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Have you come out to family/parents?

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My father said he would have only been surprised if I said I wasn't queer. My mother (they were divorced by that time) said "Oh, that's nice dear." My sister informed me I was a godless sexual deviant and would burn in hell. She still does about once a week, when I bother to answer the phone. That said, it was more than a decade before I ever practiced what I preached.



That was pretty much MY twin sister's reaction too since she discovered my bi-sexuality, although we never really got along very well even before she knew.
Yes and they are very supportive
I have. Several times as I went came out as gay (but then had a terrible experience which chased me back to identifying as straight), then bi, then pan, then trans, then poly, and they've been dramatically less supportive each time. Maybe they were a bit better with polyamory than my being trans, but they also tried to convince me to not be quite a bit more on that one. I came out as trans over thirteen years ago, and it's only in the last five or six months that they have even acknowledged that I am trans and not "going through a phase". It also took them nine years to acknowledge that trans people are even a real thing. I've found that limiting their contact with me is reasonably effective in combating that, both because they want to talk to me, and to allow me to control when they have the opportunity to say hurtful things.
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one of these days, just for the hell of it, i'm gonna come out as straight. wait, it's too early start drinking? that's ok, i've got a bunch of drugs in a jar... somewhere around here...

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I came out to my sister only. She understood and was wonderful about my CD life. Bless her

I came out in my early teens, my family is cool with me being me

I came out to my wife of 30 years and she was surprised ,but very accepting .

I am bi but not really out IRL, just here on Lush and maybe a couple sites. Not actively involved in having sex with anyone of any sex/gender at the moment so my orientation is a bit moot but if it starts to matter again, then coming out may follow.

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Came out as a young teen to most of my family, not an easy time. Grew up with a very conservative, christian family. My life is still 100% better out of the closet, even if it can be stressful at times, and I am unapologetically me! smile

I am only Out on Lush. You folks are the only ones who know. Then again, I've only had one gay experience and am not active.

That may change at some time in the future, in which case I will think about letting at least some people in my life know. I do like the idea of being open about my bisexuality - once I'm actually practicing it and not just imagining it. Which I guess is more or less what Seeker4 said.

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Yeah and believe me they aren't very happy that I'm Gay

Yes and they are very supportive

I'm not sure I have anything to come out about. It is funny because one of my brother's said to me after I had been married for many years and had grown kids that he thought I was gay when I was younger. I'm pretty sure I know why he thought that but won't get into it. He said that it was alright with him if I was and that all he wanted was for me to be happy. The thing is, I am happily married love my wife, loved our sex life until it started to decline in frequency to almost non existent. It wasn't until recently over the last 6 years or that I started to have strong bi desires revolving around oral sex having realized how much I loved going down on my wife. This was always my favorite activity, the scent, smells, and taste of her sexual fluids. This has fed into my current bi oral desires. I think if I was to come out it would be as a guy with an oral fixation!

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... strong bi desires revolving around oral sex having realized how much I loved going down on my wife. This was always my favorite activity, the scent, smells, and taste of her sexual fluids. This has fed into my current bi oral desires. I think if I was to come out it would be as a guy with an oral fixation!

I get that. For me there's an awful lot of overlap between my love of oral sex on a woman and my interest in oral sex on a man. The tastes and smells might not be the same, but in a lot of ways the experience is similar and wonderful.

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Yeah my family and friends know.They are ok with it

A long time ago

I came out to my parents as trans when I was 6. I didn't know the name for what I was but I knew I was a girl inside. I am forever grateful for my understanding parents and family. You can read about my coming out in this post in this thread: https://www.lushstories.com/forum/lgbtq-community-forum/crossdressing-8?post=4076326

crossdressing

First let me start by saying I am not a crossdresser I am a transgirl but you asked about Halloween so.... At 6 I said I wanted to be a princess for Halloween. My parents were reluctant but my sister said she'd help me with my hair and makeup before school that day and take me trick or treating with them in the evening. Like I said, my parents were really reluctant, my mom more so than my dad but they agreed to let me. For the entire month of October I was thinking about how I might look and feel . When that day/night night came around it was magical (no pun intended). A few days before we got my costume, a lovely pink and white satin princess dress with a tiara. My sister bought me some matching shoes a little girl's clutch purse and clip on earrings. In another bag were some underthings. A little white nylon slip and a pack of girls panties. She asked me if I wanted to wear that stuff too and I nodded. The clothes and outfit was so soft and so different than my boy clothes and i loved how i felt walking in it with the material caressing my legs. I got up 2 hours early because I was so anxious that I couldn't sleep and I was told to be up an hour earlier than normal. My mom and my sister helped me get dressed then my mom went to work and my sister did my makeup and hair and showed me how to powder my face and reapply lipgloss then that stuff went into the clutch purse and she drove me to school. A lot of kids made fun of me but not everyone, some girls thought i looked really good and didn't know who I was at first thinking i was a new girl in the school. That made me feel really good. They asked me questions about my hair and makeup and I told them my sister helped me. They asked me to sit with them at lunch (normally I sat alone). I felt accepted on some small level as another girl. That night my family took me trick or treating and no one in the neighborhood knew who I was, they thought I might be one of my cousins. After it trick or treating was over, my mom was like "well you had quite a day, let's get you out of that costume" and I asked if I could keep it on and she asked me why since Halloween was over and I said because I felt I was a girl inside and I liked how it felt and I wished I could wear dresses every day. And kind of stunned she just walked out of the room, got my dad and asked me to tell him what I told her. I did and my dad kind of just nodded like he expected this and the two of them walked out of the room before coming back and saying I could keep it on until bedtime. I began wearing those panties under my boy clothes and my parents asked if I'd like to see someone to talk about my feelings. I said yes. The rest is history, I started seeing a child psychologist and she recommended i be allowed to play how i wanted and dress how i wanted at home after school and on weekends or vacation. A year later my room was repainted in all disney princess colors pink and lavender and i got a girl's bed and night stand set. I got clothes handed down from my sisters and some new things my mom bought towards the end of the year. At 12 they realized it wasn't a phase and I started testosterone blockers and we got my name legally changed. I also went to school wearing a dress for the first time since that Halloween. A year or so later I began estrogen hormones and 5 years ago I had surgery. I'm 22 now and in college and no one knows I'm trans.