I don't understand what the big issue is... Once I had a girl leave me because of the fact that I love screamo music. I don't understand. I don't care about what my lover listens to—if they like it, they like it. Why is it such a big deal to some people?
Maybe she had a headache.
I don't think it's a big deal if you and your lover have different musical tastes, but it is then incumbent on you not to inflict those tastes on each other. That's where the tension is going to come in. I like a lot of music that my partner does not due to my broad taste in music. I listen to my music in the car, at work, or using headphones if at home.
Of course, there are always going to be some people who absolutely hate some kind of music or other and thinks anyone who listens to it is batshit crazy. I'm kind of like that about boy bands, though I'm not sure I'd leave someone for listening to them (see my first paragraph, though). Perhaps your lover felt that way about screamo (whatever that is)?
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That's pretty extreme. Breaking up over music? Sounds immature. How old is she?
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Not even sure what scremo music is and me a d.j too.
could be you enjoying something she hates. Could be a bad memory for her. she could be very closed minded about trying new music. She could be a control freak. So many different reasons
Or there were other reasons as well, and the music was just the excuse. In most cases this is what happens. Same as when people argue or fight over what seems like a silly issue, the real problem isn't that "topic". I would bet the music was not the real reason at all.
Something I've never understood is how some people get jealous of your relationship with something (rather than another person). Many fellow guitar players say their girlfriends express that they love their guitars more than the girlfriend whereas to me they are totally different things - I was lucky I was married to another guitar vocalist so she never said that even when I did gigs without her. I am not referring to any opportunity to meet other women just the instrument itself. By doing this they stand a good chance of ruining the relationship not because we like guitars more than partners but something we feel deeply about shouldn't be tampered with and to do so displays a lack of sensitivity and selfishness thus making the partner less attractive accordingly.
Depends how much you listened to it
I'm told the loudest scream in rock history is Roger Daltry at the end of the lead break in Won't Get Fooled Again dunno if that counts but it's great!!!! The Pick of Doom illustrated this to perfection.
I think it would annoy the shit out of me if my partner had music on that I hated all of the time. Generally though I like a massive variety of music so the would be a difficult ish accomplishment.
A friend of mine split with a girl (going back 20+ years) because she liked bands like The Cure and Sisters of Mercy etc. She had a mildly goth style to her.
He seemed to have some hang-up about all that.
Anyway, some years later, his music taste changed and he found he really liked The Cure. So it shows how dumb it was for him to see the music as an issue between them.
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Oooh - screamo is a tough one to warm up to if you're not into it.
Having said that - if you don't share similar music interests it's not a deal breaker - that's what separate iPods are for.
If music is a major part of your weekend activities though - like going to specific clubs every Thurs-Sat that only feature one kind of music, I can see how it could factor into not having enough in common to make it work if neither is willing to compromise. Plus in some cases music is more a culture and has deeper influences than just something you listen to. Like if one person wants to spend every weekend rolling on X and partying at electronica/house music clubs or raves and the other person hates that music and doesn't touch drugs so they don't want to be partying until the sun comes up, you can see how this couple is going to have issues - just as far as their social scenes meshing enough to have fun together. Or if she spends the weekend at your place and you tend to have screamo on at full decibel constantly - that could be annoying too if she hates it. Compromise is key.
Beyond that though - yeah, I agree with other posters that it's probably just an excuse when it's really something else that's at the root of why she wants to break up.
Nobody should ever break up with someone because of what music they like, that's pretty rude. You shouldn't have to conform to the other persons musical taste to keep them happy, imagine how boring and dull it would be if everyone listened to the same music!
I'm kind of on the fence about this. On one hand I think it's pretty shitty to break up with someone because of their musical tastes (maybe there were other reasons she didn't want to tell you about?), but on the other hand I'd feel pretty annoyed if my partner constantly listened to a genre I hated at obnoxious levels.
For example, if I was with a guy (or girl) who constantly listened to rap I'd probably feel like stabbing myself in the ears after a while. Perhaps, for your ex, music incompatibility/that particular genre was a pet-peeve she simply couldn't bring herself to tolerate. It's kind of weird, but it is what it is, I guess. Even I have certain break-up worthy peeves that some people would probably look at me askance for.
Anyways! If she broke up with you for such a stupid reason then you guys probably wouldn't have lasted that long anyway, no offense. I wouldn't mourn the loss of that relationship too much as it's obvious she wasn't as invested in it as you might have been.