Needhelp from the ladies very badly

2 Oct 2014

Okay ladies I really am at wits end and see no way to solve this issue.I am 65, nice looking, dress neatly, causally, (N0 freaking velcro for me) and people say I am hot for my age. I still love sex, able to get it up many times daily, love it all and now come the problem.

My wife of 36 years still excites me, we all age but she still gets the fires burning and I 'd do anything to please her. During our marriage I strayed and she strayed but we always came back together, our sex lives were always hot, adventurous, experimental, there never was a "NO" to anything we both suggested to try.

THEN the bottom fell out. She had per-cancerous cyst on her ovaries, her sister had just gone thru breast cancer and her OB/GYN suggested she have her ovaries removed...as well as a partial hysterectomy........ and due to her family history she shouldn't use hormones So the years pasted, no reappearances of cysts etc but her sex drive disappeared....we argued and almost split many times over the nil to none sex drive and desires she once had. I researched and researched and found the fucking doctor could have left something for her. Hormones are out of the questions, she has literally dried inside, atrophied to the extent my finger hurts her.

I thought it was me and suggested she was okay to experiment with other men, party, swinging, even bi but that isn't the case. She talks as if she wants to regain the feelings and passion again but has no idea how. she had tried lubes/gels/natural ingredients and is considering having a total hysterectomy if that would help....................

So I am begging for help, anyone that has had this issue and found a solution please help. Suggestions, advice is appreciated.

I do not want to cheat but damn it gets hard to lay in bed and want someone so badly and can't share her.
beat_deadhorse

8 Oct 2014

Tell her to hold a flesh light for you while you fuck it.

8 Oct 2014

Her mouth and ass are still intact, no? Whether or not her pussy is shrunken and dried-out, it sounds like functionality is less at issue here than her loss of sex-drive, which may be psychological, not hormonal. You could still enjoy oral and anal sex, but if a woman no longer feels sexy, or even like a woman, she may need another kind of help other than medical.

8 Oct 2014

well.....suggest taking her to shop for lingerie or leather....to stir the pot if you will, then court her....take your time a rose will bloom in time....perhaps let her see you pleasuring yourself in her honour....take what you want and leave the rest....Redd

8 Oct 2014

Quote by reddeville18
take your time a rose will bloom in time...

I think she's in her sixties, dude. Not sure taking more time is the answer. Look, not trying to be insensitive but I think the rose bloomed long ago and is more like one of those flattened roses you find in some book.

8 Oct 2014

Quote by Magical_felix

I think she's in her sixties, dude. Not sure taking more time is the answer. Look, not trying to be insensitive but I think the rose bloomed long ago and is more like one of those flattened roses you find in some book.

8 Oct 2014

Quote by Maryana

8 Oct 2014

Okay, my first suggestion would be that she see another gynecologist, perhaps one specialising in geriatrics (yes, these exist). My second would be, NO HYSTERECTOMY. The uterus is not some inanimate organ; it actually produces assorted hormones that do have an effect on her sex drive. The third would be, suggest that she see a psychologist or psychiatrist; low sex drive can be a symptom of depression (although, unfortunately, some of the meds used to treat depression themselves lower sex drive, so there's that.). Good luck.

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8 Oct 2014

You can also gently suggest that she speak to her doctor about her lowered desire. Some women take testosterone supplements after ovary removal with positive results, one of them being an _*increased sex drive.*

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11 Oct 2014

If she legitimately is losing her sex drive, instead of cheating, have you considered talking to her about an open relationship? Just tell her everything you told us (though perhaps in different words), and see what she thinks.