Quote by stephanie
What a very interesting discussion...
I've written upon Lush before about my own experiences and won't bore you all by repetition BUT perhaps in view of the discussion the writings of those who DEFINED themselves as gay or lesbian yet later discovered love, family and indeed sexual fulfillment with a member of the opposite sex might be enlightening.
The English singer and Gay Activist Tom Robinson fell in love and remains happily married to a woman.
The English actor/writer/author Jackie Clune was an avowed lesbian for years before eventually marrying the man who became father to her four children.
In NO WAY do I wish to disparage those who define themselves as exclusively lesbian or gay. Of course not.
I MIGHT suggest that, as society becomes more accepting of sexual difference in terms of traditional models, the NATURE of sexual attraction in terms of gender becomes more complex.
What we can accept is that the concept of romantic and operable love is closely related to sexual attraction and that attraction is not always limited to self-assigned gender codes be they genetic or socially based.
I need not say I presume that Love is the most pleasurable experience in life and must be appreciated and enjoyed wherever and whenever it it received and accepted.
Is sexuality a choice?
I'd have to say probably not. But the wider question is 'Is LOVE a choice?' (And I think we all know it isn't.)
xx Steph
Exactly. Before I discovered Lush comunity I lived in believe that people are bi-sexual beings. Meaning, we get attracted to a person not to a gender. Lush changed that a bit for me, here were bi ladies and lesbians quite agressive (when I joined) so I decided to lable myself for the first time in my life (I was never with a woman, so thats why straight), I most certanly am not curious about my sexuality, I know what pleases me, it really doesnt matter if it comes from man or woman.. Personaly, I think we all are the same bi sexuals, my two cents anyway
