My marriage isn´t completely sexless, but very frequent.
I just wondered what people thought about getting the sex elsewhere if you still loved your partner and it was just the sex that you weren´t compatible with any more?
NO definitly not, if your in a marriage you should be commited to life together no matter what.
If you do feel the need to cheat , then you should leave . As that say once a cheater always a cheater.
No, no and NO!
There are 1001 reasons why your marriage could be sexless and the way to fix it is to talk through it not fuck someone else!
Generally something has gone wrong ina marriage if the sexual contact has stopped. I lasted five years, supporting the family and then the only way i could survive longer was to pay for escorts
guys like this keep girls like me in the money lol
If you need to cheat in a sexless marriage, you need counseling. If that doesn't work you need to consider divorce.
here is a question, why would anybody be ok with a sexless marriage?
It's not so much about being ok with a sexless marriage.
What the other women are saying is that cheating is sort of the easy way out. If you're married then you have an obligation to your partner to try and make things work as much as possible. This is where communication comes into play. If both partners talk openly and keep communicating then there should be a solution which works for both. If all fails then divorce is the final option.
Personally I would agree that cheating is the easy way out. Doing the right thing and actually act like a grown-up is hard to do at times but you owe it to yourself to follow this through. Unfortunately a lot of people can't manage to hold it together and mess around, with all the obvious hurtful consequences.
Maybe I sound like an arrogant and self-proclaimed morally superior person but I am not even capable of cheating. I have never done it and never will.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
God Almighty !!! (if such a deity exists - and I doubt it) At the risk of being shot down in flames yet again by my hypocritical counterparts - usually American - and usually female .. can I state my point.
Marriage, certainly in the UK is alive and well - but then so is the incidence of extra-marital affairs. I know not of any marriage whereby both parties are serenely happy. Don't know of a single couple who after 3 or 4 years can honestly (hand on heart) say they are just as sexually compatible as they were on their wedding night.
A male was never intended to be monogamous - and in this day and age neither are females. Show me any... supposedly .... happily married male and I'll show you a potential adulterer. If anything .. the sexless marriage is alive and well.
Now let's have the onslaught.
Hi there WillinBK ... can't wait to hear about your latest sexy exploits in Thailand. You're my kind of guy.
Nothing is more dead under the sexual sun than a sexless marriage - and of course - because it's human nature to seek out pastures new - the idea .... and indeed the reality of having affairs must be given the status of being acceptable.
Ej69, I think you need to talk to your wife about these issues. Seems like lack of communication is the biggest problem here.
I AM one of those victims of a sexless marriage. Her reasons are not medical as far as we know... its just that she never did have a high sex drive. Our solution was simple... I can go out any time I please to fullfill my sexual needs as long as she doesn't hear about it. Its a don't ask... don't tell solution.
<"I think this situation is fine, its all about personal preference, as long as you are both fine with the situation then who is anyone else to judge. But if you're going to go out, fuck around and lie to your other half just because you wanna get some.... thats just not on in my book"
I agree with M. Monroe. It is not the act that's wrong, it is the lying.
Cheating?= NO WAY!!!! if you are talking an open marriage? then why not if your husband/wife is ok with it then why not? Otherwise the lying is a BIG deal breaker.
Are you my long lost twin? Lol.
Well, cheating is never okay. But if the marriage is going to end up in divorce anyway, go find yourself someone that wants you.
To Cheat in marriage - I am presuming meaning the partner doesn't know - is not favourable in my world. If the marriage is open - I guess that's the ticket. Myself, I would not be able to function well in an open marriage.
Life is toooooo short to be "stuck" in a sexless marriage - I vote, hang it up!
Then, make your ex-partner your best friend and companion and be available to find someone who makes a marriage complete.
Van
I know most often sexless marriages did not start out that way and for whatever the reason the men I have known that are in sexless marriages do not or can not leave their wives because of children, financial reasons or they really do love their wives and do not want to leave them. The world is never perfect and sometimes you must just work with what you have. I see no reason a little discrete sexual outlet should be a problem if circumstances call for it. If I found out my hubby was cheating would I leave him - hell NO I'd just tell him to bring her home she can help with the housework!!! Yep turn her into my house bitch! hehehe But that's just me and I guess I'm not typical. The whole thing just depends on what is acceptable to you personally which is different for everyone.
Bunny12
Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off!