Hi guys, get real! You do have options with Skype, just as you do on Lush. Chat with words - just like opening a chat window on Lush. Chat with voice - just like a phone call! Or go the whole hog and display, show or share a cam. Skype really gives you grown-up options. Of course, one of those options is "No Skype" at all!
Your choice but don't complain as though you have no choices! Puleeese!
Rob
We all come here for our own reasons. I know for myself I like to write and chat.
Maybe if people are single they are more inclined to and whatever else, but some of us are married. We need to be discrete.
For me personally, I am not comfortable with and I will never do it.
For me this is about fantasy, not reality. I come here to escape. This is a guilty pleasure.
I am not looking for hook ups or anything like that.
I also find it highly annoying to constantly be asked to it isn't happening. I do not voice chat either.
It's not a matter of why or why not. If there's a connection and you want the additional benefit of sound, Skype is great... and more discreet than phone in my opinion. I love voice, but if I'm chatting with a girl and she doesn't want to phone/Skype/Yahoo voice that's up to her. No one wants to have a bad experience with voice... it's too easy for the other party to hang up or disconnect.
couple reasons come to mind for me
first.....
I think of "skyping" as a date
and at 47 getting camera ready is well...tedious...(as I type with my hair in a bun and no makeup)
and if I am going on a date...well I want coffee or a meal or a drink
and the second is this
I have kids
more than likely if I do video
something INTERESTING might happen
and my kids may knock but they NEVER wait for the "come in"
but if you are single and alone...I understand
but like the others said
the written word turns me on more than any picture could
interesting topic
I agree with slipperywhenwet2012. You DO NOT need a reason not to. I don't and won't. My choice. This site is well monitored and controlled but I do not believe most of the others are. I am an EE and don't trust any of them. ANYTHING you post is susceptible to loss with break-ins and once posted NEVER goes away. I only share things that I don't care who knows. Everything I post is true though.
Because I don't want to.
'Nuff said
I can only speak for myself in this situation. I will not on Lush, unless its someone I trust and have built comfort with.
With video chatting it feels like I am stuck in having a bunch of 1 way conversations, I prefer dialogue. When the other person is talking you have to wait from them to finish (if not it inturrpts the feed or you can't hear everything properly) Then when both people start talking both apologize and its awkward. Its just a huge mess half of the time.
& personallyI have way MORE fun not knowing who exactly i'm speaking with, it leaves more for my imagination to wander.
Also another problem is certain men/women take this to an extreme. I gave someone my email to talk and they started to cross a line with me. He didn't stop hounding me through my email for weeks...
Overall I feel like takes away from my experience on Lush.
So, it looks like there's no big demand for a "Skype" field to be added to people's profile areas, nor integrating it in as an add-on somehow?
I suppose I can understand your desire to Skype with those friends you've built some kind of connection with (with or without sexual playtime). Getting on Skype does indeed prove the person on the other end is who they say they are. It's proof positive and there is no denying that fact.
What you might not have considered is that MOST men on here or on sites like Lush, RELENTLESSLY pester women to jump on Skype for playtime. Hell, some don't care to friend you or even know you and opt to simply post their Skype, KIK, WhatsUp, Viber, Yahoo etc. handles in their profile hoping someone will take the bait! As I'm sure you can appreciate, as sites like Lush are concerned, Skyping tends to have a bit of a reputation for naughty and sometimes questionable behaviour more than anything righteous.
As already mentioned over and over again in this thread, everyone comes here for their own reasons and each have their own agenda, good or bad. Everyone has the choice to be as transparent as they want. This isn't Facebook after all, it's a SEX SITE which makes 'trust' an expensive and sometimes elusive commodity.
You may in fact be a really sweet guy who's intentions are honourable but unfortunately, that may not be enough to convince someone to do something they don't feel comfortable doing. Period. I wouldn't take any of it personally, it's just how things roll sometimes. If you're questioning the authenticity of some of your friends, maybe you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place.
And just a bit of FYI, harping on and on about Skyping can be a SERIOUS turn-off to many women.
Good luck!
