T-girl Pre-op or Post-op

1. If it’s the first thing you’re asked that’s a bit of a red flag.

2. Questions like this are ok if things are about to get intimate, but I more try and feel out what the person is comfortable with in terms of their body and sexual experience.

3. I’ve heard a lot of stories from a good friend who was trans but had no interest in surgery that a partner’s excitement about their genitals varied greatly. Some were super excited about the ‘chick with a dick’ and would really want to engage with their cock. Others pretended it wasn’t there at all. She told me exactly what I think your feeling here, it’s not a great feeling to be fetishized and depersonalized.

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I'm post-op and I don't miss my penis at all

Same with me. I swear sex is 1000 percent better after surgery.

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I'm post-op and I don't miss my penis at all

Same! Sex is sooooo much better now and not having to tuck... it was very liberating for me.

I'm a pre-op trans girl at the moment

I'm pre-op and yes it is still there.It might be bigger than yours

I'm a pre-op trans woman.Living full time as a woman

I'm sorry if you have a dysphoria about your penis.

You a beautiful woman and I would treat you as such. But like so many men I would prefer you to ble a non-op.

A verse top and bottom. It's not a fetish it's my preference.

I'm sorry to hear if anyone who isn't about to have sex with you is asking. That's tokenizing and dehumanizing.

But when it comes to actual, prospective sexual partners, there are simply going to be a lot of people out there with a preference. A lot of guys interested in pre-op trans women simply aren't going to be interested in a post-op trans woman. Personally, when I was dating I quickly learned that for a lot of women, my shortness was a deal-killer. Rather than focusing on and judging the people who dismissed me because of an innate physical attribute, I eventually learned to focus on those who didn't dismiss me because of it.

You will still find people who are interested in you, post-op. Whether you decide to always wait until things get intimate before a partner learns your op status, or maybe you eventually decide to weed out the guys earlier who only want you if you have a penis, is something you will have to decide, possibly by trial and error.