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No problem, actually, my husband's EX and I have become great friends.
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does it bother you to know about your partners previous lovers?
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Active Ink Slinger
Unless your partner has been living under a rock or has lived by some moral and/or religious code, there are bound to be other lovers so it's better to just learn to deal with it. As long as those past lovers are in the past, who cares? If a relationship is built on honesty and trust, there shouldn't be an issues. And besides, I think it's healthy to feel a bit of jealousy - it's what keeps us on our toes after all 
Devil's Advocate
It doesn't really bother me. I mean, I've had the odd sick feeling of jealousy in the wake of the DP revelation, but otherwise I'm fine with it. My wife's actually told me a few stories about one of her ex-boyfriends (outside the bedroom), and I've got to say, I'm really starting to like the guy. But for the most part, she doesn't like talking about it.
Bottom line, a person's past is the journey they take to get where they are now. Without those experiences, your paths may never have crossed. The key is to be secure in your relationship in the present.
Bottom line, a person's past is the journey they take to get where they are now. Without those experiences, your paths may never have crossed. The key is to be secure in your relationship in the present.
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The Linebacker
You can get over it. Just don't get into a 'comparison war' over who had the most, the best, etc. Don't EVER tell her that anyone from the past did something better than her or looked better. I had a friend make that mistake. Poor guy. 
Buxom Enigma
I've got to say I agree with most of the previous comments. Of course, as thrilled as it's always made the new guys (who rarely fixed the problems) I start to see, I bashfully admit my lack of sexual experience. I'm far from a virgin (I've got a child) but not been with many men, and not very experimental ones.
Sometimes NOT sharing isn't a bad thing. But the past shapes who we are now, so we should be grateful for them.
Sometimes NOT sharing isn't a bad thing. But the past shapes who we are now, so we should be grateful for them.
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Rookie Scribe
Does not bother me. My Gf is alot more experienced than me in the sex Department, despite me being 6 years older than her. She is also bisexual so she has been with both men and women. We have talked about previous partners in detail, but i do not mind her ample sexual experience in the past at all. Im the one reaping the Benefits of her previous experience now so.
Her Royal Spriteness
i frequently make it a point to tell my wife how she compares to former lovers as a way to encourage improvement. 
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In-House Sapiosexual
It doesn't bother me at all that my guy is much more experienced than I am. Some of his experiences have been exceptionally good, some bad. I'm not intimidated by them. But, either way, I'm the one who benefits from them now and the benefits have been so good. I can be very open about my needs and wants. He's been there, done that. It allows him to really focus on what I need. I can really put myself in his hands with complete confidence. It's comforting to know that he wants what he has with me to be the best he has had, and that it is important to him to keep it. It makes me want to take the extra effort to keep him as well.
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Active Ink Slinger
She wasn't a virgin when we got married? Uh, oh. I guess we need to talk more...
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Active Ink Slinger
No, because none of them are possibly better than me.. 
colin123
I love hearing about her previous lovers, I love her telling me while I lick her pussy.
Active Ink Slinger
I like to know. It turns me on, especially when the number is seen as quite high. I like "naughty" women, women who haven't been afraid to just go out and get some. Also, in my mind anyway, more experience means they are better in bed, although I know that's not always the case.
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I found out years ago that most men usually don’t like to hear about past experiences not sure why it bothers them doesn’t bother me at all.
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Bria, I think the answer to your question is that so many men are insecure, though they would never admit it to anyone. They are afraid some other guy would have been a better lover then they are. Maybe in some ways, they don't measure up to her standards. That's why so many men worry about the size of their penis, etc. They're jealous if some other guy even looks at her.
I guess I'm kind of an odd guy, because I look it it from a different perspective. I know I'm not Gods gift to women. I'm just me. If I'm with a lady and some other guy admires or compliments her, I feel proud and very lucky. It's because if she is that pretty or whatever, then I know she could be with any guy she wanted to have, yet here she is with me. If that thought isn't an ego booster, I don't know what would be. One time I dated a lady that was pretty, very friendly, an excellent dancer and well educated. She was a teacher. We'd been together for awhile when I had a guy that belonged to our dance club take me aside and ask me if it bothered me that she was so popular. He admitted that he couldn't be with her because she was to smart and so popular with all the other club members. I knew all those things about her and as I said above here, it made me proud as could be just knowing that out of all the other members that she could have chosen to always dance with, I was the lucky one. And yes, she'd been with other guys. She had been married and even had two grown children. I met both of them and even her ex.
I guess I'm kind of an odd guy, because I look it it from a different perspective. I know I'm not Gods gift to women. I'm just me. If I'm with a lady and some other guy admires or compliments her, I feel proud and very lucky. It's because if she is that pretty or whatever, then I know she could be with any guy she wanted to have, yet here she is with me. If that thought isn't an ego booster, I don't know what would be. One time I dated a lady that was pretty, very friendly, an excellent dancer and well educated. She was a teacher. We'd been together for awhile when I had a guy that belonged to our dance club take me aside and ask me if it bothered me that she was so popular. He admitted that he couldn't be with her because she was to smart and so popular with all the other club members. I knew all those things about her and as I said above here, it made me proud as could be just knowing that out of all the other members that she could have chosen to always dance with, I was the lucky one. And yes, she'd been with other guys. She had been married and even had two grown children. I met both of them and even her ex.
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Still a no.
I'm in a sexual relationship w/ men/women not in an emotional/romantic relationship w/ them.
And to be honest, I don't recall any of them ever talking about their previous lovers.
They are more than welcome to but they just don't go into those details.
I'm in a sexual relationship w/ men/women not in an emotional/romantic relationship w/ them.
And to be honest, I don't recall any of them ever talking about their previous lovers.
They are more than welcome to but they just don't go into those details.
Active Ink Slinger
It doesn't bother me at all.
Active Ink Slinger
I have meet your previous lovers, one was a dork, two I have become friends with. And no she no longer plays with ex lovers.
No it doesn't bug me at all because it's behind you. Your not with them anymore, so I don't think it would bug me at all. Unless they were bringing them up all the time and I could see that they weren't over them. Than that's different. You always learn from your past mistakes, so I always see it as a learning experience.
I find being told about previous lovers is both titillating and provides insight into your lovers likes and dislikes.
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Absolutely not.
Although we dont talk about it now, we were both open about it from the start and both understand that without that history, we probably wouldn't of known how sexually compatible we are so early on in our relationship.
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Active Ink Slinger
No - we are not committed to each other so we often talk about an affair in the past. We have had some interesting experiences as we have had a number of FWB affairs - some good some bad. All interesting.
Active Ink Slinger
I'm the opposite. I want to know every last detail of what she did with her previous lovers. It makes me rock hard. Just knowing what my naughty gf has been up to. Love it.
Advanced Wordsmith
Absolutely love it
Voyeur @ f/64
I was only bothered by my inability to reciprocate, having had no lovers.
I think the past should remain where it belongs.. firmly in the past
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I was only bothered by my inability to reciprocate, having had no lovers.
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The Goddess
Nope! Every pervious lover had a hand in making me His Goddess.
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It wouldn't bother me unless it became a comparison/scorecard. Example: Ex was better at __ than you, etc.