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does anyone else get this anxious when writing poetry?

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Because I'm working on an erotic poem and my anxiety & nerves are so high I feel like I am gonna puke. I actually have to stop every little bit to take a deep breath.

I'm liking this but worried about other's opinions. This is the most personal piece I have ever written
Aw, I'm sorry Haneiko.....

The only thing I feel is the emotions I'm feeling at the time of writing...

Sometimes I'm crying hard. It does feel a bit vulnerable sometimes.

Poems are very personal.

I would say do the best you can and edit/rework as needed.

Maybe work on it when you are more relaxed?

You can ask for help here too.

Big hugs for you sweet friend.
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Because I'm working on an erotic poem and my anxiety & nerves are so high I feel like I am gonna puke. I actually have to stop every little bit to take a deep breath.

I'm liking this but worried about other's opinions. This is the most personal piece I have ever written


I don't often post poems, and when I do, I find them highly stressful. A story? Its just me going what if?? A poem is me saying this is me. This is who I am; don't judge me. so I think by nature a poem is stressful. The successful ones, to me, take the same actions as in a story, but then it stripes away the extra, until you are left with just the emotions.

The best ones then take that emotion and distill it further until you are left with the essence of what is to be us. but those are rare thankfully. Can you imagine how exhausting it must be a poet of the class of say Averageblackgirl or a few others here? they leave me breathless just reading their work.
My poems are on the sexy side, most of the time I am laughing and cracking up.

They often turn me on, so I have to stop to take care of things. But, I love to write poetry and can write them out fairly quickly.

Just relax and don't over think them. Let them flow out of your mind.
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Aw, I'm sorry Haneiko.....

The only thing I feel is the emotions I'm feeling at the time of writing...

Sometimes I'm crying hard. It does feel a bit vulnerable sometimes.

Poems are very personal.

I would say do the best you can and edit/rework as needed.

Maybe work on it when you are more relaxed?

You can ask for help here too.

Big hugs for you sweet friend.




I have written some poems that I cry through too but those are on the other site. I totally understand what you have said here. xo
I think I can relate to the whole anxiety about putting yourself down on paper, although it's not fear for judgement that I felt.

I remember seething with anger when I wrote The Apology (still one of my favorite pieces to date). My fingers were literally shaking at one point and my chest was constricting, burning almost. Had to go for a run, right after, to cool down.

End result: I was quite happy with what I'd cranked out, but I don't think I want to revisit that place. Too dark. Closure has been found.x

(P/S: Yeah, have to say, I have no clue how ABG cranks out amazing poetry on a rather regular basis!)
Write for yourself first because you enjoy it and everyone else second even if some don't like it. There's always going to be people who won't like it for this or that reason, most of whom you will never hear from. The absolute best movie ever filmed in your opinion? Someone doesn't like it. Best song on the radio in your opinion? Someone doesn't like it. Not everything is liked. Focus on the people you know who will like your poem.
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Write for yourself first because you enjoy it and everyone else second even if some don't like it. There's always going to be people who won't like it for this or that reason, most of whom you will never hear from. The absolute best movie ever filmed in your opinion? Someone doesn't like it. Best song on the radio in your opinion? Someone doesn't like it. Not everything is liked. Focus on the people you know who will like your poem.


You're so brilliant!!

I may have been anxious writing my first poem. I don't really remember.

At this point I am always totally confidant that my work will be fine. Maybe not great, but pleasing.

Of course, some of those who never cared for my work would probably think that "ignorance is bliss."

To be frank, always write what you feel. Then read it over well, and try to make sure your work makes you proud.

With time and practice you will try new and more exotic ways to express your feelings and thoughts. And they will be good. Believe it.
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I think I can relate to the whole anxiety about putting yourself down on paper, although it's not fear for judgement that I felt.

I remember seething with anger when I wrote The Apology (still one of my favorite pieces to date). My fingers were literally shaking at one point and my chest was constricting, burning almost. Had to go for a run, right after, to cool down.

End result: I was quite happy with what I'd cranked out, but I don't think I want to revisit that place. Too dark. Closure has been found.x

(P/S: Yeah, have to say, I have no clue how ABG cranks out amazing poetry on a rather regular basis!)


If I have a poem posted here, you can bet it a cauterizing something that is hemorrhaging in my real life that must be expressed. Then typically I sit and hold onto them, until my hands no longer shake when I edit it. Only then do I post.

I have several right now hiding on my hard drive that may never see the glow of a lush page.
Well it depends. If I am writing a poem about an emotional subject I will probably be in that mind set. Just as I would get horny writing an erotic story. Our mindset controls our moods. Natural to feel stress if writing about a stressful subject.
If I find myself anxious or nervous while writing poetry, I know I'm not in the zone, and the results will suck! I quit and come back to it later. Great poetry flows when I'm in a near zen state. Then the beauty of the poetry calms me and nearly makes me weep with wonder at how it flowed into my mind... from where? Poetry is a beautiful mystery.
Well it's done. I'm glad I kept working through the nerves because I love it

I've given it to a couple of friends to read before I submit & the general consensus is 'Wow'.

just waiting for 1 more person to take a look before I submit
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Because I'm working on an erotic poem and my anxiety & nerves are so high I feel like I am gonna puke. I actually have to stop every little bit to take a deep breath.

I'm liking this but worried about other's opinions. This is the most personal piece I have ever written


Fuck everyone's opinion. Write how you write. This site IS INFAMOUS for permitting rogues, charlatans and the simply incapable to EXCRETE that which they call art... *LAUGHS!*

I won't mention names... (I COULD!)

Write how YOU FEEL...

(That will ALWAYS work...)

xx SF


Always be able to stand over your every phrase... Always be able to TRY to explain WHAT IT MEANS!!!!!

"Tricolor wine glass to your lips endearing/ As candles dim in the shade of twilight / Wax drips upon the color of the memory of your skin / I dream of what was once within...."

Spare Me!

(I am FAR too CLEVER to deal with such NONSENSE!!!!!!)

xx SF




Try it.. It's VERY HARD to write as badly as some of these Idiots... Seriously... Try it... xx SF
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I have written some poems that I cry through too but those are on the other site. I totally understand what you have said here. xo


I miss our friend. I hope he is ok.
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I miss our friend. I hope he is ok.




Do you mean Jack?
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Do you mean Jack?





Julian

(did you mean thepleasureprincipal? I can't believe he left without a goodbye.)
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You're so brilliant!!



I know, right?



You'd think the people who bring me pills in those little paper cups would acknowledge it, but they never stay long enough to chat.
My ears were itching.?

Steph you so make me smile. You're not talking about me are'ya?!?

I'm of the belief that if you're not a little uncomfortable, if you aren't stretching in your skin then you are not really putting forth an effort to create. I know that may sound corny. But, if you're only going to scratch the surface, play around with an idea, regurgitate what you have already read or said, then why bother. So what, you're hurt or in love or in hate or experiencing inexplicable pleasure. What makes it yours, unique, worth screaming or laughing about? For me, poetry is the meat of it all. It is the core. It is an art form that uses words to say what words can't. It's the way it's on the page, the image in the mind it creates, the spaces it leaves and creates. Don't bore me with pure self indulgence, confessional tripe that rhymes a little and you didn't feel like dedicating enough to it to make it in another category. That's an insult. Send that latest love a PM please, leave out the punctuation if it makes you feel better. Spare us.

Steph may be a little mad at me for this one, and a lot of writers do not agree, but I think you do need to consider your reader to a certain degree. Don't look for their approval, that stifles creativity. To be heard AND UNDERSTOOD is important to me as a writer. I have a strong need to communicate, to understand myself and others too. It may not say to the reader what I intended, and that's the beauty of words, but if it said something or provoked some type of internal reaction then I'm quite satisfied. I write for me, but I'll be honest here. I share to be heard. To reach out your hand and have someone touch you back with understanding--even if it is just one person. I'm never a lonely person because of that, even when I'm alone.

I'm learning though, so take it with a grain of salt. I'm learning from a lot of you. And, I'm thankful. All I have is my ability to feel, even feelings that are not my own at the start, I'm trying to interpret them.

Good luck Haineko. Thanks for the shout out Dirty_D--you are brilliant.
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I write poetry when in the throes of needing a breath to come down on after suffering not umbrellas on my noggin as people want something for zilch at the shop
I get anxious about writing in general. I always think I'm never good enough, that my work is shit. Every single piece I've ever written I've worried no one will like, even if I do. And yet, to my surprise so many do. So, it boils down to, if you like it, fuck what others think. smile It should always be for you.
What Poppet said. I don't know WHY I have a compulsion to write yet, except that I used to fuck around when I was way younger and then laid off for decades to raise a family, pursue a career, etc. I guess I started when I first came to Lush several years ago and read some of the stuff and realized, as Steph sorta hinted at in his subtle way, that hell, I CAN DO BETTER than that guy. So then the creative juices started to flow. Oh, and I also found a room here where they show dirty pictures, so that was cool, too.
“It's nice sometimes to open up the heart a little and let some hurt come in. It proves you're still alive.”
If my non-erotic non-love poetry makes someone else nauseous or induces vomiting, I usually take it as a compliment.
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I know, right?



You'd think the people who bring me pills in those little paper cups would acknowledge it, but they never stay long enough to chat.


Yes, you are.

I also get very anxious when I post a story or poem. I worry whether anyone will like it and respond.

I used to get nervous before football games while I was suiting up and putting my pads on. Sometimes I would have to go vomit. As soon as I got onto the field and got my first hit in, I was fine and actually stoked and ready to do some head hunting.

Dive into the action. Go ahead, write and post, you'll get over the nervousness soon enough. Write for yourself and enjoy it. You'll get the best results that way.
I write when I can't hold the words in any longer. I write from different places in my subconscious, whether it comes from a place of love, longing, loss, fear, pain or insecurity. I try to write honestly about the things that I struggle with in hopes that even one person will relate, and then I know I am not alone in my struggle. I write about love often but I write it from a place of fear, if I lose my personal battle with my health..... he will always know the depth of my love. I get so very nervous before I submit something. I try not to worry about approval, but I am just human and we thrive on the acknowledgement that our feelings are accepted. The erotic genre is new to me and I struggle with being as honest about the insatiable being that is who I am.

I would never have been brave enough to write a single word had it not been for the amazing examples here. I feel so free to have found an outlet for all that emotion. A huge thanks to those who inspired me. I also have a great editor who knows me well enough to say " what the hell are you thinking" when I totally miss the boat. Nerves are a part of the process, just be proud of what you are writing. Think of it as a beautiful extension of yourself.
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I may do audio for it as well. By "I" I mean ask for a volunteer due to my voice not being suitable for audio
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I may do audio for it as well. By "I" I mean ask for a volunteer due to my voice not being suitable for audio


Big hugs...love you. Xxoo.
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I also get very anxious when I post a story or poem. I worry whether anyone will like it and respond.

I used to get nervous before football games while I was suiting up and putting my pads on. Sometimes I would have to go vomit. As soon as I got onto the field and got my first hit in, I was fine and actually stoked and ready to do some head hunting.

Dive into the action. Go ahead, write and post, you'll get over the nervousness soon enough. Write for yourself and enjoy it. You'll get the best results that way.


Weird...

(When I was in the band, as a part of our 'rider' was ALWAYS an ice-bucket... (Sometimes it was just a regular bucket...) It was so I could have somewhere to PUKE in before I went on-stage... I did that every single time I ever prepared to go on stage... (None of the rest of the band ever did...) Once a journalist called GEORGE BYRNE was on tour with us and He Asked what was the story with the bucket... And the guys said, "Steve throws up before he goes on..." And HE SAID, "OOOOH! What a CLICHE!!!" (Because apparently John Lennon did this too, and he thought I was being pretentious... Which I AM, but not in this case... Anywhoop... As this journalist is SAYING this, the Promoter calls us to the Stage... My stomach turns over and I puke ON GEORGE BYRNE...)

THe MOMENT I stepped onto a stage I was fine...

I HAVE since I started writing here PHYSICALLY thrown up while writing... Excitement and nerves... But funnily enough, once it's OUT THERE I don't really give a fuck about it... (I NEVER spam or even advertize my own stuff... UGH!)

Different Strokes... (Pun Intended...)

xx SF
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