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Would you or Could you be offended by anything sexual, that your partner asked you to do?
Quote by Wilful
I wouldn't be offended, but I might be unwilling.
My diplomatic friend here hit the nail on the head. (For ME, unwilling would be more along the order of, "Not just NO, but, HELL NO!"
For a partial listing, have a look at dpw's post. Those a few, and there are others; for while I AM open minded, I also know EXACTLY where my own "lines' are drawn. 
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I am not sure I would be offended at all. I suppose it would depend on what he asks of me. I would love for my partner to feel as though I would want to bring his fantasies to life. I want my partner to trust me fully as I do them. The worst I can say is no.
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Quote by LaneyHearn77--(quote)
I am not sure I would be offended at all. I suppose it would depend on what he asks of me. I would love for my partner to feel as though I would want to bring his fantasies to life. I want my partner to trust me fully as I do them. The worst I can say is no.
I love this attitude and embrace it wholeheartedly!
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Quote by CurlyGirly
Yes, if he said he wanted to watch me being fucked by another man/men. I would be offended, because he would know up front that this is not something I'm into. I prefer my man to be a bit on the possessive side and not someone who wants to "share" me. Just the thought pisses me off. Not for me.
I'm into trying most things one-on-one with my partner.
So about that licorice whip spanking? ;)
“If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, I would be happy to do it for you."
You know - I've always regretted the way I responded to my husband the first time he mentioned any of his sex fantasies: I pretended it bothered me.
What actually bothered me was that my fantasies were more extreme than his and I was immediately worried that I'd end up having to tell him what they were if we started to have 'fantasy' conversations.
And I still don't know what to do about that all these years later - I've always worried that if I told him it would be like letting the genie out of the bottle, not in a good way, and I'd regret it somehow.
It's like being in sex fantasy limbo.
What actually bothered me was that my fantasies were more extreme than his and I was immediately worried that I'd end up having to tell him what they were if we started to have 'fantasy' conversations.
And I still don't know what to do about that all these years later - I've always worried that if I told him it would be like letting the genie out of the bottle, not in a good way, and I'd regret it somehow.
It's like being in sex fantasy limbo.
Quote by Metilda
You know - I've always regretted the way I responded to my husband the first time he mentioned any of his sex fantasies: I pretended it bothered me.
What actually bothered me was that my fantasies were more extreme than his and I was immediately worried that I'd end up having to tell him what they were if we started to have 'fantasy' conversations.
And I still don't know what to do about that all these years later - I've always worried that if I told him it would be like letting the genie out of the bottle, not in a good way, and I'd regret it somehow.
It's like being in sex fantasy limbo.
That is EXACTLY the way I feel with my wife, I've never told her about my bisexual past or bisexual threesome fantasies (or any other fantasies) because I would worry how she would then feel about me and as you say, the genie is out of the bottle. Although all of my fantasies include her, I don't want her to feel that she isn't enough.
Thank you for your answer.
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Don't get the whole cuckhold thing...so yeah
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After all of the years we have been together no nothing she could ask me to do would offend
Quote by GentlemanJack
That is EXACTLY the way I feel with my wife, I've never told her about my bisexual past or bisexual threesome fantasies (or any other fantasies) because I would worry how she would then feel about me and as you say, the genie is out of the bottle. Although all of my fantasies include her, I don't want her to feel that she isn't enough.
Thank you for your answer.
Yeah, I understand completely.
Maybe in my next life I'll just be a masochistic slut with a more of an outgoing personality and not have to struggle with it again.
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I don't think, "Offended" is the right word either.
I might really wonder what she'd been drinking or smoking to ask it, but not offended. There would be some I wouldn't do or want to talk about, but not offended.
That's what a partnership is all about though. Over time you each learn what not to ask for and it becomes a marvelous trip through life. Absolute honesty, talk about EVERYTHING and always sleep in the same bed. It's worked for 40+ years for us but she's losing what she is, herself, right now.
I might really wonder what she'd been drinking or smoking to ask it, but not offended. There would be some I wouldn't do or want to talk about, but not offended.
That's what a partnership is all about though. Over time you each learn what not to ask for and it becomes a marvelous trip through life. Absolute honesty, talk about EVERYTHING and always sleep in the same bed. It's worked for 40+ years for us but she's losing what she is, herself, right now.
I am always a gentleman.
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Quote by Dani
I'm only offended if, after they'd asked me a first (or even second) time to do something and I've said I'm not into it, they persist.
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Offended? Never. But as some have said, I would probably be a little afraid of letting someone too far into my fantasy world, or of admitting some (what I consider to be ) kinky fantasies. I guess what it comes down to is how willing are you t let yourself be vulnerable? BY the time anyone becomes a sexual partner, we know each other well enough, and are comfortable enough together that I like to think I wouldn't feel as if I needed to keep any secrets. So my vulnerability wouldn't scare me so much as the possibility that I am stranger, odder, wilder, kinkier (select whatever word you like) than she, and it would put her off, or worse, ruin the relationship..
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
I, honestly don't know if I'd get offended. Right now I can say, no, no I won't get offended but then again it's not like I tried many things.
I mean I wouldn't want my partner to feel like he/she couldn't talk to me about what they'd like to try sexually. I'm an open book and I might not be to experienced but I'm up for trying new things. That's how you find out what your likes and dislikes are.
I mean I wouldn't want my partner to feel like he/she couldn't talk to me about what they'd like to try sexually. I'm an open book and I might not be to experienced but I'm up for trying new things. That's how you find out what your likes and dislikes are.
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No, me and my partner are very open sexually. That being said we might agree/disagree on a particular thing but that is no big deal
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not sure if i would be offended if my partner asked me to do anything sexaul
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I'm pretty open I don't think that i would be offended ;but I still might say no.
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Sure could. The sexual spectrum goes from absolutely boring via exciting and naughty all the way up to disturbingly sick minded. So if the 'your partner' from the question asked is an abstract notion, then I'm sure there are plenty of sexual expressions that would freak me out and/or offend me.
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I wouldn't be offended by anything that my partner asked me to do sexually, I would take in all ideas that she had and think about them, I'm pretty open about sexual stuff anyway.
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I would not be offended to be asked. If I said "no" and it was pursued over and over and over then that would be offensive. Respect my limits.
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nope, never offended
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I could never feel offended by my partner asking me anything! In my opinion, sexual communication is important in a relationship, I mean if you don't ask then you don't get, right? 
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And if things don't work out.
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I wouldn't be offended if my partner asked me to try something. I'd be offended if they didn't accept my answer, if it wasn't in their favor. I'm willing to try almost anything, but, everyone has limits. And your partners should always respect that.
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I wouldn't be offended, I think it take a lot for someone to open up and request something they consider out of the norm, I must agree with Poppet though, I would be offended if they were upset they requested something that I didn't want to do, although, I highly doubt they would request something I wouldn't do.