no business being in a relationship.

8 Jun 2010

Quote by WellMadeMale
Quote by DamonX
Best...story...ever!! What's a Cincinati Bowtie though??

http://www.urbandictionary.com/

Haha. Reading that brought this to mind.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWWxk_uhpE

As for the original question.

I dunno. It shouldn't matter. But I can't say that it won't. I've never really been with anyone who I cared for enough (yet) for it to bother me, but I can't say for certain that it wouldn't. I do know that hearing kinky stories from the past is hot and I'm perfectly cool with that. But I don't know If I can handle knowing the exact amount of previous partners, in fact, I don't even know why I would want to know.

"Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it you can either run from it...or, learn from it." - Rafiki, The Lion King

10 Jun 2010

Like others have said in this thread: If it's a point of amused or titillating curiosity between a couple of sluts, I'll answer as honestly as I can. If it's that insecure comparison thing, I'll happily say that I don't remember the exact number, which is true. And I prefer my partners to have a history. Sluts are far more interesting than virgins, you know?

One of the many great things about my current relationship is that we have a unique history together. We were each other's college sweethearts and a couple of polyamorous sluts the entire while, then split up for about seven years. Since we were promiscuous together, there's no need to pretend that during our years apart we were chaste. Telling each other dirty stories is very frequent foreplay around here. And while neither of us is completely sure of our number, she now keeps a tally in a little notebook in hope of figuring hers out. It's cute, in a filthy slut kind of way.

11 Jun 2010

my number is.... 5,834,287,275,198,258,175,139,947.... or somewhere around there

11 Jun 2010

Damn, Dude beat me by 2 women.

12 Jun 2010

Quote by Revolution

Haha. Reading that brought this to mind.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWWxk_uhpE

That is about the funniest 90 seconds on film, I've ever tried to watch, without laughing.

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

16 Jun 2010

I believe strongly in "some things are better left unsaid" and not asked. My `number' is wayyyyyy higher than my husband and he doesn't even know what it is and it's probably better off that way. You wouldn't ask a ladies age or weight so why their number???? Shhh

17 Jun 2010

I find myself asking out of curiosity.
I've yet to find someone who's got a higher number than I do. (that I've been with)
His number doesn't matter to me, usually Im surprised about how "few" they've had.

17 Jun 2010

The number is not something I am particularly interested in one way or the other. It is not likely I will bring it up. I couldn't give a good estimate. I could tell you about women I have been with that I have fond memories but most likely I won't unless it servers some purpose.

20 Jul 2010

Quote by Dancing_Doll
I think as a woman's number gets higher, she starts to 'black out' certain experiences in her own mind to keep her number lower and see what she can avoid counting as something that increases her number (ie. Clinton's "I did not have sex with that woman" philosophy). And, even on a personal level, in so far as being bisexual, I don't even count female sex partners (those are freebies to me! LOL).

I think in the end, for those who keep track, you just end up with women lying to keep her numbers low, and men inflating to make themselves look like a stud. I'm not sure how meaningful these numbers end up being after the official stats have been rearranged.

Even among my female friends who have nothing to hide from me, many of them don't really count new partners anymore, they just have a broader range ie. under 20, under 50, over 50, or over 100.

I'm not even sure what's considered 'low mileage' vs 'high mileage' anymore...

I used to ask in my younger years (and no guy would ever agree to tell me once they hit their university years).

I'm not so concerned about numbers (provided they've led a 'safe sex' kind of lifestyle), but I do like hearing about sexual adventures and crazy sex stories from my partner's past because I find it hot to listen to those 'tales from the vault'... Quality over quantity has always been what's interested me. And that philosophy can be applied to my own 'number' as well.

Dancing Doll

How does one get on your Freebies List?
Whitney

20 Jul 2010

Why does anyone care? In one of the Sex and the City series Samantha was asked this question and with a puzzled look responded "This year?"

I know many of you guys want to be a girls first. Why is that I do not understand. It is a very important threshold for a woman, but the first time may not cause the band to play music that only she can hear. Most of us were not very good the first few times. So would you want to be the one who needs to teach of neophyte? I was not a good partner in my early years, but I promise you that you would have much more fun with me now than you did all those years ago.

Is there a rumor going around that there is a usage clause in a woman/mans sexual warranty? Please share with us what that number is? Would less than 10 make a partner acceptable and more than 50 throw a person into the reject bin.

Seems to this woman that the question should be not the quantity but the quality? flower

11 Sep 2010

Quote by Dancing_Doll
I think as a woman's number gets higher, she starts to 'black out' certain experiences in her own mind to keep her number lower and see what she can avoid counting as something that increases her number (ie. Clinton's "I did not have sex with that woman" philosophy). And, even on a personal level, in so far as being bisexual, I don't even count female sex partners (those are freebies to me! LOL).

I think in the end, for those who keep track, you just end up with women lying to keep her numbers low, and men inflating to make themselves look like a stud. I'm not sure how meaningful these numbers end up being after the official stats have been rearranged.

I'm not even sure what's considered 'low mileage' vs 'high mileage' anymore...

I'm not so concerned about numbers (provided they've led a 'safe sex' kind of lifestyle), but I do like hearing about sexual adventures and crazy sex stories from my partner's past because I find it hot to listen to those 'tales from the vault'... Quality over quantity has always been what's interested me. And that philosophy can be applied to my own 'number' as well.

I agree 100%.

11 Sep 2010

I don't care about numbers, however, I do get curious about the sexual experiences my partner has had, and would like to hear them. Numbers does not effect what I think about my partner. I agree with Dancing_Doll, that it is the quality that matters, not the quantity.

11 Sep 2010

I think the "rule" is that you're supposed to take a guy's number and divide it by 3 and take a girl's number and multiply it by 3.

12 Sep 2010

Personally, I don't want nor need to know my wife's number.
Love is about feelings and emotions NOT numbers.
That's for high school boys, who have to try and promote their manhood
Why would you even care?
LOVE conquers all...well, at least most, LOL

12 Sep 2010

When I was younger it did used to bother me, if I knew a guy had slept around I would avoid him I used to think it was un-cool and think that I couldn't handle that so stayed away. Now that I've had kids and been divorced, I couldn't care less how many women he's had as long as he's stayed healthy along the way. It is not something I even ask men these days, as long as he can make love to me and make me orgasm that's enough for me oh yeah and not to inhibited please - no shy guys that are shocked at what I used to get up to haha I like to learn new moves from you guys icon_smile

14 Sep 2010

The bigger the list the bigger the competition, if you're the competitive type. If i really need more than two hands to count it then she can just show me those test results and we're good lol

14 Sep 2010

Quote by HoneyBee000
When I was younger it did used to bother me, if I knew a guy had slept around I would avoid him I used to think it was un-cool and think that I couldn't handle that so stayed away. Now that I've had kids and been divorced, I couldn't care less how many women he's had as long as he's stayed healthy along the way. It is not something I even ask men these days, as long as he can make love to me and make me orgasm that's enough for me oh yeah and not to inhibited please - no shy guys that are shocked at what I used to get up to haha I like to learn new moves from you guys

Agree! I don't ask about how many partners. I think for me the higher the number of partners would make me wonder how long will the guy want to be with me before he moves on to greener pastures. So I would rather not know and enjoy whatever time I have with him while he is with me. I do like to talk about different experiences to discover likes and dislikes though.

14 Sep 2010

I don't even know what my number is. I can estimate, but I'm not exactly sure.

How about my fellow Lushers... Do you all know what your number is? I'm curious if there's a difference between the male and female responses.

14 Sep 2010

I tried to think back and figure this out. I know within ten or so- I think.

14 Sep 2010

I agree that the number shouldn't matter. Just stay healthy.

When my wife (then girlfriend) really pressed this issue I truthfully confessed my number as best as I could recall and was assailed with all sorts of unflattering comments as to my virtue (then why the f*ck did she ask???!!). Obviously, my wife's stated number was significantly lower thus giving her the moral high ground in her eyes. Then, over the years she would again interrogate me and I would again answer truthfully...which is another reason I am so glad I never lied because it is easier to recall the truth ***smug grin spreads across face***

So.......

....why the f*ck, on our 21st wedding anniversary, did my wife feel the need to confess that her number was actually higher? Silly cow. Yes, I was pissed for about 2 minutes, then figured I could give a shit. She originally 'lied' because she didn't want to think she was a slut, then cornered herself in a lie for 20+ years as she tried to determine if I had originally lied.

The moral? If it's love, we don't give a hoot about how 'used' you might be. It's just a number.

"Whoa, lady, I only speak two languages, English and bad English." - Korben Dallas, from The Fifth Element

"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw

14 Sep 2010

There is also the 'rule of three' to apply too... should your bf/gf give you a number.

Divide the man's number by 3.... and multiply the woman's number by 3. Not scientific I admit... but there may be just a little of truth behind it, though I'm sure no man or woman would ever admit it!