So this is just my opinion and I understand that we all come to lush for different reasons. But here is my rant, please feel free to share your thoughts…..
I don’t understand the negative connotation and the resistance to on here. Obviously most of which comes from females. If you enjoy talking to someone and you get along, why not ? You aren’t sharing any more information than you are on here. If your pictures are real (which most claim) and you enjoy chatting, what is the harm? The “I must protect my privacy” excuse really doesn’t hold water because you aren’t sharing any private information on . At least no more than you choose to. If you are talking to someone who all they do is want to see you naked….then obviously don’t if you aren’t comfortable. But some of us (including me) don’t care to see you naked, we/I just want to have a real conversation with the person we’ve been chatting with. I really don’t see the harm. If the person turns out to be a weirdo…block them. Move on. Simple as that. Am I missing something? I understand that some people come here for an escape from their “real” life and are using this just as a fantasy outlet, and I won’t judge that. But for God’s sakes, don’t be “real,” say your pictures are real, and then come up with some excuse why you can’t or don’t . Another funny one is…”I don’t with people from Lush.” Like we have the plague or something. Again….am I missing something? Am I in the minority here?
Because they don't want to. Some people don't feel comfortable taking it to that level. Some people enjoy their anonymity. Some people are fakes.
There are several reasons people CHOOSE not to . Reasons that don't need justification. If we want to, we will. But it's definitely not something we're obligated to do. I've been hounded here relentlessly, and it did nothing but make me alienate myself from those people and even the site itself. So if someone says no, respect that and move on.
I absolutely agree with respecting people's privacy. Everyone has the right to choose not to. I guess I just don't understand the reasoning behind the logic. Obviously to each their own and I honestly do respect that. I just don't know why someone wouldn't want to.
I don't for a few reasons. I prefer the written word. If you can't express yourself through typing, I'm most likely not interested in talking to you. I dislike talking on phones. is close enough to that to make me uncomfortable. I'd rather meet face to face then talk on the phone/ . Strange, I know. But that's just my thing. If I say no to and you continue to hound me about it, why should I? It's taken something I didn't want to do, and then made me actively antagonistic about it.
Quote by offwithsandpaper I absolutely agree with respecting people's privacy. Everyone has the right to choose not to. I guess I just don't understand the reasoning behind the logic. Obviously to each their own and I honestly do respect that. I just don't know why someone wouldn't want to.
I guess for the same reason you meet someone at a bar and don't leave with their phone number. It may not be all there for them, and it comes down to simply not wanting to. There's really no science behind it. If people want to, they will. If they don't want to, they won't.
Don't take it so personally. And enjoy the conversation you do get. It would suck if you're only in it for a chance to web chat.
I don’t mind Skyping with friends. I mean, I don’t just add anyone to ; I have to really feel comfortable with you. And just because I add you to don’t mean I’m going to voice with you. I just really hate Lush’s chats. The black boxes are too small, the private chat things suck, and chat rooms are too crowded. I just like chatting in private without worrying the site will go down.
Now, if/when I get comfortable with voicing with someone, that doesn’t mean I’ll go on cam with them. I don’t give out my photo on Lush, so I guess that is mute. You stated if they do, why they can’t go on cam, well I don’t share my photo anyway. I won’t do it for anyone.
I guess the other side of the question is..... Why wouldn't you want to see the person you are talking to? Please understand, I'm not talking about the randos that you've spoken to like twice and all they say is "Hey baby, I'm horny." I'm talking about the people that you regularly chat with and have an actually friendship with. Don't you want to see who they are? Am I being too real for this site?
Quote by offwithsandpaper So this is just my opinion and I understand that we all come to lush for different reasons. But here is my rant, please feel free to share your thoughts…..
I don’t understand the negative connotation and the resistance to on here. Obviously most of which comes from females. If you enjoy talking to someone and you get along, why not ? You aren’t sharing any more information than you are on here. If your pictures are real (which most claim) and you enjoy chatting, what is the harm? The “I must protect my privacy” excuse really doesn’t hold water because you aren’t sharing any private information on . At least no more than you choose to. If you are talking to someone who all they do is want to see you naked….then obviously don’t if you aren’t comfortable. But some of us (including me) don’t care to see you naked, we/I just want to have a real conversation with the person we’ve been chatting with. I really don’t see the harm. If the person turns out to be a weirdo…block them. Move on. Simple as that. Am I missing something? I understand that some people come here for an escape from their “real” life and are using this just as a fantasy outlet, and I won’t judge that. But for God’s sakes, don’t be “real,” say your pictures are real, and then come up with some excuse why you can’t or don’t . Another funny one is…”I don’t with people from Lush.” Like we have the plague or something. Again….am I missing something? Am I in the minority here?
You say on your profile you don't want to cyber, if you said you did then you probaby would get less refusals. You may get less chatting to you though. Just a thought.
You say on your profile you don't want to cyber, if you said you did then you probaby would get less refusals. You may get less chatting to you though. Just a thought.
Not sure I follow...So I should say that I do want to cyber? I mean....I have and probably will again. But my point is that that's not all I'm here for. I honestly like getting to know someone and if cyber sex happens then it happens. I'm also not asking anyone to get on and throw off their clothes. I'm asking for a simple 'hi' just like you would anyone else that you meet in 'real' life.
Quote by offwithsandpaper I guess the other side of the question is..... Why wouldn't you want to see the person you are talking to? Please understand, I'm not talking about the randos that you've spoken to like twice and all they say is "Hey baby, I'm horny." I'm talking about the people that you regularly chat with and have an actually friendship with. Don't you want to see who they are? Am I being too real for this site?
That stuff doesn't truly matter. Does not seeing someone's face on cam make the friendship any less real? Sure it's nice to put a face to someone, but it's definitely not a defining factor.
That stuff doesn't truly matter. Does not seeing someone's face on cam make the friendship any less real? Sure it's nice to put a face to someone, but it's definitely not a defining factor.
If the person is absolutely lying to you I would say that it makes it a lot less real. You wouldn't want one of the friends you have offline to blatantly lie to you about something, why is it any different on Lush?
If the person is absolutely lying to you I would say that it makes it a lot less real. You wouldn't want one of the friends you have offline to blatantly lie to you about something, why is it any different on Lush?
Why do I have to assume they're lying just because I don't see their face?
I don't think you have to assume they are, but don't you want to know for sure? Again....maybe I'm not using this site right. lol
There's no wrong way to use the site...unless you're using it for spamming, harassing, or solicitation.
But I do think you're reading too much into the thing. It would suck to find out if someone's lying...but there are genuinely good people on this site. And if you can't get a good sense of a person without knowing what they look like, then that's sort of unfortunate. And (or lack thereof) is the least of your problems.
we're all here for different reasons - i don't need to write stories.
That was in my original post. I agree. We are all here for different reasons. But I guess I'm discussing the few instances that I've had with people who claim to be real and will chat with me for weeks on end on Lush, but can't simply say 'Hi' on . If you aren't here to make friends and only here to read and write stories.....no need for at all. I agree.
Not sure I follow...So I should say that I do want to cyber? I mean....I have and probably will again. But my point is that that's not all I'm here for. I honestly like getting to know someone and if cyber sex happens then it happens. I'm also not asking anyone to get on and throw off their clothes. I'm asking for a simple 'hi' just like you would anyone else that you meet in 'real' life.
The reason why I personally refuse to people I meet on lush is for multiple reasons which some others may share:
1. skyping can add an awkwardness that does not occur in real life, making it hard to create conversation if you're shy like me.
2. when you you not only show your face, but also your surroundings, your mannerisms, etc, which I think can add to the privacy issue.
3. if you're not good enough friends, you may not really want to see the friend's face on cam.
4. personally lush is my little private secret, which does not interfere with my normal innocent life, so skyping someone from lush can be bringing those two things a bit too close for comfort.
Hi, well for me the same, I also don't understand why people are so negative about it.
For me, if we are comfortable, I will appear on , why not?
Only the sexual part of appearing on is a bit of an hindrance for me, because I am afraid that someone will record me.
I have few friends here who will not appear in any way to me. Well, that is fine, but it makes that I put in less effort, because I never know who they are. I prefer to give my effort to the ones I really know....
Speaking of not needing to write stories...are we still on tonight for doing that thing we do every night on ?
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I'm really not sure what's so hard to understand that it's a choice people make not to do something. It's no different to living in the same city as someone. Would that mean you should meet in real life because it's convenient to do so and that it's no different to chatting on here? I can tell you, chatting with words then chatting on , with or without video, is a lot different and some people aren't comfortable with it. And can you really blame women for objecting to it? The interenet is crawling with freaks and weirdos. Yeah, men can play the nice guy to gain someone's trust, talk them into doing things they instinctly don't want, then turn out to be someone they arent. It's a defence mechanism for some. Others, might be in relationships and that's taking things too far. Don't question the choices people make because you think you're ok to talk to and can be trusted. And why do you have the need to ? What's with that? Are you hoping that like cyber here, you don't expect it, but on you hope it leads to it? Just respect people's decisions and stop letting it mess with your head. I doubt it's worth the energy.
Many of us have professional careers to protect. Face it, society in general may attribute some negativity to one who writes hardcore erotic stories, masturbates online while having cybersex, or discusses sex in a forum. Lush gives us the ability and freedom to live out a part of our life that general society inhibits us from doing. shows your face to other people. Even though you think you can trust them you may regret that if you do. So NO face, no real names. I don't want to be put in some category with Carlos Danger, ie. Anthony Weiner, ex-US Congressman who emailed his weenie pics to women (not his wife) he met on the internet. His career is fucked! So for very important privacy reasons a great number of Lushies will and should protect their identities. If someone can't respect that then that is their own small-minded problem. Kudos to the women who are bright enough to protect themselves from depraved weirdo stalker goobers.
IMO- because each of us have our own right to chose who we want to have a discussion with and where. Some people we just don't want to talk to elsewhere. And some we do. It could be that we find that person to be rude and uncivil, or it could be that we have more productive things to do than sit at a computer and spend an hour discussing something that could be done with a few messages back and forth here in lush. Second, if a person is down right rude and uncivil or has erotic dark motives, what makes you think they would be any different on (just kidding) There are some people that just absolutely refuse to . Likewise there are people who no doubt would love to .
That is our right to make that decision and we should not have to defend ourselves for refusing to talk to someone.
Think about it. Every one of you could probably name off at least 3 people you want nothing to do with. They could be family, co-workers, an Ex, or someone. Are you a bad person for cutting this person out of your life? No.
You say on your profile you don't want to cyber, if you said you did then you probaby would get less refusals. You may get less chatting to you though. Just a thought.
There's actually lots of women here who don't cyber. And many of them frequent the chat rooms. So if anything, a woman willing to would probably be more willing to do so if she knew she didn't have to worry about the cyber sex thing.
So him not wanting to cyber definitely doesn't impact his chances in a negative way.
Quote by offwithsandpaper I guess the other side of the question is..... Why wouldn't you want to see the person you are talking to? Please understand, I'm not talking about the randos that you've spoken to like twice and all they say is "Hey baby, I'm horny." I'm talking about the people that you regularly chat with and have an actually friendship with. Don't you want to see who they are? Am I being too real for this site?
I've seen pictures of my very few close Lush friends who've actually made it into my real life (phone, text, and FB) and that's more than enough for me.
I've never used and don't plan to. It holds no appeal for me. I've had real life friends ask me if I use it as well, and I've declined their invitations, too. I have absolutely no interest in seeing people as we're talking.
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012 So him not wanting to cyber definitely doesn't impact his chances in a negative way.
You're right there! I've never seen a woman have on her profile that she'll only with men who are willing to cyber. And if you do see that, you can be pretty sure it's a dude.
IMO- because each of us have our own right to chose who we want to have a discussion with and where. Some people we just don't want to talk to elsewhere. And some we do. It could be that we find that person to be rude and uncivil, or it could be that we have more productive things to do than sit at a computer and spend an hour discussing something that could be done with a few messages back and forth here in lush. Second, if a person is down right rude and uncivil or has erotic dark motives, what makes you think they would be any different on (just kidding) There are some people that just absolutely refuse to . Likewise there are people who no doubt would love to . 
I've never seen a woman have on her profile that she'll only with men who are willing to cyber. And if you do see that, you can be pretty sure it's a dude. 