True love would be impossible for me. I cannot commit to being faithful to any one person.
Have I loved anybody - yes and I believed what we had going together was wonderful but unfortunately I was tempted and could not control the urge to find out what I could be enjoying.
I had to admit what I had done as my conscious would not allow me to conceal it. It was hard and we remained together for a while until he too was tempted and in view of my indiscretion took the opportunity. It was good for both of us but we both realised that we were not going to make it together.
The mouse has eaten the cheese......
My Karma just ran over your Dogma
It's funny because if you had asked me about my first two marriages, I would have said it was true love, the kind I'd die for. My third marriage is so much healthier and happier and I hesitated at the thought of whether I'd die for her. Maybe it's the passion in the last two that made it feel so life or death, but with this wife, she'd never ask me to die for her, there's no drama. There's just tenderness and love.
Maybe that's true love. Whatever it is, it's good stuff.
Even being married for 25 years I'm sure I didn't feel love and
I think that if it was not the wedding and kids, I am a flighty person.
I do believe i've found true love, because my husband is not just my spouse, he is my best friend, and was for a long time before we became romantically involved. Even in those early days I felt the need to tell him everything, all my deepest darkest failures and faults, there have never been any secrets between us.
I don't think true love is more passionate, or vibrant than normal love, if anything it is less flashy
People who've found true love don't feel the need to show it off. They don't need others to tell them they have a good thing, they already know they have it.
i had true love and it was the best two years of my life. unfortunately she lest me for a guy. the problem is she fell in love with him and they are really happy together. so for now i say that that as long as she knows how i feel and she is okay then i am okay with that.
I've had it. I've also seen it wither into something unrecognizable.
Just keep wallowing in your own chaotic insecure delusions.
Not...I thought I had but it was not.
Is it 'love' we want? Or is it we don't want to be alone? To not have to face things without support?
To know that there's someone who is there for us as Carl Rogers says: "Love is the total positive unconditional regard for another person."
For me love is that - not the romance, that's the icing on the cake - rather I want someone to be with that I can talk to, walk with, argue with, and share love making/sex.
Share everything with.
I have no problem being by myself, and I also 'love' myself, it's not having someone here to relate the fun things that happened today, or the sad things.
To hear about their day, or to make plans for the future, or "I'm going to the store, you need anything?" type stuff.
Or now that I'm older and have two young kids, to not hear her say, "You'll never believe what X did today."
Or to reminisce about the good and bad times we went through.
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I thought I had it when I was young and silly. Now the love I have is for my children and two very close friends. Romantic love, it may come again, I won't hold my breath until it does. I don't need it to be a whole person.
Platonic friend & family love. Still seeking romantic love w/passion. Anyone care to apply....?
Having just ended a somewhat polyamorous relationship, I would have to say that I don't have any love right now. That's not to say that my partners and I weren't in love. There was love there, but sometimes it gets spread out so much that the substance is lacking. I think that's what happened to us. We all wanted more than any one of us could give.
That said, real love could be lurking right around the corner or behind the next door. If you're not willing to go there you'll never find it. We all have to make the effort to allow love to find us.
If you had asked me that a few months ago I would of said a true and endless love, but sense I haven't seen her in 3 months i'll have to say a lonely love at the moment
true love I am sorry but there is no such love I never been with anyone I truly love with everything I had I don't think that kind of love exist your partner and you would have to work at keeping up a relationship to make it work is that love maybe but is it truly true love ? Yeah love my boyfriend but I don't think it's true love. Maybe I am a bit bitter from the pass relationships I have had. Love will fade over time but if you want the love to stay you have to work at it and maybe true love is out there for some but not for those who don't believe who it has crushed into small pieces and left broken.
After being a widow and marrying the only love of my life, I never expected anything at all after that. My marriage was ok. We loved each other, but we argued and didn't agree on a lot of things and that made times difficult. But, with my new husband, it has totally shocked me that I could have the happiness that I have in a relationship. Our love is amazing. Not just fresh, but exciting, happy, fun, sensuous... more than I ever dreamed of or could have asked for. And, I get to be a little naughty, which I never was before!
My first thought when I saw this thread's question was of k.d. lang's song, "Big Big Love." Good song, I thought, and it's what I have.
But then I read the initial post, so I've got to be serious: Yes, I have the kind of love that is deep and wide. I've been married to the same woman for 45 [for-ty-five!] years. She loves me, too. So that's that.
What's more interesting, I think, is that I love the eroticism and sexuality of this site. Obviously, I mean something different here when I use "love" in that way. This "love" is exactly the lust and infatuation that doesn't go anywhere. That's OK here, because everyone understands the deal. I can't imagine one of my correspondents getting jealous if I correspond with someone else for a while. I would be really astonished if someone suggested an exclusive relationship!
And finally, the feelings I have for my friends and acquaintances here are something I keep from my wife. Does this mean I'm cheating on her? Being unfaithful? Nope. I love her in that "big, big love" way, and [sorry, ladies] I don't love anyone else that way.
So true love... Yes I have felt it. Only a couple of times. I can see it off in the distance of my current relationship. It used to be my world, my everything, my all consuming, can't breathe without you love. It was lost a little over the years... Slightly faded and dulled a little. I have spent a lot of time and too much of me trying to get it back only haven't gotten the same effort in return. Will it pick up speed and grow to what it once was again? God I hope so.
Believer in love.... It keeps knocking me down but I try and try again.
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Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
True Love. Have you ever had it. Not just ordinary love but that I would die for you love. You ever found true love or like me only experienced lust and/or infatuation?
