Is cyber sex cheating?

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My ex-wife had a big problem with masturbation both before and after we were married. She caught me once after we got married. I never let her catch me again. It was funny because she had turned me down for like 3 days in a row. Finally I had to do something. There was no porn involved other than the images in my head. But oh did she get mad when she walked into the bathroom and caught me.

I continued to jack off but I never got caught again.

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My ex-wife had a big problem with masturbation both before and after we were married. She caught me once after we got married. I never let her catch me again. It was funny because she had turned me down for like 3 days in a row. Finally I had to do something. There was no porn involved other than the images in my head. But oh did she get mad when she walked into the bathroom and caught me.

I continued to jack off but I never got caught again.

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Simple answer - YES IT IS. as many have said, if you cannot tell your partner about it, it is cheating.

I am guilty of this as my partner does not know of my online escapades. She is very sexual and there is no shortage of sex at home. However, no matter how much we have it is never enough for me. Often we have to take a couple days off because I worked her over a bit too hard.

I assume online is less cheating, I don't know...there I am trying to justifying myself. I used to tell myself if my dick is not actually in another person then it is not cheating. But emotional cheating is just the same as physical cheating. Am I proud of where I am?...I am not, but I honestly enjoy being able to live out my wildest fantasies that my partner does not share with me.

That is enough ranting for now I guess.

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I have a real problem with women that purposefully deny their men sex, and then get edgy when it somehow demonstrates itself in their relationship. If it bothered her, she should have given you an alternative pleasure.

Ok, back to the topic.

Depends. I personally don’t think it’s cheating. My partner and I aren’t sexually compatible and choose be together anyway. That makes a healthy sexual relationship with myself extra important. To me it’s just porn+.

I’ve casually told my boyfriend about Lush and cybering in the past. He wasn’t a huge fan but allows me to explore and have fun. Just as long as it remains online, and I don’t share my face or personal details.

I took that convo as the a-okay and haven’t brought it up since. To be honest, it does get a little iffy when I let guys on Lush remote control my We Vibe. If the chat connection strong and they know what they’re doing…. it’s so good. And definitely intimate.

Depends on what's allowed in your relationship. I've caught my wife cybering. She thought it was cheating until I told her I didn't mind.

Only if you cam w/out your bf/gf/wife/husband knowing.

In the written word, it's like sharing poetry.

Mik knows that I sex chat and once in a blue moon will voice chat in a sexual manner but no longer sexual cam w/ babes. Just, nono.

There is no universal rule. Every couple defines cheating a little differently, so why are you asking us? Ask your partner!

Not ready to do that? Fine. Ask yourself: would my partner be hurt if they found out I was doing this? Relationships aren’t about legalism and rules and technicalities, they’re about caring for each other. Cheating is if you’re hurting your partner. Real simple.

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My ex-wife had a big problem with masturbation both before and after we were married. She caught me once after we got married. I never let her catch me again. It was funny because she had turned me down for like 3 days in a row. Finally I had to do something. There was no porn involved other than the images in my head. But oh did she get mad when she walked into the bathroom and caught me.

I continued to jack off but I never got caught again.

I know what Dan Savage would say: DTMFA! Although it’s more complicated if you have kids together. Still, no one should own another person sexually like that. That’s the definition of slavery, not of marriage.

I would say no it's not

My wife cybers with guys she likes. She was embarrassed when I caught her and felt like it was cheating. I told her that I don't mind. So I don't think so, she did. Now that it's understood that it's allowed. It's not considered cheating for us.

If it is a one time only, with a total stranger that you don't even know what he/she looks like, then I guess you could say it is the equivalent of masturbation. And masturbation is not cheating! I hope it is not against site rules to write this, but [removed by mod] masturbation is healthy.

If it is a repeat action with someone you know, even if you never met in person, and is done without the knowledge of your partner, then it is definitely cheating.

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If it is a repeat action with someone you know, even if you never met in person, and is done without the knowledge of your partner, then it is definitely cheating.

Still not cheating.

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Still not cheating.

So, the hypothetical situation where your partner is repeatedly looking online for the same person and masturbates after/or while chatting/calling/video calling that person, thinking of her, imagining it how he would fuck her, and he hides all these from you, doesn’t look like cheating to you!? Then you are a better person than me!

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So, the hypothetical situation where your partner is repeatedly looking online for the same person and masturbates after/or while chatting/calling/video calling that person, thinking of her, imagining it how he would fuck her, and he hides all these from you, doesn’t look like cheating to you!? Then you are a better person than me!

I am better than all, its a known fact.

Your above response was more detailed.

We will agree that if bf/gf/husband/wife is in fact camming/sending pics in the sexual nature w/ some random online w/out their partners knowledge, then it is cheating.

I've stated a similar response in some other thread.

If your spouse does not know or approves - yes !

From my perspectinve; no.

I would only consider it cheating if people were swapping nudes, or doing it in the presence of their partner without them knowing.

When we are apart I sometimes Roleplay/Cyber to get off and my BF watches porn to do the same - which is fine by me.

One is reading the written word, the other is watching videos, both are tailored to what the individual needs in that moment.

Is there any real difference between the two?

What little cybersex I have participated in on Lush would hardly qualify as cheating. I have no one to cheat on but if I did my expectations would be vastly more than experienced here.

My husband knows and approves, I always tell him afterwards, because whilst it is arousing, it is not enough.

There is no shortage of sex in our relationship, whoever described it as Porn+ is absolutely right.

However doing this without the knowledge of their partner, it"s cheating. That is their problem though, not mine.

I have someone who I have been cybering with for a couple of years now. We never exchange photos, hardly any real information. We’re both married. She messages me when she needs, I do the same, so we help one another. It’s not always sex. We pretend to be someone else as an escape. I consider her a great friend. It’s great therapy. I wouldn’t take it back.