Self-explanatory subject, really; anyone else get turned on by nerds, geeks, bookworms, swots and the like?
And what is 'it' exactly that is so mouth-watering, knicker-dropping, lip-smacking about a sharp mind and a buzzing intellect?
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I think we all, at least I hope we do, find intelligence attractive.
Who wants to be with caveman Bob or cavegirl Jane? That'd be boring as hell. Where would conversations go? Nowhere, that's where.
I love a well read girl. I love a girl who'll sit down and play video games. I love a girl that's into comics and can play a mean game of monopoly or some other board game. Why? Conversation. A major breaking point, I would suppose, is that down the line you can get bored. You never had that much in common. You can't change things up because one person is dull.
Being able to share key interests is not necessarily "mouth-watering or knicker dropping" or anything having to do with sex appeal. It is the intellectual turn-on that the person I'm interesting in likes some of the things I do. That I won't have to be afraid what she'd think of a particular interest "nerdy" interest.
I want a creative freak in the sheets who's up for trying new kinky stuff and a sarcastic, witty as hell girl on the streets who can challenge me intellectually. Talk some politics on occasion. Talk some sports. Talk smack about both sometimes.
I don't think I could stand an air head who's only interest was clothes, looking "hot", and watching dumb reality shit like Jersey Shore, Housewives, or any of that crap.
after all is done and over, and you have time, what do you do - talk, so meaningful and good talk is better than just gawking and wating the encounter to end, because that what it would be otherwise, an encounter.
so talk and discuss before or after is for me a great plus
I Definitly find intelligence attractive! Why? Unless I can engage with someone on an intellectual level, I begin to lose interest very quickly.
Been around my fair share of very attractive women who I just wasnt able to have a deent chat with and became uninterested very quickly.
Intelligence and Wit, are very attractive to me.
There's nothing sexier than a guy that's intelligent and can talk with you about politics, books etc. it's rare to find people my age, male or female, that can carry on a conversation like that. I'm not attracted to people that don't seem to care about intellect or don't have any interest the world around them.
Intelligent women are a huge turn-on for me. It's a key part of the total package I need to be attracted to them. If they start to drone on, however, I lose interest quickly.
What's the point of having a gorgeous partner if they're an airhead? Where's the conversation? If your with some purely for looks then you just want a trophy not a relationship.
Dangerous topic here because intelligence does not necessarily translate into a fun personality. Definitely helps no doubt, but it is important how that intelligence is communicate with others in relationships. Make sense??
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intelligence is my main fetish. coupled with an active libido, it translates to exciting varied sex with plenty of stimulation afterwards. luv the nerd gurls....
Intelligence can be very sexy but it's governed by the personality that goes with it.
It's when you discover through conversation that this subtle person is very intelligent, well travelled, open minded, has a great sense of humour and is so confident in their own skin they don't need to brag, advertise it or want to hold centre stage within their group of peers
Intelligence is very sexy because we can have a conversation that will last and not get old. Also, you can learn from them. I love having a intelligent people around me.
I find intelligence to be extremely important. I think the more knowledge you have the more easily you can carry an interesting conversation. I'm a nerd of epic proportions so I love using big words, talking about dorky things and so on...
Also you know how to ask really good questions that get said person to open up so you can know them better.
All in all, brains are hot. End of story. :P
Yes, a woman might be hot, but if she honestly can't hold a conversation I tend to loose interest pretty quickly. My friends think I'm crazy, but thats just how I am.
Although the way my mind is wired, I tend to remember a very wide range of things, so I'm pretty dorky myself.
I lik girlz who have been to skool. It smartens them up and then there funner to talk to. And its gooder when they have big titties to. Call me.
Intelligence is always attractive, it adds a whole new dimension to any relationship.
Because intelligent often means awkward, and awkward is endearing. Also, dumb is so unattractive.
I'm one of those women who can actually be intimidated by a man with a very deep education. He can flaunt his intelligence at his own peril but I still prefer normal conversations. I am attracted to intelligence only if it was used in the 'RIGHT' way - cool, humble, fun and interesting. Not in a quizzical boring attempt to stimulate a supposed to be simple conversation. A guy can use his intelligence to surprise me with off-the-wall, fun ideas, fantasies and unexpected things to really attract and charm. In the end formal education or intelligence is only attractive if it’s used in an interesting way. If he is an expert in an area that’s cool, and he presents it from an “I know a lot about this, let me show you” perspective, and not an “I’m so smart and you’re not” angle then he got my attention 100%.
To be perfectly honest I don't think intelligence is attractive per se. For me it adds to and prolongs the attraction. I find stupidity a much bigger turn off than a lack of intelligence, somebody that can't think rather than someone who hasn't had a great education. Intellience can enhance the physical attraction but stupidity destroys it. It's strange because when I was younger I hid mine, I thought on the gay scene, it would put guys off. Not nowadays but then, it probably would.
It is suppose to be the pheromones that attract us to each other, but since we are ruining it all with scents we spray etc, it will be the Intellect that allows one to find attractiveness in another. if it is just pure physical, then the connection is severed before the time together has even began.
I enjoy being with someone who can carry on a fairly intelligent conversation (I love talking) and who shares some interests with me (some of my interests, like philosophy and theology, are fairly intellectual/academic) so I think it's natural that I gravitate towards partners who are intelligent on some level. Physical attraction will only carry you so far. A connection on a social or intellectual level is part of what will carry you farther.
Actually, I am ONLY attracted to men who are intelligent, successful, well presented, and courteous. The ability of a man to hold my attention, peak my interest and stimulate my mind is what makes me interested in being with him.
Men with their mind emenating from their penis bore and repulse me.
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