For me, there is a host of things I need to find in my significant other's arms. Comfort is one of the very top emotions I look to feel. If he cannot comfort me, it really isn't a relationship with any meaning or lasting ability.
When you think alike and of the same thing, and answer a question before asked....................your bonded...............tighter than a tick on a teddy bear
absolutely important! i need to feel that his arms are a safe haven when i need to escape all of the turmoil in the world. being in his arms just strengthens our bond.
As a guy I'm not sure "comfort" is the word but there is a sense of being in the right place and time...like you belong together...definitely an underrated characteristic of a good relationship...
Extremely important. So important in fact, that if I can't feel that with him, the relationship will be doomed. I want to feel a sanctuary in his arms, a safe haven away from everything else, a lovely escape. Intimacy, connection, comfort.
~*~*~* Only the one that hurts you can make you feel better ~*~*~*
~*~*~* Only the one that inflicts pain can take it away~*~*~*
Huge for me! I missed it so much when my first husband passed away. I think it is a built in necessity for me. Not sure if that is the same for everyone else or not!
I absolutely love the comfort I find in a lover's arms. I couldn't be with someone that didn't cherish that. In particular, that magical, not-quite-real feeling after you've had sex and are lying entangled together, listening to the gentle rhythms of each other's heartbeats. Maybe talking softly. Maybe dozing. Maybe tracing imaginary alphabets on each other's skin with your fingertips. Perhaps the single most perfect feeling in the world.
That got destroyed many years ago. Now my comfort is hugging a special body pillow that I affectionately have named after a dear "computer" friend and looking at her pic. She is my FRIEND and we are long past any "sexual" relationship. So sad, but so true.
Call me a silly romantic, but it is very important to me. The trust and intimacy is essential. Just listening to your lover's breath can be the best feeling in the world.
Maybe this is the litmus test. If you feel best in their arms, maybe they're the one...
It's such an important part of a relationship...I absolutely crave the comfort of strong arms around me when I'm upset or feeling low. Don't have that type of comfort though, so I pat myself on the shoulder and say, "There there." (shrugs)
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Quote by sundancer2004 When you think alike and of the same thing, and answer a question before asked....................your bonded...............tighter than a tick on a teddy bear
I could not agree more, being someone's Teddybear, but more seriously what Dani and Wonderway said above too is so vital: When we feel loved by someone we rush to their arms, when we seek compassion in someone, it is their arms we run to, when we feel like we are one with someone, the hugging arms, cuddling arms and chest/bosom,etc. It is vital as Dani said.
Quote by Smoocher That got destroyed many years ago. Now my comfort is hugging a special body pillow that I affectionately have named after a dear "computer" friend and looking at her pic. She is my FRIEND and we are long past any "sexual" relationship. So sad, but so true.
Your profile says you are married. if so, and just and educated guess on my part, maybe holding her in the spooning position and softly recalling into her ear a very special romantic movement you both enjoyed from the past, may turn a slight wisp of smoke into embers. Which, with a little more enticement may turn into a nice hot flame.
Now as for me holding is very important. Maybe a little more so after a BDSM scene. I'm lucky that Hubbie and all of my long time lovers enjoy the after glow in each other's arms. Oddly enough about half of the strangers Hubbie offers me to at the swing club likes to cuddle in the after glow. This is of their doing not mine. I enjoy it though. It adds a little romance to what started out as just horny lust filled desire.
Quote by BethanyFrasier Not just my significant other, but my closest friends as well. I have some dear friends who have always been there for me no matter what.
I can CERTAINLY relate to this, but more on a "computer" level than in real life...especially 2 - 3 here on LUSH.
