I'm just not that talkative sometimes. I go dead silent for long periods of time and many people find that uncomfortable. I'll respond if addressed, but still, I've been told by many my "detachment" is very tangible.
Being with me makes it difficult for them to have a relationship with the other guy, so they have a relationship with the other guy instead lol.
I've been single so long now I think I wouldn't really live up to other peoples expectations of being in a relationship.
I'm quite driven (which I've always considered a strength) but I know that sometimes that means I work and live in a bubble with very little concern given to others and their feelings.
I don't know. They're apparently too scared to point out my flaws! ...or else I'm perfect? ~bats eyelashes~
My ex told me I was to clingy and needed I guess that plus I don't trust easy
The most difficult part of being in a relationship with me? Ermm...being in a relationship with me. Stubborn, fiercely independent, overeducated me.
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Apparently I'm distant. I tend to withdraw from people because I don't need them around me all the time. I need my alone time. Guys tend to have a hard time with me not needing constant attention or hearing them say I love you everyday all day.
For me, if I consider you a friend or someone that I love I don't need to have it reaffirmed everyday. I feel like they should have faith in me and our relationship. I find it completely exhausting and a huge turn off when someone needs me to constantly reassure them.
Hmm - reading other people's posts makes me wonder if I'm being subconscious obtuse about myself.
I have a fear of men that I'm slowly growing out of - and by default I take caution when not needed with my husband. In regard to other men it seems more warranted until I know them (which doesn't happen - I don't have men in my life save for my husband and father) Even after all this time, I'm not quite past it. But hubbs knows it and he knows why.
So it might make sense that when I fell in love with someone he was a burly badass looking dude with scars and tattoos all over - When my husband and I are together in public people don't even so much a glance at me. When I go out alone I always feel people staring - and a lot of people have something to say. So he's like my bodyguard.
I also have a hard time accepting other people's psychological issues - that's a huge problem considering several people in my family have serious problems. Mainly, it results in me watching everything I say - no casual jokes or snide comments.
I hate sugar coating people and I cannot stand if someone is doing that to me. Say it as you see it please.
Second thing is that I love to analyse pretty much everything! I love to know the 'why' answers about pretty much everything what is going on in life I share with other people.
And the third thing is that I need and don't hesitate to take, I time. I love my people, but I love myself most.
I am difficult in relationships and it doesn't mater if it is friendships, partnerships or among family, first two things drive everyone crazy.
I was never very good at opening up and showing my true emotions to people, but being in this relationship, she has helped me open up more.
She has encouraged me to open up and put my trust in her, which i found really hard to do before.
She has understood all the crap that happened in the past and helped me move past it too.
She has stood by me when i needed help and when most people would have left because it was the easier option.
To be honest, she has helped me so so much , i have quit a few faults in my eyes, but to her she sees me as something so much better.
What Dani said (and I guess a little of what Ashleigh said as well): I try to avoid conflict, perhaps to a fault, and then sort of shut down and retreat for a time, which can be -I'm told - incredibly frustrating. When I come back out of my corner, I do so as chill and non confrontive as I can, usually with some kind of solution, whether it's me apologizing or some new way of trying to make things work. So I guess you could say overly analytical would be another annoying trait.
Of course, these days that's pretty hypothetical. I'm kinda married to the endless treadmill of single-Daddy-dom. I imagine the hardest thing these days would be how little emotion/attention I have left to spend by the end of the day. Some day we'll find out, I suppose. Still finding my sealegs.
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I am a people person, so love to chat to anyone. Flirty would best describe me. I mean no harm by it, but I guess some men can not handle it. But in saying I am flirty, I am also faithful if in a solid relationship. I am also very independent, you have to be growing up in a house full of men. My 5 brothers taught me to be independent and look after myself.
The most, difficult thing about me is that I push people away. Many of my closest loves ones have told me that I am a very private person to the point where it is bewildering. I've never been a popular person yet I find people want to be around me. And I tend to push them away with my distantness. I don't know why just the way I am I guess. The best about me by far is that I am honest.
Dancing_Doll, romance is all about being in the moment. It doesn't have set rules or guildlines that's part of being romantic. You just can't follow some steps and be a super lover. To be romantic it all depends on the other person. In other words you have to know the person. Some people don't like picnics on the lake. Some people don't find riding their man, long-stroke style while soft music plays in the background to be that pleasing. Some people thinkthe most romantic thing a lover can do for them is make them laugh. While others would think laughing is just laughing. But truth be told romance and being romantic is about being able to turn your partner on and keep them on. The thing is everyone turns on differently. On a side note Dancing_Doll if that is really you in that pic then you're a down right babe. If not you could still be a looker. Back on topic, being romantic one has to be eye to eye with the other person so to speak in order for the gesture to fit the person that the gesture is being demonstrated for.
I don't ever talk like this in real life because woman would get the wrong idea. They would think I was some god lover. My mom always taught me to be kind, to the older, and women. You know, if you are walking on a sidewalk and their is a woman their too you always take the outside. Open doors and other things like that. People I find that when I do these things a lot of the time women think it is me putting game on. Like I am trying to get their attention or get at them. I am not. I would show the same kindness if you weren't young and beautiful and I do. My point is a lot of times me being kind is a lot of times seen as a gesture of romance. Why, I have no clue. The point is the most unromantic thing can be romantic if the person receiving it deems it so.
