Been divorced nearly 6 years. I've had a couple of shortish relationships during this time, but for a variety or reasons it never seems to work out. I've just dumped the latest guy as there was not trust in our relationship. I did not trust him. I don't think I have trust issues just not met the right guy. I do wonder though am I destined to be single forever. I've got my own business, have a fairly good social life. My best mates are actually guys. Should I just accepted that I am going to be on my own now?
I've been divorced for over thirty years now. As to "trust issues" only you know the answer to that question. For me, I SHOULD have had them but didn't. Luckily for me my SERIOUS relationships ended BEFORE I made a second serious mistake. (At least of THAT nature. Along the way I DID let a couple of sweetie's get away. My own fault.) All I can say in the way of advice is that the WORST mistake you can make is to allow yourself to feel desperate. The wrong kind of people can sense that. Just relax and let life bring you what it will!
no I am sorry having been married and several failed things..one I am working through now
that is life ok
life is about failures sometimes
you pick yourself up
you try again until the day YOU die
maybe yes marriage is not YOUR thing
but to say you will not date or love again
is just not true
don't let life make you bitter
life is a glorious ride
up and down
but the downs...make the UP so much better
We should have a special section, just for the 'Lush Tragics'.
I'm on my second marriage and its as bad as the first one, I truly believe that I'm meant to be single, which would be fine with me...
Thanks for all your comments.
I have always been able to see quiet early on when a relationship is working or not and know when it's pointless trying to get something to work when it's a hopeless situation. With the last relationship, it became very apparent they we were very different people and wanted different things. The trust element only came to light recently and that was the nail in the coffin.
I actually do like being with myself, I was more questioning my choice in men recently. I seem to be fine when guys are just friends but when it's going to be more than friends I seem to make the wrong decisions.
I really enjoy my independents and would love to be able to travel but that is not possible due to my business. As I have been on my own essentially for a few years, I don't let holidays etc get me down.
A year ago I could have called myself desperate but that certainly is not the case, in my business I get to meet loads of different people from a variety of backgrounds and so I'm sure the right man will appear at some stage, and until then I will enjoy being me, not having to answer to anyone or worry about the toilet seat being left up.
I think the happier you can become as a single person, the more desirable you become to others around you. Go out with friends, be comfortable in your single-ness, and if someone deserving of you comes along, great. I hate cliches, but if it is meant to be, the circumstances will present themselves.
I've only been officially single for a week and already it's been fantastic. I've been going out with my true friends. These are the same friends who are making sure I am not feeling left out and have included me in their plans.
The freedom of not having to answer to anyone and to be able to be yourself is something I did not realise how much I missed.
I'm so sorry that things have not been easy for you. Take your time and I'm sure that the person who deserves you will come into your life xx
31 been alone for just that 31 years not always fun
I have never been married. Dated a few but never worked out. I have just felt was never destined for marriage or it was never in the stars for me.
Being single can be great.
I loved it.
I could go where I wanted when I wanted and was not answerable to anybody. I got used to living alone and enjoyed that immensely for the same reasons - could do what I liked.
So enjoy it while you can because once you commit to someone this changes and that can be great also.
Enjoy the moment. What happens happens.Tt9sZFWLhHk3XNFD
It is not the worst thing in life it has its own advantages enjoy being single
Came across this post which I originally started under a different username. Interesting that three years have gone past since I initially posted it an nothing has changed. I have since had another relationship with a guy I actually met on Lush. Once again it was fantastic to begin with but he and I were very different. I never thought age different could play such a big part in a relationship but in this case it did. Looking back there were so many obstacles that made it really hard work and I knew within six months that he would never truly just accept me for who I am. 2015 I decided that I would not join any dating sites and not even try and seek a man and let things happen naturally if it was meant to be, the fact that I am still single shows that does not work for me. Within the business environment I did meet a new bunch of people but not of them love interests or even remotely interesting. I once again at the beginning of this year went back on the dating sites and have had a couple of dates nothing really that amazing. I think I have forgotten how to flirt or even become attractive to anyone. When the dating site subscription comes to an end in august I will probably just forgotten about it again, and accepted once again that I will be single for the foreseeable future. My mom was windowed in her 40's and she never met anyone else and so was on her own for 30 odd years until she passed away. My biological mother has also been on her own for number of years from what I have found out so far, so maybe it's just something that simple happens in my family, that the ladies remain single. My question is do I give up now or carry on trying? I don't really want to be on my own as I do get lonely and it will be even harder when my children leave the nest in a years time.
I'll toss my hat in the ring here, without anything that is actually new to say -- however, here goes: do you have other aspects of your life that are fulfilling? Do you have your own interests that you pursue, or is your main focus your children and the fact that you don't have a life partner? With Meet-Ups, it is not always necessary to go to dating sites -- you can find things you are interested in doing -- or even think you might be interested in, and give them a try. Even if you have a defeatist attitude, do not show that to the outside world. A combination of finding/pursing your own interests and acting the way you wish you felt can make a huge difference in your life.
May things turn around for you, and bring you happiness, in whatsoever form it may be!