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I have a few secret crushes on Lush whom I wouldn't mind meeting up for some casual sex lmao
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I have a few secret crushes on Lush whom I wouldn't mind meeting up for some casual sex lmao
Me too!
Time to make your move ladies!
Constant Gardener
Online mating, err...dating, used to be a helluva lot more fun in the early days of teh internets.
I've enjoyed it off and on since late 1998 (and I thought I was late to the party, then). I have my own theory for why it was, but in my current role as a moderator, I can't really say why that is. Too divisive.
I've used AFF since it was free for men to do so. Created an account in December 1998, when their inflated numbers of 'members' were being stated at 2 million worldwide. More likely it was 200,000 active and the rest were accounts that had been created and abandoned. I started paying the yearly membership fee in the summer of 2002, and I had/have no regrets whatsoever. I met some flakes, for sure...but I also met a number of very interesting women who were not head cases.
I've not used AFF since late summer of 2007, so not really sure what's going on there, the last 2.5 years.
If you're honest with yourself and hence honest with those you're attempting to meet with, then you're going to run into about the same number of whacknuts as you will, on a series of blind dates set up for you by well-intentioned friends...or, by just cruising your favorite half dozen nightclubs. You never really know about someone, in the first few dates anyway, do you?
It's just another way to meet women (for me) who respond to my written words, and don't find me too arrogant or off-putting. I get to put what I consider my best three or four 'recent' photos online - and if you agree to meet me in person at a public venue, I will look like the guy you see in the photographs. If 'you' don't...depending on our email or chat conversations, I'll try to be a wellmademale and be polite, have a cocktail or two and then end the date.
Usually where I've agreed to meet someone on a semi-blind-date situation like that, I don't want to show my ass by stamping my feet, throwing a mini-fit or launching into tirade about some perceived 'lie' or misunderstanding. Hell, other people would see me being a jerk.
Online dating has never held a 'stigma' in my mind, but it has for some of the women I met that way.
"Don't tell my folks or my friends how we met, please."
"okay (chucking to myself) whatever"
RmKPqME6EXiBcnKF, Yahoo, Match.com, Matchmaker, Alt.Matchmaker, Alt.com -- I've used them all at various times with varying degrees of 'success' and that's being generous with the term success. I have met half a dozen women since 1999 who I'm still friendly with, although not dating/mating anymore. And I met several others who I didn't feel any chemistry with towards escalating a physical relationship, who have become friends of mine.
I think it's a good way to meet women.
I just wish I'd have started an online pay-to-play, dating service in 1999 like Nicola's done with this story website.
I've enjoyed it off and on since late 1998 (and I thought I was late to the party, then). I have my own theory for why it was, but in my current role as a moderator, I can't really say why that is. Too divisive.
I've used AFF since it was free for men to do so. Created an account in December 1998, when their inflated numbers of 'members' were being stated at 2 million worldwide. More likely it was 200,000 active and the rest were accounts that had been created and abandoned. I started paying the yearly membership fee in the summer of 2002, and I had/have no regrets whatsoever. I met some flakes, for sure...but I also met a number of very interesting women who were not head cases.
I've not used AFF since late summer of 2007, so not really sure what's going on there, the last 2.5 years.
If you're honest with yourself and hence honest with those you're attempting to meet with, then you're going to run into about the same number of whacknuts as you will, on a series of blind dates set up for you by well-intentioned friends...or, by just cruising your favorite half dozen nightclubs. You never really know about someone, in the first few dates anyway, do you?
It's just another way to meet women (for me) who respond to my written words, and don't find me too arrogant or off-putting. I get to put what I consider my best three or four 'recent' photos online - and if you agree to meet me in person at a public venue, I will look like the guy you see in the photographs. If 'you' don't...depending on our email or chat conversations, I'll try to be a wellmademale and be polite, have a cocktail or two and then end the date.
Usually where I've agreed to meet someone on a semi-blind-date situation like that, I don't want to show my ass by stamping my feet, throwing a mini-fit or launching into tirade about some perceived 'lie' or misunderstanding. Hell, other people would see me being a jerk.
Online dating has never held a 'stigma' in my mind, but it has for some of the women I met that way.
"Don't tell my folks or my friends how we met, please."
"okay (chucking to myself) whatever"
RmKPqME6EXiBcnKF, Yahoo, Match.com, Matchmaker, Alt.Matchmaker, Alt.com -- I've used them all at various times with varying degrees of 'success' and that's being generous with the term success. I have met half a dozen women since 1999 who I'm still friendly with, although not dating/mating anymore. And I met several others who I didn't feel any chemistry with towards escalating a physical relationship, who have become friends of mine.
I think it's a good way to meet women.
I just wish I'd have started an online pay-to-play, dating service in 1999 like Nicola's done with this story website.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
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I just wish I'd have started an online pay-to-play, dating service in 1999 like Nicola's done with this story website.
There is one important difference, this site is and always will be free.
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I have a few secret crushes on Lush whom I wouldn't mind meeting up for some casual sex lmao
I've only been here on Lush for a few days, and I've already gotten to be the same way.
"Nos laetus epulor qui would domito nos. (We gladly feast on those who would subdue us.)"
"Nil satis nisi optimum. (Nothing but the best will do.)"
"I hate it when things don't go my way. It makes me so...horny." - Sarah Michelle Gellar (Kathryn, Cruel Intentions)
"Sex is just alone time with someone else there." - Taint on The Lex And Terry Show, 11/11/09
"Stupidity isn't a crime, so you're free to go."
"I am The Devil, too. There can only be one devil. One of us must go." - Ozzy Osbourne at the end of his cover of "Sympathy For The Devil"
"Your ego is not your amigo." - Nikki Sixx, The Heroin Diaries
"It's my world. I'm just letting you live here." - Mandy, The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy
"Nil satis nisi optimum. (Nothing but the best will do.)"
"I hate it when things don't go my way. It makes me so...horny." - Sarah Michelle Gellar (Kathryn, Cruel Intentions)
"Sex is just alone time with someone else there." - Taint on The Lex And Terry Show, 11/11/09
"Stupidity isn't a crime, so you're free to go."
"I am The Devil, too. There can only be one devil. One of us must go." - Ozzy Osbourne at the end of his cover of "Sympathy For The Devil"
"Your ego is not your amigo." - Nikki Sixx, The Heroin Diaries
"It's my world. I'm just letting you live here." - Mandy, The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy
Constant Gardener
One person's observation - from June 2002.
56 reviews for AFF - it runs about 90% thumbs down. I wonder why that is...I never sexperienced the levels of hatred that these people are indicating they have for that site.
Could it be that some of our expectations exceed reality?
56 reviews for AFF - it runs about 90% thumbs down. I wonder why that is...I never sexperienced the levels of hatred that these people are indicating they have for that site.
Could it be that some of our expectations exceed reality?
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Alpha Blonde
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One person's observation - from June 2002.
56 reviews for AFF - it runs about 90% thumbs down. I wonder why that is...I never sexperienced the levels of hatred that these people are indicating they have for that site.
Could it be that some of our expectations exceed reality?
It's always going to be harder for a guy to connect with the kind of girl he's probably hoping for on a site like that... as one of the comments stated, there are 900,000 men registered on that site, with only 90,000 women... those aren't very good odds. When you figure some of those females might be webcam girls or other sex industry girls looking to build their clientele base, you have to wade through a lot of profiles as a guy to find a genuinely decent horny little slut who is game to meet up!
Women can go into any bar and just find a guy to hook up with if it's just about sex, so they are probably less inclined to look on the internet.
I think the same sex connections on AFF are probably a lot more successful since if you're bi-curious or secretly-bisexual, you're more likely to want to find a more discreet way of finding like-minded people.
I know many of you kids do not have the time to search for a relationship as it was done in the past generations. But online dating can open a lot of doors, you just need to be very cautious of what is behind the door.
People that I have met on Lush that seem nice and someone you may want to know better, if they are users of either the chat room or especially the forum it will reveal a lot about themselves. If you meet someone of interest read what he/she writes, I think it will point you in the right direction.
First meeting should be in a very public place, not dinner, not drinks, but maybe just coffee, maybe the second time also.
If he/she wants to move faster than that you are provided a whole portfolio of information to make your decision on.
This is coming form a woman who has been married to the same man for many years, but has had many other relationships too. I read people very well on a one on one basis, a get paid well to do the same in my profession.
People that I have met on Lush that seem nice and someone you may want to know better, if they are users of either the chat room or especially the forum it will reveal a lot about themselves. If you meet someone of interest read what he/she writes, I think it will point you in the right direction.
First meeting should be in a very public place, not dinner, not drinks, but maybe just coffee, maybe the second time also.
If he/she wants to move faster than that you are provided a whole portfolio of information to make your decision on.
This is coming form a woman who has been married to the same man for many years, but has had many other relationships too. I read people very well on a one on one basis, a get paid well to do the same in my profession.
I personally can't say anything bad about it. I met a girl online and dated her for 14 months after meeting her in person. We had a beautiful relationship but I just wasn't ready to go the extra step for marriage and screwed it up. But it can be a scary thing. There are some freaks out there!
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Believe that online dating can be a good way to meet people. It just opens a new door to wider possibilities. I don't believe there is anything wrong with it. It's just another form of finding a potential mate. My friend has met her most recent boyfriend online and found out that he goes to a college close to hers. They met and I can say that she is a happy person. I also met my boyfriend online. We have been doing long distance for about three years now. When we met, we instantly clicked.
When a person decides to get involved in an online/long distance relationship, it is important to remember to have as much communication and honesty as possible. Webcams, , any form of instant messaging program, email, etc really help as well.
When a person decides to get involved in an online/long distance relationship, it is important to remember to have as much communication and honesty as possible. Webcams, , any form of instant messaging program, email, etc really help as well.
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I met a boy in high school.
We didn't hit it off then.
He was WAY too intense.
And I enjoy laughing too much.
We stayed friends.
I moved to China.
We lost touch. (curse you Great Firewall of China!!!!)
Again, we met up online.
Chatted for ages.
So I went to visit.
Had a fabulous time.
Short choppy sentences... such fun!!!
Seriously... online dating? Whatever. It doesn't really matter where you meet a person, how you meet a person, where a person comes from. All that matters is that you compliment the other (and not just oh wow! You cut your hair! How nice! but the I mean your strengths and weakness, beleifs etc... compliment the other) and you hit it off.
Online dating is grand fun. It is a meeting of the minds, a place where you really must communicate with your partner and voice your thoughts and opinions. It gives you the courage to be you without societies sillyness. And when you meet? All the more fun.
I've met a quite a few people from online, as friends, and I've always had a blast and enjoyed myself. Even with my online friends, meeting them in real life was nerve racking for me. And the hardest part of it all, was remembering we were face to face and I did not have to type.
We didn't hit it off then.
He was WAY too intense.
And I enjoy laughing too much.
We stayed friends.
I moved to China.
We lost touch. (curse you Great Firewall of China!!!!)
Again, we met up online.
Chatted for ages.
So I went to visit.
Had a fabulous time.
Short choppy sentences... such fun!!!
Seriously... online dating? Whatever. It doesn't really matter where you meet a person, how you meet a person, where a person comes from. All that matters is that you compliment the other (and not just oh wow! You cut your hair! How nice! but the I mean your strengths and weakness, beleifs etc... compliment the other) and you hit it off.
Online dating is grand fun. It is a meeting of the minds, a place where you really must communicate with your partner and voice your thoughts and opinions. It gives you the courage to be you without societies sillyness. And when you meet? All the more fun.
I've met a quite a few people from online, as friends, and I've always had a blast and enjoyed myself. Even with my online friends, meeting them in real life was nerve racking for me. And the hardest part of it all, was remembering we were face to face and I did not have to type.
Living life and enjoying life are two different things... just need to figure out how to do both at the same time to live it right!
Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China.
Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China.
I agree with most, that it does not matter where you meet some one, it is who you meet. A person can pretend to be anyone they want to in real life or over the internet. With the internet, unless you cam with someone, you have to take there word on what they look like. And yes they can send you a picture of there self or anyone else and claim to be them. So that is the only part that makes it different. I met my wife on line and we have been happily married for 5 years now, And we met an a swingers site.
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It's pretty acceptable today but I have never personally met someone in real life yet I have been told it can be scary as hell from several friends guys and gals.
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Both of my parents have met partners from online. My dad chatted to someone with months before going to Russia for a month to meet her. They both came back to England and their relationship lasted over a year. I was pretty young so don't remember what eventually went wrong.
My mum met her current husband off the internet, but I don't think they chatted before they met (some sort of match making thing?). I wasn't really told the details. They started dating six years ago, and have been married for three. I think their relationship is one that will last.
My mum met her current husband off the internet, but I don't think they chatted before they met (some sort of match making thing?). I wasn't really told the details. They started dating six years ago, and have been married for three. I think their relationship is one that will last.
Advanced Wordsmith
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I do not know why but am sort of scared to try it.....WHR43 you are incredible and I am trying to guess what you have about me so far ;)
Don't be scared to try it. It can be a little like dating in real life, only, you're stuck behind a computer. It is also a good opportunity to make friends.
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I do not know why but am sort of scared to try it.....WHR43 you are incredible and I am trying to guess what you have about me so far ;)
Don't be scared to try it. It can be a little like dating in real life, only, you're stuck behind a computer. It is also a good opportunity to make friends.
Yes it's great/fab/horny to meet over the net - BUT; please for the love of astrology please KISS and have SEX and meet each other more than you do over the net thing.
Alpha Blonde
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I have a few secret crushes on Lush whom I wouldn't mind meeting up for some casual sex lmao
Me too!
Time to make your move ladies!
yeah why not I'm a movin Doll.............whoosh!
Woohoo! Go Honeybee!
Active Ink Slinger
I actually met my wife compliments of Match.com...we've been happily married the past five and a half years. It's a double edged sword. I've met some real losers, but then again I met the first woman who had to "prove" to me that some women swallowed (and that was our first date) LOL. My only advice would be male or female always meet in a public place until you are comfortable with one another, and if it doesn't work out, don't pursue it. Everybody has their own taste.
Active Ink Slinger
I met my husband online. Ages ago we both frequented an adult board for webmasters called GFY. Mine was a woman's erotica site. His was a site devoted to redheads. After finding we lived in the same state and had mutual friends in the business both online and in real life, we decided it was meant to be and started dating. I seriously doubt I could have met someone with such shared interests in the real world as easily.
amor est spiritus qui nos alet
love is the breath that sustains us
love is the breath that sustains us
It can't work. I would never meet someone in real life that I had met first on a website. And if I did, there is no way I would end up spending hours playing with her, and not wanting her to ever leave. Plus, even if that ever happened, I'm 100% sure that she couldn't also turn out to be an interesting person that I enjoy talking to and being around even when we're not playing. And actually starting to like her and care for her? Are you nuts? That's just a fairy tale that would never happen in real life.
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It can't work. I would never meet someone in real life that I had met first on a website. And if I did, there is no way I would end up spending hours playing with her, and not wanting her to ever leave. Plus, even if that ever happened, I'm 100% sure that she couldn't also turn out to be an interesting person that I enjoy talking to and being around even when we're not playing. And actually starting to like her and care for her? Are you nuts? That's just a fairy tale that would never happen in real life.
Actually it can and does work I know a bunch of people that met online and have been married for years.