Do you know what it is? Honestly? There are so many men pretending to be women on Lush that it puts people off cybering.
You see these profiles that pop up, usually a young, single, very attractive girl. They have a gorgeous avatar and some risqué photos on their profile page. They make a point of telling everyone they're a lesbian and that they are only interested in 'having fun' with other girls.
BUT...
Anyone with half a brain can work out that actually, those aren't photos of her. They were more than likely found online somewhere in an 'amateur photo gallery' and uploaded as window-dressing for the gullible and trusting.
What really makes me giggle is thinking about two guys jerking off at home, chatting to each other as lesbian girls online. They must know!
Fake Girl 1: "Lick my clit, baby!"
Fake Girl 2: "Ooo, yeah. Both of them?"
Fake Girl 1: "Hell yes. You make me so wet! It's like... squirting all over the place! LOL"
Fake Girl 2: "That's so hot. What do you taste like?"
Fake Girl 1: "Rainbow sherbet."
NO YOU FUCKING DON'T!
And that's probably why real lesbian members of Lush are reluctant to cyber.
Liz
Cybering makes me anxious.
I tried it once and was so overwrought that I closed down the chat window after a couple of minutes. I got all in a tizzy.
Liz, your humour never fails to amuse me.
Is the word "Cyber" an official verb now?
It's certainly an adjective.
Cyber sex
Cyber space
Cyber attack
But would it be right to say "I cybered with a friend last night"?
If it isn't already, I'm sure it will be soon.
It would be better to say "I had cyber sex with a friend last night".
Then "had" would be the verb with the word "cyber" functioning adjectivally and modifying the noun "sex".
The prepositional phrase "With a friend last night" is telling us when the event occurred and with whom.
Quite fascinating, Donna.
Would you care to join me for a spot of clause analysis?
I rather enjoy it but 90% of the time it ends up being a guy on the other end it takes the fun out of it.
Maybe it's because I don't often chat, cyber or otherwise, but I never really cared one way or the other about whether a person was pretending to be a girl, or young or whatever. I thought of lush as a place where someone could go and be who they never could be in real life. I'm kind of that way here in that I do have to live a lie professionally.
After being here so long though, I've seen how people have suffered real, tangible heartbreak from these online romances. I've felt a few myself and probably hurt a few along the way. The point is that it became obvious that the deceivers really do hurt the unwary and trusting souls who open themselves up to someone who is not what they say. It isn't the harmless fantasy I used to believe it was.
The sad thing is, no one needs to pretend. I'm who I am. I'm a 50 year old guy who once upon a time had a pretty decent sex life. I never felt a need to be anything else. Even so, I have made some fantastic friends here, some men but a great many women as well. I'm not looking for online sex, but have had enough to know that it's something I could get more of if I wanted to. The point is, most of us have something to offer that is real. We don't need to make it up.
This is what I love about lush, come to a sex chat site and get a lesion in the English language.
I use 'cybering' as a verb. As it is used here and in all the sex chat sites I have been too.
I know most of ya'all are authors and must use proper English, i am not and have no problem with 'butchering your language' as Milik_Redman says.
BTW I don't 'cyber', just in case anyone cares.
I've been moderating a lesbian social-site for more than 5 years, and cybering is a frequent onsite activity. As kind of the social-director for the site, I've cybered hundreds of times with other women, to the point where it just got tedious, as I was typing most of the creative 'activity', while they did most of the orgasming! I finally burned-out a year or so ago, and now only cyber with a couple of really close girlfriends who can keep up their end of the conversation.
Guys posing as girls is a frequent problem on sex-sites, and when I was on MySpace years ago, probably half the 'girls' I cybered with were actually guys, before I caught on to the clues, and figured out ways to tell the difference. But a few were so clever, they fooled me to the bitter end, and then rubbed my nose in it when they finally confessed, or I found them out some other way. That's why I don't cyber on open sites anymore, and why you won't see me in the chatrooms here.
