How did you discover your inner desire for the same sex?

I don't recall being interested in guys until my twenties. I was bullied for allegedly being gay throughout school so I suspect that I repressed that side of myself for a long time. But I did have wet dreams involving males from time to time and thought about playing with a friend when he crashes with me one time. I was not sure if he would reciprocate at the time. Only found out he was either bi or gay after his death. I am still really only out to myself and this board.

I was at a party and I was dared to kiss another girl publicly. I had never done that before and agreed to do it just to try something different - I had no feelings for her at that time. She was obviously willing. Whilst she kissed me she began to fondle my breasts and undo my blouse/bra. The people witnessing us began to chant "strip her". I realised I had been set up (by an ex) and stopped her immediately. A little while later the girl came to me and asked if I would be prepared to continue what we had started privately. I was curious and agreed and it was then I had my first sexual experience with another girl. It was amazing.

We agreed to meet each afternoon at her place and she began to educate me in the ways girls have sex together - she was a lesbian. We met every day until the Saturday when I had sex with a guy a few hours before meeting with her. When we began, she could taste him in me and ended the relationship. By that time I had realised how much I enjoyed sex with not only guys but with women as well. I realised I was bisexual.

I now live and sleep with a woman as well as we have our FWB arrangement with our guys.

Always knew I had at least some male attraction, even before puberty. In high school I had access to Penthouse magazines and their Forum letters, which blessedly included a generous number of man-to-man stories. Truth be told, even though in general my attraction was primarily to women, anytime I got my hands on a new magazine I'd quickly scan the Forum stories for hot male action. Can't tell you how many times I came reading about a man sucking or fucking a man.

In college I probably overlooked a lot of opportunities, but it was the 80s and we were all living in terror of HIV/AIDS ... if you had any desire for women at all, you stuck to them. So I never did anything with a guy then, though I later wished I had.

Only time I've ever acted on it caught me off guard. I just saw the opportunity and went for it without thinking. I was in an adult video booth and hadn't noticed the gloryhole ... until I saw someone's eye peering through it and watching my beat my meat. Then a cock came through the hole, and I had to touch and suck it. 30 years later, I can still taste his flesh between my lips and his cum on my tongue.

Whenever Penthouse Letters and Forum started writing about bisexual men. I quickly scanned each issue looking for any menyion of guys sucking cock with or without a woman present.

I discovered it the same way I discovered I needed to breath

It's always been there!!

Two lovely, hot, smart and sweet women on here

A flip book prize in a box of cereal. They said it was the Little Mermaid, but I saw through that.

Even though I experimented with another boy when I was a teenager, I was not really attracted to other guys. I do not recall even having another thought about doing anything sexual with another guy until after I was married. My wife an I talked about having a threesome shortly after we were married. We discussed it several times and even had chosen who we would select as the "third".

However, we never went through with it. The discussions themselves led to some very nice sex and that sort of satisfied the urge at the time.

Many years later, my interest started to grow after spending more and more time watching porn on the internet. Our sex life had become sort of stale and very infrequent, so I turned to porn for inspiration during masturbation sessions. After some time I started to pay more attention to the cock the hot girls were sucking, in addition to the hot girls.

I knew how much I liked to have my cock sucked and so started thinking what it would feel like to suck a cock. Even then, it was several years of this kind of fascination before I actually got up the nerve to actually attempt to hook up with another guy.

I started chatting with other guys and found that there were a lot of guys like myself, married and not getting much sex at home and horny, that wanted to give it a try. I set up a meeting one afternoon (actually two in the same day,) with one early in the afternoon and one later.

The first guy came over and we got right to it, dropping our pants and playing with each other's cocks, then taking turns sucking each other for a bit. After he came in my mouth, he left rather quickly. A little while later the second guy showed up and I just reached through the window of his car and jacked him off!

I was born Gay

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Whenever Penthouse Letters and Forum started writing about bisexual men. I quickly scanned each issue looking for any menyion of guys sucking cock with or without a woman present.

Yes! So many great MM stories there back in the day. It would literally be the first thing I’d look for (followed by FF pictorials), but I always looked for MM action first.

There were quite a few where a woman seduced two guys, and one of the guys “helped” the other guy insert his cock into her, using his hand, or the woman convinced one of the guys to suck the other. I think there were several along the lines of a cougarish woman inviting two teenaged guys to hang out by her pool, promising to let them fuck her if they touched, or kissed, or sucked each other first. Several involving fishing trips to cabins away from the women. Maybe the first MM story I read was where “Ned” visited the author’s apartment after going to the gym and borrowed his shower, the nakedness somehow leading to mutual male pleasures. My head (well, both of them) exploded with excitement at this new discovery of man-on-man erotica.

I seen an "unknown user" post above that sounds very much like me so probably my old profile. This sums it up well, though I made a few edits.

I don't recall being interested in guys until my twenties. I was bullied for allegedly being gay throughout school so I suspect that I repressed that side of myself for a long time. But I did have wet dreams involving males from time to time and thought about playing with a friend when he crashed with me one time. I was not sure if he would reciprocate at the time so did nothing. Only found out he was either bi or gay after his death when I met his boyfriend at the funeral. I am still really only out online.

Much like the OP, I didn’t think I would be into it until it just kinda “happened.” It took a couple years to embrace it, and a couple more to realize I liked it just as much as straight sex.

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I was born Gay

^^^ Same. Something I knew immediately and most people around me did as well.

Had presumed I was straight, never thought of men that way, until my friend seduced me. I order women, and have no romantic attraction to men, but would definitely have MM sex if the situation arose. Unfortunately it never has again.

I was born this way and felt as if my life would not be fulfilled if I was married to a man. Even as a child when I was daydreamingly planning my future wedding, there was no groom. I was very reluctant, prayed to the Christian god for years to make me straight. When I was around 10, I met a lesbian couple for the first time. I don't think I ever noticed that that was an option (hahah, can you tell Im from Alabama 🤣)

I’ve been with women married twice then was curious about men soo I tried gay sex and found out I love it way more than straight sex that I realized I’m gay and love it

"Teasing around" with girlfriends at the University led to going on Spring break with one. Astounding.

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I’ve been with women married twice then was curious about men soo I tried gay sex and found out I love it way more than straight sex that I realized I’m gay and love it

Never too late to come out Im glad you have discovered your true identity ❤️

Well men are downright annoying, so it was pretty easy for me to stay with my own gender

I’m sure there were other events or situations that preceded this encounter, but I remember going to the community pool which had an open shower area. There were 10 or so shower heads and no curtains. There were at least 3 of us showering nude at the same time. I remember making eye contact with one guy about my age and we acknowledged each other. After we got dressed, he came over to my locker area and started small talking and mentioned my physique. I returned the compliment. Nothing came of that but I remember fantasizing about it for months that he had acknowledged my body.

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After we got dressed, he came over to my locker area and started small talking and mentioned my physique. I returned the compliment. Nothing came of that but I remember fantasizing about it for months that he had acknowledged my body.

Oh damn, I'd have the same reaction. Some random guy seeing me naked and then complimenting my physique? I'd be jerking off to thoughts of that guy complementing my physique for months afterward, especially considering I'd seen him naked too.

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Well men are downright annoying, so it was pretty easy for me to stay with my own gender.

Well, that is a conundrum for a lot of us guys who are (increasingly, in my case) attracted to men. A lot of men are assholes, so it does limit the selection.

Probably being intrigued by same sex porn I stumbled on to. It turned me on so much, I used to masturbate to it. Then one day I got the urge to go to an adult bookstore, and check out the arcade area. That’s where I discovered the gloryholes.

My thoughts began due to early experiences with some friends as well as a couple of early incidences that involved older men that formed an impression that obviously stuck with me subconsciously for the long term. I think the desire to explore actually developed over many years and evolved from different influences. I never acted on these thoughts for many years. As a young adult, I successfully pushed these thoughts out of my mind as I explored the sheer joy of women in my life. It was not until decades later that those earlier thoughts came flooding back. I believe this is largely as a result of a dramatically reduced sex life within my marriage and realizing that some of those earlier experiences were extremely erotic. This led to me reading more about these thoughts, and to thinking about further exploration of my thoughts as an alternate to my right hand as an outlet to my high sex drive. I don't really consider myself a "bisexual" but I would readily say that I'm an orally fixated guy who loves everything oral. It just happens my oral desires includes a male friend if it comes to that. I also think that perhaps today's society is a lot more accepting of different spectrums of sexuality and that this in itself may give many of us permission to take a closer look at ourselves so that we can address the desires that we may have repressed many years ago due to guilt.

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A lot of men are assholes, so it does limit the selection.

I couldn't agree more with this.

At my all boys school when about age 13 we all started getting interested in sex and masturbating we wanted girls. Girls weren't available so we started playing with other, mutual wanking etc. I found it exciting and a good sexual release. Later I moved to a big city for work and I was very lonely and sexually frustrated. I met an older guy who felt much the same. One night he asked me to get naked for him and to wank each other. I found I enjoyed it and again it was a sexual release. I've got a woman now but I enjoyed those times of uncommitted sexual action with men.