You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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My husband and I decided to try it a little over 4 years ago. Any sexual "first" has its own rush. The first time that I left the house knowing that when I came home another guy would have fucked me with my husbands consent was a heart pounding event. When the guy undressed me and slide his cock in me I was wildly excited about what was happening. Then going home to my husband for him to fuck my fucked body was also intense for both of us. The following weekend the extra guy and my husband gave me my first MFM and my first DP. All of these firsts are off the chart. Thrilling, intense orgasms, extremely erotic.
But there are challenges. We are not into the concept of my picking up strangers. My lovers are friends with benefits and we entered the arrangement with an agreement about repeat-sex with guys. The agreement is that once a guy was approved by both of us for me to have sex with him that I could have as much sex with him as I wanted. This was to avoid my being frustrated and the other guy being frustrated. We all know that once you fuck someone for the first time you can't wait to fuck them again.
So, I ended up going into what I call 'honeymoon mode' with the guy and I realized that I was falling in love with him. So, I offered to end the relationship but my husband suggested that I find an additional lover or two. That worked very well. Once there were several guys for me to have sex with it made it easier to view it as 'just sex' and minimize the bonding issues.
I really think that to be in a hotwife relationship the male needs to be a true cuckold. True cuckold meaning that he really gets excited by the fact that his wife is having a relationship outside of their marriage. This is what turns him on. There are so many false information about cuckolding out there especially in the porn world. In true cuckolding relationships, the cuckold gets off on the compersion that happens when his wife or girlfriend is with another man. She is non-monogamous and he is faithful to her. She gets off on the fact that her husband or boyfriend is trusting her and giving her the freedom of non-monogamy which is his gift to her. Her gift to him is giving him what he wants sexually. There needs to be honest communication and in this type of relationship cheating is taken out of the equation. Which is why I think a real cuckold marriage is the the most successful of marriages. One more note: cuckolds do have sex with their cuckoldress (wives). Denial is a game of teasing.
My boyfriend entered into a relationship with me when I was 24 knowing I was bisexual and he'd have to share me with other girls I had a sexual relationship with, but he soon realized he wanted to share me with other guys too, so I got to pick my outside partners with his approval, and I developed a few steady FWB relationships. After a couple years, I felt guilty that I was the only one having outside sex so I suggested we try swinging with other couples. After a few years of swapping with several couples, my boyfriend decided he couldn't have NSA sex with others as casually as I can, so we went back to me going it alone with outside FWBs while he stayed faithful. His biggest thrill has always been having sex with me right after another guy (usually younger) had cum in me. I still occasionally have outside lovers, but 7 years ago, we found a couple who became our closest friends in and out of bed, and we swap partners with them every weekend, and she and I are best friends and lovers.
My guy and I were on a weekend away. We met another couple who became curious and interested in our relationship - we are in a FWB (with another couple) and she was fascinated. They had never had sex outside their marriage. things developed and she found herself wanting to 'experiment' - my boyfriend soon found himself with a 'Hot Wife" and she had the best time of her life apart from with her husband. I enjoyed a somewhat cooler husband but after one experience he liked the experience and they agreed to spent the night with us - in each others bedroom.
The next morning was a debriefing and an admission that both of them had enjoyed their experience. So had we.
We met once more after that and decided things may get out of hand so we cooled it. She honestly admitted she had never had such a good time being bad in her life. He hinted we might meet again in a years time. That is yet to materialise.
Offputting - perhaps the fact they had teenage kids and how they would feel about what happened ...and enjoyed..
my wife has had a number of adventures with other guys with my support and encouragement. She had a fwb for a number of years who she could call and he could call her whenever either one wanted to have fun - sometimes I am present but more often I hear and feel her about it afterwards. There was a time period where her best friend and her would dress very seductively and go out pub crawling with the intent of getting picked up. I would drive and drop them off and sometimes if guys wouldn’t give them a ride home they would call me and I would be the Uber driver and pick them and their “friends” up and drive them home. So erotic and such a turn on for us both. Our relationship continues to grow and is strong as ever and hasn’t ever been more exciting
Yes we have been in a “Hotwife”relationship since very soon after our marriage it has worked out very well for us we have long term friends who my wife has been meeting for years but we still enjoy the thrill of the new contact and the one off meeting.
We have had one relationship which did step over the boundary and she and he did become very involved, lovers in the full meaning of the word. We were able to talk it through and come to a consensus. He was married and worked overseas so they could only meet three or four times a year. Though they did have short holidays together and he did come and stay with us.
They carried this on for over 25 years. He was very straight and did not know how involved in the swinging lifestyle we were.
Eventually it came to an end when he retired and moved home with his wife to Ghana