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Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
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This is a loaded question for me because I've been dumped so many times that disposal companies are asking me to endorse their services! But seriously, I can only speak for myself on this issue. I've never stopped ANY of the ladies I've had relationships with because I am grateful for the honor they bestowed upon me by giving me a shot at them in the first place. In their eyes I didn't treat them well enough for them to want to keep me, and that is the only vote that counts. They can't help how they no longer feel about me, and the reason doesn't really matter. Everyone has certain clichés they like to post on social media about what it takes to have a lasting relationship, but the bottom line is if you can't be yourself 100% of the time and your partner isn't good with you always being you, then it is not a relationship worth keeping. I accept rejection because I was obviously not right for the ladies I tried to keep happy. I am accepting the fact that I'm not right for anyone, and that's okay. But I will always ADORE everyone I've had the pleasure to be in a relationship with!
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I fooled around and fell in love in 19xx. No. I told her I would love her until I was 80. Only a few more years of this torture. LOL
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Love will stop, eventually. It did for me.
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depends on the individual, the nature of the relationship, the intensity of it, the cause of the break-up... there is no one answer.
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Quote by ]Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
Egad.
Is there any definitive answer to this question? I think not.
If you’re of a naturally loving, empathetic, and understanding “glass-half-full” disposition, you probably can love someone and continue to wish someone well even after you part ways.
Hell, I wrote a [url=https://www.lushstories.com/stories/love-poems/-goodbye-i-wish-you-well-.aspx]contest poem about this very thing.
However, if someone does you (or others you love) wrong, whatever “wrong” means to you, you can very definitely stop loving people after relationships are over. In fact, I would consider it a mental health obligation to stop focusing your love on the one(s) you left and start focusing that love on yourself.
And then there’s that other, confusing, all-too-human, capacity to (all at the same time) love, hate, curse, and yearn for the one(s) you lost, even if you discarded them for very valid (and sometimes invalid) reasons, even if they did the same to you.
It’s the conundrum of any feeling, passionate person that parts ways.
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Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
I have to say definitely not - because love is something you cannot simply turn on and off like a light switch
In my case I was in a loving relationship with a wonderful lady for 17 months which has just suddenly finished.
Unfortunately although the ending was acrimonious and a few harsh words were spoken I cannot ever bring myself to think badly of the lady, and even though
we have both decided to now go our own separate ways, there is not a day that goes by when I don't remember her with true love and affection.
I have to say definitely not - because love is something you cannot simply turn on and off like a light switch
In my case I was in a loving relationship with a wonderful lady for 17 months which has just suddenly finished.
Unfortunately although the ending was acrimonious and a few harsh words were spoken I cannot ever bring myself to think badly of the lady, and even though
we have both decided to now go our own separate ways, there is not a day that goes by when I don't remember her with true love and affection.
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I recently lost someone whom I loved deeply. (Loss as in it suddenly ended to my surprise). I don't think I'll stop loving them, but it will fade and change over time. Right now I feel sadness and anger, but that's mostly because of their actions during this tumultuous time. I've never put someone on full "block" in my life until now. I have love for them , but I can't have them in my life anymore. It's very bittersweet.
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Lingering feelings will always be there but you should move on.
I can w/ 100% certainty state that I still love Ex but not in a relationship type of way.
I broke up w/ him after a yr of dating because I no longer wanted to be in a relationship.
He and I will always love each other but we both know that it won't turn into a relationship again.
To this day I couldn't careless to be in a relationship.
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No
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I haven't read all 122 entries. However, love does end sooner or later.
My kids were quite young when I got divorced, so my ex and I did have a post-divorce something - not a quite a friendship, but some kind of relationship. Now that our kids are grown, we only talk on the phone every now and again.
My kids were quite young when I got divorced, so my ex and I did have a post-divorce something - not a quite a friendship, but some kind of relationship. Now that our kids are grown, we only talk on the phone every now and again.
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Really depends on how it ended but yes once you say your love is gone mine seems to disappear quite quickly too. I mean I do still care for him and wish him well
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There are those I have loved in the past that I still think of fondly, decades later. There are also those that I have loved that are still deeply in my heart, and will always be loved (or at least the memory of what we shared). Those, the love will never stop for. That doesn't mean that we would have the same love today, we are both different people now than we were then, but, the love for them as they were then is, and always will be the same. I guess it depends on the person and the relationship we had.
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Sadly, yes.
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I do not believe the love ever dies. It changes and can be suppressed but it is never completely gone.
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It's been a couple of years now and I still think of my ex boyfriend often. It is not a matter of not having moved on, it's just that it was a long term relationship that impacted me on so many levels. We loved, we laughed, we cried, we experienced so much of life together. It ended because we were heading in different paths, career wise. I have no idea how he's doing, but I hope he is well. I haven't looked him up on Facebook in almost two years because I know that if I start, it will become a habit. I still dream of him and have strong feelings for him, but I do not have grandiose ideas of being with him again or anything, but the memories are peaceful. Sometimes I feel ashamed to still have these feelings, so maybe I am not over him, but that is besides the point.
Can you really ever stop loving someone after the relationship is over?
Timing is everything. Perhaps two years is not enough for you for your feelings for your ex to dull.
Carey’d away.
No, you can't. The feelings might dull over time, but you can't just stop loving them.
My heart has wi-fi and the password is Drew Carey.
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If you were truly in love. You will never lose that. It stays with you forever. No matter what the other person has done. Yes the relationship is over. Unless you want to torture yourself over something that can never be saved once the trust is gone.
I've been divorced for over 35 years now and I can tell you that when I gave her my heart it was until I drew my last breath.
If you still can still feel something for that person consider yourself lucky. At least you got to experience something that today is very rare to come by.
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At times you think it is gone but in those quiet,reflective moments it comes back and grabs your heart…each and every time, forever.
I just want to be able to stop crying every time I think of Him. I’ve gone through the denial, guilt bargaining stages. Now I’m hovering around anger, I wonder what I will be on the day I bury Him.
Through it all, I love him more fiercely each day! I just fucking HATE the Universe!
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I just want to be able to stop crying every time I think of Him. I’ve gone through the denial, guilt bargaining stages. Now I’m hovering around anger, I wonder what I will be on the day I bury Him.
Through it all, I love him more fiercely each day! I just fucking HATE the Universe!
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My problem is that there are 2-3 of them and when one gets out of my mind another bubbles up. I don’t dwell on what’s no more except for you V and how could I ever forget you?❤️❤️🔥
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To this day I couldn't careless to be in a relationship.
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That didn't age well. I'm married now lol
May you have many years & make even more beautiful memories together.
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My first was in college. She was two years old and more cute than sexy. We met each other families, I thought she was 'the one" until she dumped me.
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I just want to be able to stop crying every time I think of Him. I’ve gone through the denial, guilt bargaining stages. Now I’m hovering around anger, I wonder what I will be on the day I bury Him.
Through it all, I love him more fiercely each day! I just fucking HATE the Universe!
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My heart just hurts reading this. Huge hugs
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Definitely. And I think especially if it wasn't your wish to end the relationship. At least that's my experience ❤️🩹. But Life goes on and you move on. I am lucky to have found another Hot Love 🥰.