Mental health is very important and should be taken care as soon as it feels. I dont have many tips but I want to say that one should deal with his stress and depression as earliest as he feel before it goes to higher level where it is difficult to handle it. There is very less trend of life coaching instead people prefer psychiatrists more. A psychiatrist deals with your depression and mental disease. However, a life coach helps you to deal with your life problems i.e mental, physical, emotional and social through every stage of your life with strong spirituality. If you know that how can you live your life against hurdles and problems you can improve your life quality and leads to prosperity with strong spiritual mindset and strong emotion intelligence. Life coaching is the natural treatment of depression according to me.
How to Deal With Stress and Depression?
A. Talk to your primary physician and have him refer you to a psychiatrist, preferably one who specializes in stress and depression.
B. He or she can refer you to a state licensed, board certified psychotherapist. Along with the psychiatrist, who may prescribe a psychotropic medication to help with a deep depression and the psychotherapist who may coach you through "Talk Therapy", which is the one we used, or one of the other proven programs now being used.
We are leery of "Life Coaches". I am sure there are some who can help. However, at least here in S.C.. they are not licensed. There are several who had been state licensed, board certified psychotherapist who lost their license due to malpractice but became "Life Coaches" because there are no regulatory or licensing requirements to be a "Life Coach".
Good luck on your journey.
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What works for me: Writing. Exercise, particularly walking. Sex.
I'm learning to lean on others more too, but that's not always easy.I'm lucky in being pretty easily amused, so if I can find something that grabs my interest or makes me laugh, I'm in a much better space. The problem, of course, being that if I'm depressed it's harder to find things interesting or funny.
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What works for me: Writing. Exercise, particularly walking. Sex.
Exercise is a huge help! It stimulates different parts of your brain. It's important for a Dr to help you figure out if your depression is situational or if you have a chemical imbalance. Meds can greatly help with the latter. Also, hopefully you have a trusted person in your life, because once in the throes of depression, you might not be making good decisions that will help you regain your mental health.
Also, try getting outside. Focus on natural beauty. Get away from worldly "noise". And read aloud a happy book. It's hard to have negative thoughts in your head while you are reading aloud.
I say beware of "coaches" too. Everyone is saying they are a Life Coach, Health Coach, etc and many have no real training to back that up.
Hugs to those who need one.
Exercise, Writing, cat cuddles, trying new hobbies, remembering my prozac, listening to 90s music, putting myself first more often
getting outside and getting sunshine.
Another thing if you have people who run you down or make you feel bad about yourself in any way..cut them out now! and start focusing on the people that make you feel good in life those people matter most of all.
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But, it was a habit that stuck. I still meditate for an hour each morning.
I find that recognizing shoots of negativity that lead to self-defeating feelings is the best defense. Blasting narcissistic thoughts just as they are germinating saves a whole lot of troweling later on down the line.
As others have said, exercise is a great weapon in the battle.
Read this yesterday, spoken by a character in a Lorrie Moore short story. Sort of sums up how I have come to feel at my present age:
"You reach a point when you cannot cry anymore, and you look around you at the people you know,
at the people your own age, and they're not crying either. Something has been taken.
And they are emptier. And they are grateful"
Another valid question, that I've not heard asked is how to deal with stress and depression in others.
My daughter has anxiety issues and my godson PTSD, I can talk with both of them and it's like we have a whole different vocabulary.
My wife and mum among others do their best but just cannot comprehend what is going on. I try to explain and fail every time.
Personally and this won't work for everyone, I know, I don't want people to patronise me, I also don't want them to be scared of talking about it, any aspect of it.
I stress that's just me, nothing is off topic when talking about my depression, this is not necessarily right for everyone.
And remember a broken head is no less valid a health concern than than a broken arm, like a broken arm it needs professional help and is nothing to be ashamed of (no matter what you try to tell yourself).
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I find that recognizing shoots of negativity that lead to self-defeating feelings is the best defense. Blasting narcissistic thoughts just as they are germinating saves a whole lot of troweling later on down the line.
I agree with this so much. I'm learning to examine a negative thought/feeling/reaction and ask: is this true? is this useful? what's the result of following this line of thought? am I better off just walking away from this way of thinking?
I'm not describing it very well, but it's just about following those threads in your life that lead you to healthy and positive experiences. I hate pithy slogans and simple three word mantras, but the whole Joseph Campbell "follow your bliss" thing contains a lot of wisdom, and helps me focus on what I think is important.
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I also have zolpidem 12.5mg (Ambien ER), to be taken PO PRN sleep, d/t my work schedule, but again, as under normal circumstances I have my entire 24h schedule reversed d/t working nights, I do not take it often.
I don't do any kind of talk therapy, as I learned long ago that my every answer to every question is invariably "I'm good. Next question."
That said, with both my oldest and youngest now diagnosed with the exact same diagnoses, responding to the exact same medications (the youngest does not tolerate benzodiazapine class meds, so still working on that, but otherwise the same), I can assure you that in some cases, including both of my affected sons, talk or behavioural cognitive therapy or whatever the fuck the talk therapy is called, definitely works when used in addition to medication, and more importantly, with the psychologist working with the psychiatrist.
And feelings? Yah, okay, yah, no. Those are not a thing, not for me, ever, and especially not right now. Doesn't mean they aren't a thing--just not a thing for me. I take care of shit first and then I document that shit and then I move on. It should also be noted that the word "feelings" should not be confused for the more empirical "caring".
Meaning that if someone within the scope of my authority, especially my sons, any of them, is threatened with danger/in danger/sick/whatever, well, you can choose to get behind me (sick) or choose to remove yourself from my path (threatened with/in danger), or I will assist you in removing yourself from my path.
As for dealing with stress by itself--not a thing, not for me.
I don't know how to explain that except by saying that in this era of a pandemic, plus idiots, plus the normal stress concomitant with working at a tertiary/quaternary hospital on a L&D/Antepartum unit that even pre-pandemic served the most critical patients/pregnancies from a five state region, yah. Pretty sure that if my own house caught fire, after verification that both younger sons and Lily/any fosters were evacuated and being treated, I would just sit down and call my insurer.
Probably not helpful, J. is way more helpful, but this is me answering you.
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I agree with this so much. I'm learning to examine a negative thought/feeling/reaction and ask: is this true? is this useful? what's the result of following this line of thought? am I better off just walking away from this way of thinking?
I'm not describing it very well, but it's just about following those threads in your life that lead you to healthy and positive experiences. I hate pithy slogans and simple three word mantras, but the whole Joseph Campbell "follow your bliss" thing contains a lot of wisdom, and helps me focus on what I think is important.
Nice one, Jeff.
The business I ran for thirty years was the result of me following my bliss. Friends and family would look at me askance when I first told them my intentions. Bht I have not one regret on that score — even though I never made a fortune.
So, yeah, go for it — no matter how unlikely the outcome might seem.
I agree with what you say about "pithy, three-word mantras. Sometimes what might seem profound to a person often comes across as trite to another.
They're a bit like other people's toddlers: cute, at best, annoying when encountered in an inappropriate place.
I got of social media for most of last year, and that took me my mood from about a negative 8 to a negative 3. Then I was able to start working a plan to fill my days and didn't feel as panicked and hopeless as I did around May of 2020.
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Everyone is different thus solutions, if any, run the full spectrum embracing the various needs. I sail, read and walk on the beach not trying to solve the problems of the world simply thinking of the many things and people that embrace my heart.Humor is the universal solvent against the problems of the world.
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I agree with this so much. I'm learning to examine a negative thought/feeling/reaction and ask: is this true? is this useful? what's the result of following this line of thought? am I better off just walking away from this way of thinking?
I'm not describing it very well, but it's just about following those threads in your life that lead you to healthy and positive experiences. I hate pithy slogans and simple three word mantras, but the whole Joseph Campbell "follow your bliss" thing contains a lot of wisdom, and helps me focus on what I think is important.
This was very helpful to me, Jeff. I had a mental break of sorts about a month ago, even had to take time off work. When I'm overwhelmed by stress or other negative energy to the point of breaking, I have a flight response. Withdraw. Must withdraw! The problem with that is I have no rational voice to combat my irrational one in my head. I have to regain a certain level of mental stability again before I can ask your questions and let them guide me. Fortunately I have some supportive people on Lush and in my life who recognize I'm on the edge and pull me back.
I usually rebound pretty quickly w/help and then look back and can't understand my response to things when in that moment, yet in that moment I saw no other response. I'm always asking myself, "What were you thinking?" All I can say is Anxiety and Depression have VERY loud voices that are hard not to listen to when in the throes of it.
I hope each of you find ways to keep your mental health. ❤️ And I sincerely thank those who show me understanding and compassion when I'm struggling!
Stress is difficult, to be honest I sometimes don't handle it the best and as my friend has said have a tendency to stress eat sweets.
I find being able te pet cute puppies, or doing something relaxing is best, personally for me that's watching cute YouTube videos with baking, animals or something of that nature, as well as a hot shower or getting lost in a good book and yes writing can be helpful as well.
Well #1 is do NOT watch the news... 😕
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Find something to do, keep yourself busy, and get a sense of accomplishment
This is part of it, but a big part indeed. Writing - bailed me out more than once.
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Well #1 is do NOT watch the news... 😕
Oddly, not watching the mainstream news per se - but knowing what is going on in general helps me. It's going to be happening anyway. Just like there will be some guy collecting bottles from the trash outside my windows. And they're not from somewhere else - they live around here. It bothers me, but getting depressed about it won't help them.
Go have a walk in nature, in a park or your lawn walk barefoot for sometime, sit under a shade of a tree or a corner of natural environment, take deep breaths and close your eyes, just concentrate on your breathing,whatever thoughts come in your mind, don't push those thoughts, just let them come and go and again concentrate on your breathing,later hug a huge tree !! We are the problem and we are the solutions
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Xanax and Citalopram wok well for me. Been on these since 1985. I'm a Vietnam Vet. No PTSD but severe depression and Anxiety.
I am a Vietnam Vet as well. I struggle with Agent Orange conditions, have gotten the PTSD to a mild rating. Been on and off meds for depression for over 50 years. Wish you well my friend.
everyone deals with it differently. the trick is figuring out what works and then doing it on a consistent basis. lol Martial arts is my go to. Tai chi tends to be meditative while Kung fu works out my aggressions and fills me up with a lot of endorphins from the physical activity. reading with a cat on your lap also works.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
I suffer from severe depression an PTSD , I take meds twice a day, and try and keep busy . You have to admit to yourself you need help, I joined N.A.M.I (https://www.nami.org/Home) wow what a difference it made. People that understood and didn't come out with "Snap out of it" or "You just need to brighten up" DNA testing is a great easy to make the choice of meds easier.
Getting help is so hard in the US, 22 veterans a day commit suicide here. Now tell me it's not a major issue.
I find de-empasizing Christmas-with-a-capital-C and just trying to make it a nice day filled with kindness helps.
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Comet Q - second place (Quick and Risqué Sex)
Amnesia - third place (Le Noir Erotique)
1. Wake up and go over the good things in your life even the small ones that may at times seem insignificant.. because trust me they aren't.
2. Try something new anything go to a new restaurant.. switch up your usual drink or food try a new hobby.. go somewhere you've never been.
3. Don't isolate yourself for long periods of time.
4. Snuggle a cat they are literally little serotonin machines
5. Watch a comedy
6. Get yourself that something you've been putting off
7. Do something for others it feels great to make a difference.
8. Write or vent your feelings in some way Tyr quicker you unbottle the quicker you heal.
9. Protect your energy if someone or something causes you emotional distress let them go they aren't for you.
10. Remember that bad days come and go that you just have to ride the wave sometimes.
11. Most importantly love yourself ♥
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